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Hey Everybody, How are you all doing? I'm doing pretty good, just really tired. I have been off line for about a week due to us moving and not having our service, but I"m back. I have been so busy the last 3 weeks that I feel like I'm going crazy and I'm really hoping that things will slow/calm down soon. First we had family visiting right before we moved, so I felt like I couldn't pack anything while they were still here. So that meant 4 days before our move I was packing like a wild woman. Then we moved on Friday and Saturday and then we had Vacation Bible school at church starting on Monday and I was working that all week long while also trying to get the old house cleaned up and finished, I finally turned the keys over today, Praise to God. Now I've just got to get unpacked and it seems like a mess to me and it's driving me crazy, so starting Saturday morning I'll be unpacking like a crazy woman again. Please say a prayer for me. Well VBS was interesting. I just don't understand the way that some of these kids act. Someone please help me with a delimea that I'm having. My 3 year old daughter got a black eye today at VBS, by a little boy who was throwing a fit and out of control and he just started hitting everyone around him. No one bothered to tell me about it, I saw it when she came into the craft room and her eye was red and swollen. Finally one of the teen girls told me what had happened. I guess the thing that bothered me the most was that the adult leader didn't even know what had happened, she asked me during the final ceremony what happened to her. Ok here is my problem, the pastors wife said to me to that this is to be accepted that it could have happened while going to school and that the little boy who hit her needs to be there and not sent home. I'm sorry but I don't think that this would be accepted at any school even public school. Now I realize that not every child has a good home and doesn't always have positive role models but I really think that they need to be shown that this kind of behavior is not acceptable. Am I wrong? What do you all think? How would you all feel if your 3 yr. daughter came home with a black eye. They had problems like this all week long with some of the kids, it seems like there were alot of kid*****hing other kids. My husband is very protective of his little girl and doesn't want her to go back next year. I'm really hoping and praying that the pastors wife doesn't say anything to my husband like she said to me, because he will tell her just what he thinks. He's a school teacher and he has a zero tolerance for violence in his classroom and school. So it seems like I'm losing the same 1.5 lbs for the last 2 weeks. I think that with all of the stress that is going I'm just not losing right now and hopefully it will get better soon. I'm at 81 lbs lost and I'm really happy about that, but hopefully now that I'm done moving I can really get back on track. Well enough of my rambling, how are you all doing? Thank you all for listening to me and I've really missed you all. Take care, Loni

