I'm having a pity party

I have no right to be writing this post. My surgery was 12/7 and I am doing extremely well. However, it seems it is the time for tears, over what? who knows. They just keep coming. I am feeling good for being 3 weeks out, but grumbling, because I am tired of having to get all of that protein in and putting it through a tube in order to get it all. I am sorry to complain, but maybe I will feel better after all is said and done. Any one in this time frame feeling the same. Thanks for listening. Carol

Carol, I have been extremely emotional since my surgery (12/14). Sometimes it is pure giddiness and sometimes tears. It rarely seems appropriate for the situation. Pamper yourself some. Of course, not with food like the old days. Do something for you. Get a manicure or pedicure, see a movie, buy some new earrings, a new CD, check out a nice book from the library. Keep yourself distracted from the things that make you cry. Hugs, Vicky

Thanks, Vicky. Carol

I know the feeling! I've had a rough time with emotions lately too. I've always been an emotional eater and I can't do that anymore, so I guess I just have to find other ways to comfort myself. I like the advice that Vicky gave... we need to pamper ourselves! I think it's really hard to get in all the liquid and protein - it's more like work! I'm sure that part gets easier over time. Well, I know it does, cuz my husband is 20 months post-op and he does fine. He won't do protein supplements now because he thinks he gets enough in his food, so he has it really easy! Anyway, hang in there... and cry if you need to. It's good to have the release sometimes. I think walking helps me. I'm actually looking forward to when I can start real exercise. (Did I just say that? hehehe) Doreen lap rny 12/5

Welcome to the party. Yes, I am going through days of tears. Not only that but seems like nothing my husband trys to do is good enough for me. I should be happy he is trying, but, I am there to tell him he is not loading the clothes right, not putting in correct amount of soap, not setting the controls right for the type of laundry. Won't even begin to tell how I critize his cooking for himself. Then, I tell him to bring home pure apple juice, and he brings home fruit punch. I have to patience. Can't be hormones, I'm 61. Anyway, I think it is a very emotional and healing time for us. I think I am getting better daily, only cried once today out of frustration. Hope you are getting better every day. Charla

Hi ladies, Remember you are releasing a bunch of stored estrogen. That can make you cry for no reason! Hang in there. Teresa

Dear, sweet Carol, that is what we are here for, to help one another right! I am 7 weeks post-op now and I can tell you about 5 days ago was the first I really started feeling good! I read all the posts about how great everyone feels and wonder why I don't feel the same...we are all different (thank goodness the Lord made us all so special huh)... I can tell you, I even felt like crying every time I looked down at the "boo boo's" left behind on my belly! and every time one of them opened up and I had to put a bandaid on again, I felt like I took two steps back... some days I wondered if I did the right thing...gulping down all this protein...and getting on the scale (yep, I am one of those people who get on it every morning...I can't follow the rules about weighing only once a week!) only to find I haven't dropped a pound in several days, and all I have been doing is drinking protein and water...how could I NOT lose weight...but, then ALL OF A SUDDEN, BAM...3 lbs, are gone! down the toilet...yeah!!! SOMEHOW, it is all worth it....AS WE GET FURTHER OUT AND FEEL BETTER!!!!! Our bodies adjust, hormones do what they are supposed to do, our endorphines kickin...the sunshines...and all is well again!!!! Keep your chin up girl!!!!! Let the tears come... MAYBE THEY HAVE CALORIES IN THEM...WHO KNOWS....lol....... We're all in this together!!!!!!!!! KareBear

Hi, sure you have a right! I have had plenty of frustration and tears since my surgery 12/12. Some explainable like being sick and tired of drinking fluids, and some not explainable, just a sudden crying jag or funk. We took the hard way, the brave way. These things help me: think about how far you have come since the day after surgery, remember that it will keep getting better each day, be easy on yourself, some tears are normal and expected, look at the before and after pics for inspiration. Sometimes a bit of wallowing is just plain deserved, I think. Cuddle up on the couch and be good to yourself, it will pass. Just my 2 cents. hang in there, you're not alone! kelly

Hi Carol, I just wanted to let you know I had my surgery Dec. 7th also. I wanted to share with you that I am also very depressed about not being able to enjoy food. I actually had a lot of complications with my bypass surgery ( Im only 25) and almost passed away. I received 16 bags of blood transfued. I guess what Im trying to tell you is things could be sooo much worse. I am very thankful for all the people out there like yourself that have come out of this surgery in good health. I find myself crying also all the time...its so frustrating. But Carol, maybe one day we will be able to say "this was all worth it". Right?? Take care Carol! Be strong!

Carol, Thanks for posting this...I thought I was losing my mind. I feel so broken since my surgery. I can't stand having to depend on others for the little things in life. It's driving me crazy and I cry at some of the strangest times. Anyhow, I'm reassured that this will pass. Best wishes, Maria