Do friends treat you differently

How come your friend don't try for WLS? She could be losing along with you right now I have always been the kind of person that sends nothing but good thoughts and vibes to others that are doing good for themselves. I NEVER put anyone down. My sister who is only 4'11" and weights around 170lbs is trying to lose weight on her own and is struggling with it right now. I would NEVER put her down. I give her encouragement. If my friend was trying to lose weight I would give her the same encouragment but she is not trying and that's fine with me but don't put me down. Husband and I went out for lunch today and I ate chicken wings and that was a big mistake as I got in the car. I make sure I carry Shop Rite grocery bags in the cars and ALWAYS check the bags for holes before using them They over cooked the wings and they where greasy so I won't be eating at that place anymore. Over cooked meats and grease don't settle well with my pouch. I even had some yogurt on Friday at work and half an hour later while in the dinning room with my residents I felt hot and thought I was going to pass out. Not sure if it was the sugar in the yogurt or maybe I did not eat enough for the day but that was a very scary exprience. Donna 338/188 -150

Hello Donna, My friend is totally against what she calls "going under the knife". My sister in law had wls before me and was in ICU for three weeks. I think that really scared her. I didn't tell my friend I had surgery until I was out of surgery. She probably would have tried to talk me out of it. She couldn't have though but I just didn't want to hear it. I wish she would have the surgery. Both of her parents were severly overweight and diabetics. I don't talk about my surgery because I don't want her to think I am bragging. When she is ready and asks I will talk to her all about it. I hate to hear that you got sick. I do well with chicken wings. I dip them in ranch so they are not so dry. I haven't dumped and I don't want to from what I hear. I love Kroger brand carbmaster yogurt. It has 12 proteins. You are doing so well. I can't wait to be in onederland. I love reading your posts. Diana 379/222/?

Oh Donna - I could write a book! Cause there are friends and then there are friends, you know what I mean? There was a lady who was actually somewhat older than me but whom I considered a real CLOSE friend. Her daughter is actually about my age, but significantly heavier than I started out (still is)...and when I told this woman I was having the surgery she got so mad that she quit talking to me for pretty much two months. Didn't even come see me in the hospital, or nothing. Now she eventually came back around but of course it isn't the same as it once was...and it never will be. On the other hand, I have another heavyset friend who has been very supportive of me, has seen my weight loss with the surgery and sense has been thinking about doing it herself. So this experience can definatly show you people's true sides. The thing to remember is that even though one person's apparent pulling back of friendship and support because of your surgery hurts, you must remember that the issue is theirs, not yours. Friends are supposed to be happy for you when something good happens in your life. If they aren't, I wouldn't go so far as to say they aren't your friends or don't care about you, because I always try to give people the benifit of the doubt in these cases. It's more likely that they have their own internal issues to work out...Maybe your friends are jealous or afraid, or in some sort of competition with you that *you didn't realize you were having! (Who's more attractive, who can loose weight the fastest, ect...) So they may find the weight loss threatening for some reason, and not everybody reacts well to that. So I'd say, give them time because time reveals everything. If they really care about you, eventually they will resolve the issue within themselves and truly be happy for you. If they don't, I hate to say it but I wouldn't worry about them at all...let them go. All the best, Vick B.