People pay attention to me!

What a strange time I had at the mall on Sunday. I was by myself, just browsing, and I began to notice that people were looking at me. As I walked by, they actually met my eyes. In the stores, salespeople smiled and said hello to me. I have spent so many years being totally anonymous in places like that. It is freaking me out. I knew there was prejudice out there, but I apparently was comfortable with it. I have lost 123 lbs and am extremely happy with my progress. I just didn't realize in how many ways my life would change. I am not so sure I am happy with this particular change. I wonder if I will get used to it. Terri

That is great Terri, What a wonderful feeling, isnt it... Brenda

Hi Terri It is nice that people are paying attention to you. But it gets my Butt that all people are not treated the same!! It should not matter of your heavy, skinny, average, pink, black, brown, yellow, have blue hair, tattoos, no hair, short, tall ETC... You know what I mean! I have noticed it as well. I try to smile at lots of people each time I'm out. It is so sad that here in America we still live with so much prejudice! I think the best thing to do is just set a good example. Especially notice the heavier people and smile at them, let them know others care!! Blessings Tonya

I agree! I have noticed that I actually got mad at people that didn't notice me before the surgery. I actually had men at work as me if I was new there, and start hitting on me! I also had the VP of operations start talking to me and made me his personal assistant, he didn't notice I was alive before the surgery! I no longer work at this place and am getting a fresh start where people won't be able to act differently because they weren't there. I don't want to go to work and get angry with people because of something that stupid! Keep your heads up ladies, we know we were beautiful before and we are beautiful now, unfortunately the world didn't notice it until now. Michelle

Terri, it was bound to happen to you and all of us who have made the decision to take back our lives and have this surgery. Sad commentary on how we have been invisible and now are apparent to all who see us. Such a sad truth of life. We can only control ourselves and if we can bring eye contact and smiles to others than so be it. Let us be in control and spread the joy of life to all we see, and hopefully we will SEE everyone and not have selective sight. We have been given a gift and I intend to use it in so many ways I never thougth of. I let people know that I had this surgery, many are surprised, but I have gotten only good comments and responses. Gee I was so fat for so long, eons really, and now at age 57 I am wearing size 18 slacks, have lost 98 lbs, and feel wonderful. Hurrah for us all. You are doing so well Terri I am proud of you, accept the change in you and let this change help you to squash the prejudice. Monica

Funny how people treat you differently after losing weight. I work retail and I see a lot of the same customers. I find some of these customers being rather friendly towards me since dropping all this weight but before could get me the time of day. Donna 338/193