After surgery blues anyone?

I just wanted to know if anyone else's emotions are on their sleves? Lately I have been feeling a bit depressed and just so emotional. Crying a a drop of a dime, feeling a bit lonely, stressing if I am doing everything right, trying to get in all my protein, waiting for my surgeon to clear me to start the gym, contemplating on going back to work ( I am an Accounting Temp), contemplating on going back to school, questioning my parenting skills, questioning any of my husbands emotion,questions, actions = is it just me? Jo

Hi Jo, I haven't felt depressed... yet... but do feel a little more sensitive than usual. Depression was something everyone at my surgeon's office talked about. They said it was VERY common to feel depressed a few weeks out of surgery. A few friends that have had the surgery said they also went through it and warned me about it... It is NOT just you. The good news is, it passes. I guess it's one way your body handles all the stress of the surgery and not getting all the food it is used to. Hang in there, though, because they all say you move through that stage. My happy thoughts will be with you! Becca

Thanks Becca, I am sure my DH is really thinking about admitting me - lol= my doctor told me that our emotions would begin to start a rollercoaster ride- but jeesh he didnt say all of them. I know that I have to take it day by day - thanks again - Jo

I can't say that I am depresed, but I do feel a sense of loss. We have lost food as a support..it was my best friend and now its gone. I sometimes feel like I am grieving for it. I have lost a nice amount of weight, but lets be real, I'm still fat. so, I'm fat and I'm not eating what I'd like to. That su*ks! LOL! I also feel like my hormones are all over the place..my periods are different..and all the estrogen that is stored in fat (a substancial amount) is slowly being released. That's gotta make us women all a little emotional. Hang in there! As everyone says..it will pass. In a few months we will be drastically thinner and happier. Sunny

I would not say depressed, but it is very hard for me to not turn to food to solve my problems. I was VERY emotional at about 2 weeks out and now (i am 4 weeks out) i am VERY placent. Like not much is effecting me either good or bad, like I am just there. I have considered talking to a pychologist. I figure it wont hurt. If you ever need to "talk" to someone, you can email me through my profile. Hope you feel better soon. Mary

thanks everyone - i guess in the back of my mind I actually feel as if I do not deserve this - Ive spent all of my 28 yrs helping and doing so much for everyone else that its hard for this to sink in that I actually took a stand for myself - were as everything in my life has to revolve around me now. Like I truly feel bad about the rollercoaster ride that my husband is now facing- just like all of a sudden I question everything and then I know it bad to behave like this - okay now I'm rambling on now - Again thanks everyone,- Jo

Hi Jo, I had my surgery 1 day after yours. My emotions are really messed up too. I think that with us having major surgery and having to give up everything that we love to eat and drink. Also we are being taught how to eat and drink again. We have to deal with eating too fast, or drinking too much. Food getting stuck. Cold versus hot beverages. It's very hard sometimes to adjust. I have never been able to follow a diet or change of eating habits. I always faultered. I am going to start eating regular food this Thursday and I am scared to death of failure. My husband loves to eat and eat that he does all the wrong foods. He isn't about to change. So I know where you are coming from. You are going to be okay. We have to stick together and we will get through this. Take care and keep your chin up! Miriam

I did feel a little blue at times. It was a rollercoaster for me, I felt good I felt sad ect. I think the pain meds had something to do with it but also the shock to the body. Of course the drastic change in the lifestyle should also be considered. And as others said all this with out my main support (food) yes I quess I felt a little blue. It's better now Madeline

I am 7 wks post op. This weekend is the first time my grandkids have been to the house to eat dinner since my surgery. It was hard to cook food I can not eat. I selected foods they liked which were not particularly my favorites, but it was still hard. I became very cranky while cooking, and even yelled at my husband when he came into help... what I needed help with was my attitude ; not setting the table etc. I feel so DIFFERENT from everyone else... for Pete sake I ate less that day than each person at that meal... it is so weird. I have found one thing at a fast food place I can eat and actually like, it is the broiled chicken from a sandwich at Burger King. They even charged $1 less for no bun or toppings, just the chicken. It was very flavorful and moist, with enough left over to eat twice more. I am a cheap date now. I wonder how much money I have saved in the last 7 weeks??? Also, at my favorite restaurant I had refried beans with salsa and took most of it home, but I was surprised being there didn't bother me. I was just glad I could still go there and enjoy something. Yea, I am a $3 or less date now.... HA HA!!

I had complications in surgery and therefore had a 10 day hospital stay. Lots of drugs. It takes a long time to get those out of your system. I cried for days (about nothing). I would get up in the morning - take a shower - get dressed AND THEN CRY. I found that walking outside in the FRESH air really helped to get the drugs out of my system. Good luck on your journey and it will get better. DJ