I don't want to do this anymore.

Let me first say that having WLS has been the most amazing thing to ever happen to me in my life, newbies or pre-op. Please do not be discourage by what I am about to say. I must first say I was blessed to have a great surgeon and at least ONE coworker turned good friend that supported me along the way as I try to reach my goal. Right now I am stuck at 90lbs loss in 6 months. I work out a lot and lift weights and as I have been told many times that may be why I haven't hit 100lbs lost eventhough most people look at me and think I have. Hell I wish! While my health has improved greatly and I am appreciative everyday that I can walk up my stair without pain. My skin doesn't break out at night anymore, I don't have high blood pressure anymore, I can sleep at night finally. I am still not happy. The past few weeks have been a challenge for me. I have had a lot of outside factors interfering with my life. The biggest issue for me to be honest is that I am 24, I am single, no friends, no boyfriend, no nothing. I work, I workout, I go to school, I come home. I know this is so corny, but I am really at my witts end with traveling life on "Single Road" I really don't know what I am trying to say or what I mean, but I will say this, if you have someone in your life that is a great support system and truly loves and cares about you and is NOT hurting you in shape form or fashion. Hold on tight, you have been blessed with a gift that many people wish they had. Have a great day.

Hi, there. I will be praying God will send some great people into your life! Are you involved in a support group? That's a great way to make friends! Also, I have made some of my best friends at my church. I'm not sure what your beliefs are, but most churches have singles groups. In addition to their weekly meetings, they have scheduled outings and you just might meet that special person. I'm sorry you are feeling so low and I will keep you in my thoughts. Congratulations on your weight loss. Sherry

TY, you are very sweet! I am in a support group, me and the group leader are in the same boat actually, both in our early 20's and suffering the same battle of loneliness. They are a great group of ladies, but most of them are married with children. The churches that I have been to, I haven't exactly had the best experience, but I digress. All I honestly can do I guess if focusing trying to get to my goal weight, I was so bored this weekend I started my WLS scrapbook, go figure, but at least it gave me the chance to look at the positives in my life.

Angel, Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in your thinking. About this surgery I did not want to be involved in a relationship because i knew that I would pick the wrong man or let the wrong man pick me because of how I viewed myself. I am now smaller than I have been in 20 years. i loved me before but I did not like me. Now I love me like me so much more. I now desire the company of a GOOD man and not just a friend with benefits. I care about myself and I want someone to care about me and I want to care about also. I do not know how old you are but I am old enough to know that a good single man is not going to be very easy to find. I am however going to be on the lookout. I have my friends and neighbors looking too. Put the word out that you are ready for a good relationship. The man for you will accept you for where you are in your journey right now. We will get better as time goes on but I need someone who can accept me now and later. He is out there looking for me just like I am looking for him and when it is right we will find each other. In the mean time I am going to have fun searching. I hope that you decide to search too. By the way, a black woman in a small white town makes my search just a little bit more difficult but I'm in to win it. Yolanda

"By the way, a black woman in a small white town makes my search just a little bit more difficult" I am so feeling you on this, I live in a predominantly "white" area of town. The "black" side of town is no where near me, and to be honest, I know the type of relationship and man that I looking for isn't over there, but I will leave that alone. Trust me my family, I wouldn't trust there judgement on anything, especially not a s/o. I really don't have any friends, so that is a dead in myself, I almost to the point of just closing that chapter in my life, it seems hopeless, but I am glad you are positive and I hope that you find that special someone, you deserve it.

Angel, We ALL deserve to have a special person in our lives. God never meant for us to be alone. He made us interdependent and most of all dependent on him. It is time for you to make some friends. Get out of the house! Go to church, go workout at the Y or just go to the grocery store. A friendship starts with "Hello". I moved to my small town 3 years ago and I loved to be alone before I moved here. I was determined not to get to know anyone. I thought that I did not need anyone nor did I want anyone in my life. Well after 3 years of living here, I am never at home. I am always invovled in something. I am a single parent which helps in the socialization area but it makes it harder in the dating area. I am involved in my church groups, my sons' school and in my neighborhood. I met people everyday and you will too. You can't give up! Love and friendship come in all colors having you thought about dating a man who is not black? The thought never occured to me before moving to Sheboygan but now I do not care. I care about how the man treats me and my son. I would prefer the man to be some color other than polk-a-dot or stripe but other than that I am willing to try. Life is too short to make a decision to live it alone and lonely. We need to have good times here on this earth with other good people. What about e-harmony? Have you thought about it? Email me, we can talk! Yolanda

I wonder if those dateing services are any good..such as Harmony.com? Just a thought. My husband and I were talking about my sister this morning on how unlucky she is when it comes to finding a good man..She lives in a very small town with slim pickin's..I thought I might mention it to her..Maybe someone can give us some good reviews on some dateing services??????????..

Hi Chocolate angel, Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. Check your email, I just sent you a long message. JaNae

Just want you to know I am thinking about you. Email me if you like

Here's a link to the main msg board with some interesting posts about EHarmony.com..it seems to work for several people..If I were single, that would be the way I would go..at least the dates would have mu*****ommon with you..seems like.. http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/amos/action,replies/board_id,4856/topic_id,3046821/cat_i d,4456/a,messageboard/