Change of life??

I'm only sweet 45 years old but I'm noticing in the passed couple of weeks that I'm having mood swings. Am I to young to start the change of life or is the WLS causing the swings What ever it is I don't like it. Today I'm so down and feeling depressed and have been laying in bed off and on all day. Then I find I let EVERYTHING get on my last nerve. Little things that I never bothered me before. Like my mother in-law is getting on my last nerve and I don't dislike her but I was not nice to hear by email last night "sent a sweet but nasty email gram" I have to take into account she is 80 years old but I still think she does things to stab at me as she is still pretty sharp up stairs in the brain deparment. I wrote her a check for christmas and she told my husband she lost the check so Ron gave her cash instead of the check and she told my husband she would not cash the check if she found the check and suddenly I have a check bouncing and come to find out she cashed the check afte all. Boy was I pissed I adjusted my checking account book so it showed I had that money back into my account and for her to ca**** really upset me. Next year she'll get a gift card and that's it!! Was I wrong for getting so upset with her? My girlfriend said she was wrong for cashing the check after recieving money from her son. I never was close to my mother in-law but after I had my WLS I thought she would accept me back into her life as I lost so much weight but she never says ANYTHING to me about me weight loss Never tells me I'm looking good She always downed fat people and I figured that's why she did not like me as I was obese but I have to be honest with myself. I took her son away and he was her support so I don't think she'll ever except me into her life. My point here is that I NEVER let my mother in-law get under my skin. I would say to HELL WITH HER and now I'm letting her crawl under my skin. Maybe it's because she has an email account now. I'm going to delete her off my list right now. On good note, I did call my husband at work to hear his sweet voice and tell him I love him Donna climbing down off her venting chair

(((Donna))) MIL's can be a pain in the @$$ for sure... That was definitely wrong of her to turn around and cash that check after he gave her the money... You have every right to be mad hon............... As for how you are feeling emotionally, I have heard from my gyno doc that women can start going into the change of life as early as their 30s... The one thing I notice in my own demeanor is that I am really snippy around my time and all during it too for the most part... Hormones have really changed with me since surgery... I get annoyed by people much more easily than I used to... I am also much more verbal and say what I think... So it could definitely have a lot to do with WLS! I am beginning to think so anyhow... I wonder if there are also others who are going thru these same things too Anyhow I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in how you feel... Take care!! Chelle

Thank you my dear. I did not think I was wrong for being upset with her. I have washed my hands of this lady TOTALLY!! Donna

{{{Donna}}} You have every right to be totally pissed off with you mother in law cashing that check, I would have been and I don't know that I could have kept my mouth shut. Talk about rude, that really takes the cake. I know what you mean though, I've been going through some mood swings and emotions up and down lately and at times it just drives me crazy. Remember it's important to take care of yourself and do whatever you need to do to accomplish that. You are no good to anyone else if your no good to yourself. Take care sweet girl, Loni

Thank you Loni for your support. Your so sweet and cute Donna

You have a right to be upset. Perhaps her memory is not good. You should have your husband call her on the carpet about the check. It likely would have been best to NOT honour it, but I guess it's too late for that now. Don't let it get you down. Have your husband deal with it. Life is too short to allow such worries to haunt you. Sending you best wishes for a Happy New Year. Karen G

I decided not to let her get me down I'm not going to let this lady get the best of me. I have washed my hands of her as of last night. I won't be emailing her, calling her or going to visit her. I have tried to be a part of her life and she never cared for me from the get go so to HELL with her. If you knew this lady you would understand her. She did it on purpose as she knows her son won't say anything. Ron is easy going and let's a lot of things slide with his mother. I'm going to let it slide also but it won't happen anymore as I'm the one that sends her checks all the time You have a good day Karen Donna

OMG I can't beleive she did that! OOOOOOOOOOH What a coniving old woman. I'm sorry she did that. Did your hubby say ANYTHING ? Well a giftcard next year to for a $5 McDonalds card should help her not to lose $ again. Vent anytime we are here to listen. Kelly

My husband is sticking up for her but I'm letting it go girlfriend. I'm trying to plan a vacation to see my family member (sister) I need it Hugs Donna

Oh sweetie, There are just some people out there that are not nice. Your MIL must just be one of those people. I have three son's in law and I hope that I'm a good one. Well you could do one of three things (maybe more)!!! One, you could just keep quiet and eat it. (I don't know ANYONE that would do that) Seconed you could smile and tell her that you're happy she got the money, cause you know she won't last to much longer and she can spend it all before she shoves off!!! Third maybe, the best is to let Hubby handle it and also let him handle the bank the bills the credit company's calls!!!! As for her not being nice about your weight, she does notice and like I said before, some people are just not nice people. 40 years ago when Jim and I got married, his mom really didn't like me. I really knew she didn't like me when she offered him money for a divorce. Like I said, that was 40 years ago. She passed away many years ago and we are still together. Old and cranky and still madly in love. As for going thru menopose, anything is possible. Have you seen your Dr.? They can do a blood test to find out. Good luck..... You have every right to be pissed off. We all care about you.... ((((hugs)))) Judy