Emotions are on a roll!!!!

Okay everyone! I am eight days post-op and today could not turn off the waterworks! I felt like the weight of the world was on my shoulders and that life sucked and I couldn't eat and it was just a bummer day! I know we all have days like this after surgery. The whole world is eating and the friggin TV has food commercials. I know it will all get better and I am down fourteen pounds after surgery, so I guess this will all come out better in the wash, but it was an emotionally charged day! Any advice???

yeh guys any advice? i'm going thru the same thing. i'm going nuts here to. i had my surgery a day before you terry and i can't wait to sink my teeth into something solid. right now i'm craving peter piper pizza!! ahhh!!

Hello: Well, you came to the right place. This is what we all are here for. This road that we are on is going to have its ups and downs and I am sure that in the near future you will have more ups then downs. It is hard adjusting to this new lifestyle but each day its going to get better and better. Maybe instead of watching tv, occupy yourself by doing some small exercises. Turn on the radio and start doing leg lifts to the music or if you have weights, water bottles or small soup cans do some arm lifts to take your mind off tv (pretend you are on your own exercise show). Not only will this get your mind off tv but it will give you some energy and help your body tone and heal. I know that when I was home my first week all I did was watch the food network and all the cooking shows. I love to cook. Eventually, I decided to make my family a large meal just to get it out of my system and I made a few things that I could eat like a pot of soup and then I told them to take the food away. It helped to know that I can still do the things that I did prior to surgery like cooking a large meal but now I can control myself and know that I don't have to eat everything that I can see. So my advice to you would be to find something that you enjoy doing and do it and hopefully it will get your mind off of everything else that is going on around you. Also, know that the feeling that you are having is normal and this too shall pass. In due time, you will be looking back at the beginning and looking in the mirror at the new you. Keep up the good work and know that you are on the right track. JaNae

Janae is so correct, I am 3 weeks out and the tv was killing me.. I wasnt hungry but everything looked so good and I started on a crying roll and a huge pity me jig.. But my wonderful hubby, took me by the hand walked me to the mirror and started pointing out all the changes that were going on in my body, he then reminded me that this is a work in progress and every day would be better! So No tv for me well for now, I am reading walking, sipping and when I get down I remember back to how hard it was for me to get where I am today... Im not saying that I will never get bummed again, but if I do I know that it will pass.... (((HUGS))) it will get better! Dori

Hang in there! I just learned on another board that depression can be a side-effect of anesthesia. Has anyone else heard this? In my first few days post-op I could barely keep 4-8 oz down for the whole day and suddenly had tremendous, overwhelming desire for a Big Mac of all things. I also had a dream that I came down to the kitchen in the middle of the night and ate a left-over pizza crust and it made my stomach feel better and then I was able to eat and drink normally . Our minds are sure scary places!! I don't know if it would help you but I've started bring a nice cup of hot tea with me when I watch TV in the evening as that is when the commercials really get to me. Hope it helps. Kim

I totally understand. I did it before xmas.......Im the President of my twins club and at 1 week I had to cook ziti and go to our Xmas Party. Then there was Xmas eve. I always have family over and cook and then Xmas a day long of watching people eat cookies and everything in site. And then my husband surprised us and took us to the Poconos between xmas and New Years. We went out to eat alot and I got to try to eat 2 teaspoons of soup or eggs and then watch them eat these amazing meals. I didnt want anything to change just because I cant eat. But it was hard. I cant eat alot maybe 3 to 4 baby spoonfuls. I use a baby spoon cause I kept getting pains in my chest. Im very fustrated. I am down 29lbs but I miss food. I though I could eat more by now. Joy

Terry, I too feel very emotional, I had my surgery 12/14, i find my emotions....are quite the extreme. Never realized how many food commercials are advertised... I am now on the puree stage of the program, not as bad as that first week. I am hungry though, which I was surprised at. I have joined the local support group. Found it very helpful!!! Just wanted to drop in and tell you that you are not alone!!!! We will all get through this and we will be stronger & healthier Take care of yourself!!! Denise

Hello everyone, I am just reading this today which is a little late but I thought that I was just CRAZY. I had my surgery on 12/13/05 and Xmas was soooo hare. My family was here with me and my mom cooked it all. She did ask me if I wanted her to not cook much but I knew this was something that I had to deal with so, I told her to act as if I never had the surgery. Do you know that on Xmas day when it was time for dinner I felt so depressed so I stayed in my room and cried like a baby. I dont regret anything, I still know that there will be some bumpy days and they are better now but I initially did not think that it would be as difficult. This is not only a physical change but a mental change as well and I believe that the mental part of this is almost just as hard as the physical

Dear Erica, Had some post-op complications. I had a infection under my port which required a big needle. I can't say more. It seems that the world is full of people eating and suddenly I am not! I agree with you that this is more mental than physical in every way! Thanks for the help! Terry