I'm lost and don't know where to find me

James - a big big hug from me. Now, a question. Have you been taking your B12? Laura

I know exactly what you are talking about. The same goes for me. I even get the BS from my kids that I am no fun and we don't do anything anymore. I feel that it is such a waste of time and energy going anywhere to eat. I don't eat enough to pay for even and I hate left overs they gross me out. I have lost 90 pounds and I say big deal all the time, because I feel so down in the dumps about everything. I hope as you do that this to shall pass and I will get over myself. I hope we find what we need to to get us out of the funk were in. We deserve to be healthy AND happy! I've got the healthy now come on HAPPY!!!! Tammy

I agree with the other posters who suggested talking with your PCP or some counselor about your mood changes. I've felt some changes myself, but not quite to the degree that you seem to be. When I notice that I'm in one of those funky periods, I've started asking myself if it is time to go talk to my doctor about it. He always checks with me during my regularly scheduled appointments to see if I'm staying on course. I have fallen off in my exercise because all of the stuff like the treadmill and other gym machinery were causing extreme hip pain. After 3 months of really laying low, only doing a weekly Pilates class, the pain is much reduced, but I feel like a real slug. I also noticed that you've gotten all female responses to your question. Have you thought of posting on the men's board? http://www.obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/amosforums/men/ Good luck in your quest for better times and my thoughts will be with you, sue O.

I think you better have your blood checked for any vitamin or mineral deficiencies, especially your B12. Call your surgeon or regular doctor and have them order some lab tests to make sure your getting all the vitamins you need. If that checks out okay, get some counseling or attend a support group meeting. Try to get yourself out and walk. Exercise really does help with the mental well-being too.