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Topic: RE: Need a family hug
Hi Donna,
Your in my thoughts and prayers sweetie.
(((((((((hugs Donna))))))))))
Diana
Topic: RE: Need a family hug
Thank you Mary,
You make me cry as I write this as I feel so alone right now.
Hugs Donna

Topic: RE: Need a family hug
{{{{hugs}}}} Donna, it takes a lot of courage to admit your eating issues. I know I haven't been posting much here, but I am always here if you need somebody to talk to, feel free to email me anytime. If you can find a professional to speak with who understands what we have been through - that would be great. We didn't get to the place where we needed surgery overnight. And while it seems like the weight comes off almost overnight, it is a never ending head battle for us. Again, please feel free to reach out anytime.
{{{{hugs}}}}
Mary
Topic: RE: Need a family hug
Thanks Jean,
I'm just so lost right now and like tonight I refused to eat dinner and I know it's not healthy but I'm NOT hungery and if I eat I'll throw it up. It's awful and NOBODY but people that suffer from this really understand what we deal with on a daily bases.
Hugs Donna

Topic: RE: Need a family hug
Donna,
The "head issues" do not go away overnight when having this surgery. They may go on the backburner, but they don't just disappear. I too, have had some food issues reappear. Things I thought were all behind me now. Things I thought I walked away from when I laid down on that operating table.
Sometimes, part of the problem with this surgery is that the weight drops so rapidly and the brain just does not have time to catch up. I mean, we did not gain 100 pounds in six months, did we? Why would we think that losing 100 pounds in six months would not throw us for a loop? Plus the rigors of this new way of eating are pretty strenuous in the beginning. They let up over time, but it is still a radical new way of living.
I don't know you at all. But I know myself. And I know that the gossip in my head damages me, and I bet your gossip in your head hurts you. It is not going to disappear if you get a job. Oh, those little ideas might quiet down, just like they did in these last couple years of post op living. But they too will resurface. I think you should consider your doctor's suggestion and seek some mental health treatment for this. I think ALL post ops need some post op counseling. Obviously we all had food problems or we would not have needed a re-routing of our digestive tracks in order to STOP the craziness, right? To me, the psych stuff should come AFTER surgery, not before.
I'm glad you had the courage to write to the group and share this pain. That is a healthy step in the right direction. Now, get the help you need so you can put this all behind you and be happy with the new YOU. You are worth it, Donna.
jean
Topic: Need a family hug
This is not easy for me to admit. Please let me explain.
I have been having a lot of eating issues for a while now. Throwing up and not eating. I have not been feeling well and have been very depressed lately. I blame it ALL the time on over eating.
I finally broke down and called my surgeon. The night before I was to see my Surgeon I wrote a long letter about what has been going on with my health and mental state. My mental state is so screwed up I'm forgetting things so I figured it was easy to put down on paper what's happening with me plus I was not sure how to express myself to my surgeon who is a wonderful man that gave me back my health and I'm now destroying it
My surgeon walked into the room and we talked. He said Donna I want you to see a psychologist. My heart sunk with pain
He went on to tell me. Sadly your suffering and dealing with being Anorexic and you must stop this purging and not eating.
I was anorexic in my younger days but never felt it would return. I thought that was for younger females only and was behind me.
My husband feels I need a job and it will go away on it's own.
I have a lot of healing a head of me, sigh.
Donna


Topic: RE: Hello everyone ..It is so hott here in Arizona..
Hi everyone... I have been gone a long time... But I have not forgotten you...
when I saw ron's post tonight I wanted to add my loss also
lets see 2135 + 174 = 2309! Yeah.... Who's next
BON
BON
314/172/147 BY CHRISTMAS IS GOAL


Topic: RE: I Feel Like a Failure
Jamie,
I had my surgery at the same time you did and I too have gained. I quit losing about 8 months ago and have gained 14 lbs. I never even made it below 200, currently at 220 (up from my low of 206). I think some people just have a longer 'honeymoon' period than others. As with most things in life, not all people respond the same to the surgery. My cousin said her 'honeymoon' period lasted 5 years, but she has now gained about 40 lbs back. From what I read, most people gain back 20% of the weight they lose. Sound like you have had a hard time, with the life-threatening hernia surgery and you marriage. I think you should cut yourself some slack and realize that you have faced some trauma that most of the posters on this board have not. I, like you, quit posting because I too felt like a failure. I even quit reading the posts for a while because it was just a painful reminder that I was not where I wanted to be. I try to console myself with the thought that if I had not had the surgery and been 'off' my diet for 8 months I know I would have already gained 60 lbs instead of 14. And I do believe that is true. That is the main advantage of having the surgery and was my reason for having it. I have lost 100 lbs several times in my life and gained it all back plus some. I really feel like the surgery will keep me from gaining it all back. Of course, I still want to lose 40 or 50 more lbs and I really believe we can do it!
Keep the faith
Gail
Topic: RE: Constipation Problem!
Well someone on this messge board suggested Smooth Move tea, that is found at GNC vitamin stores. Well I took it and it works like a charm! A cup at night with a litlle honey and by morning I am good to go! Try it out and aybe it will work for you as well.
Karen
Topic: RE: Been Away... Been Gone Too Long!
Hi Vera
I got up to 160lbs and am now down again to around 154lbs. I bounce and when I bounce up I stop eating which is not good. I go see my surgeon on Monday for a check up and talk about my eating habits.
I had to give up my night job due to lack of sleep/water and food. I'm now enjoying the summer staying home and taking care of my husband.
Donna