Well, I have to say there was a lot going on at your VBS today! I am a sunday school teacher and teach at VBS every year if possible. I have a good time and the kids have fun. It is a great way to reach a lot of children that are not usually exposed to Gods love. That is what we show them- God's love. Although no one wants thier child hurt in an environment like that, it does happen. The teacher should have been aware of the situation. It sounds to me that it is an uncontrolled environment wich is the teachers responsibility. She should be spoken to about keeping an eye on the kids. If the children are kept busy during the VBS and the adults are actually watching the children placed in thier hands, then these things don't happen. If they are started it would be stopped immediatly. I would hate to think that your daughter would be pulled away from her friends and having fun because of this situation. I would also hate to think of the other child being taken away from what could be the only oppertunity to see God's love this year. Also, did anyone bring this to the attention of the parent? We have set discipline policies in our VBS and an assisstant who walks around making sure no one has to be taken out of the classroom. We call the parent to come pick up the child. they are welcome to come back the next day but that day they need to go home. nine times out of ten the parent punishes the child because they don't want to be pulled away from thier day alone to get them. we don't see it again. The teachers also walk around with accident reports. every child with the slightest scratch gets one. I don't think I would ever compare VBS to a day in school. But some schools are very lenient with the kids. My nephew is one of them. He is a very wild kid and tips the kids in lunch lines and hits them for no reason. He throws pencils and steals from anyone he can. the list is too long to give. He is now 11 years old and his parents have been begging the school to help them get him into a special school but they won't. All they do is call home. they don't even call until the next day. He was even taken out of thehome when his mother called 911 because he was chasing her around the house with a knife. He was taken out for thier safety. He was then abused in the place they sent him to so his parents picked him up. The story is really long. He recently threatened a kid in school with "I am going to come to school with a gun and kill you". The NEXT day the school called her and told her about it. he only got detention for 2 weeks. He then threatened a kid with a knife. the school gave him detention for a month. His parents took him to a hospital to beg for help. They said that since he had a family member that was able to take him and the school says he is fit to go to school then they can not accept him. This is the 5 th time they have tried. They finally gave him to the other family member who thinks that nothing is wrong with him. They even have reports from psychologists saying he has to be medicated and there is something amiss in his brain scans. They only need the school to back her up. They will not. He is on medicine and sees a psychiatrist weekly. He has gone to 4 different schools. Finally this school is starting to see the problem and the teacher is aware and keeps an eye out for things now. SO as far as schools go with discipline- it all depends on the school and the teacher. I homeschool and hope to send my kids to school soon. I am an advocate of schools. But when I went to go check out the school this past year the kids were all sitting on desks, backwards in thier chairs, and doodling on papers while the teacher was talking. they were like that in just about every class I went to. I am hoping the older schools are better. You cannot change your child from classroom to classroom if you don't like the job your child's teacher is doing or if there is an unruly child in class. You also can't request a teacher in the beginning of the school year. YOu get whatever you get. I have some good friends who are teachers and would be happy for my kids to be in thier classes. I have seen them in action and know they care. unfortunalty we don't get the option of protecting our children all the time be it in school or VBS. I am sorry to keep going! I am sorry she got hurt in VBS. that is a sad situation that could have been avoided. I hope she enjoyed the rest of her VBS experience. I am glad to hear you are down some more! I wish i could say that! I am at a standstill. Up 2 pounds down 2 pounds. I am beginning to think my scale is broke! your sister in WLS Chandi 305/211/ ?

Hi Loni, Sorry to hear about your daughters black eye. Unfortunately, they stick around and remind us of things we don't like to remember. I know you all know about my son, and the medically diagnosed behavioral disorders he has, and as a parent of one of these kids who loses control, and sometimes does horrible things, I can only offer insight from the other side. I can tell you that I have been so embarrassed for some of the things he does, that sometimes I won't return to that situation. I wish I was rich and could afford to stay home with him 24/7, but unfortunately that is an impossibility for us. I have to work as a single parent to keep my family afloat. And while I know that there are alot of kids out there who are mean and hateful, and have never been given the love, support, and direction to grow up as good kids in society, some such as mine, have all of that plus alot extra, and still have difficulty functioning in some social situations. Oh, what I would do to be able to send my child to school/daycare everyday without worrying that when the phone rings, that he has had another *fit*, and that I am gonna have to leave work again to go pick him up. I am very stern and strict with my kids. I rarely 'give in' to them, or allow them to be spoiled. We have a pretty regimented day, but they also have their times for just being kids too. Know that those of us parents with kids like this, are hard at work trying to get our children to a point that they won't behave like this. It is just as hard for us to deal with the same situations, and probably even harder. As we not only have to deal with our kids and their problems on a day in and day out basis, but also the guilt of what they have done to others. When things are really bad for my son like they recently were when I had to have him hospitalized, I lived with a daily fear of what would happen next, and how long was it gonna be before some parent tried to take me and my child to court. Now, with all this said, I hope your daughters eye heals soon. And I hope your move went well. Moving is always such a pain. Try to keep in touch with us. We miss you here... And I love your new message board pic!!! You look so much younger... Keep up the great work! Susan

Susan, I'm so sorry I didn't mean to hurt your feelings in anyway at all I was just venting and not really thinking, please forgive me. I know that you try really hard with your son and you do a great job, we can all tell how hard you work. It was just a shock for me and I didn't know how to deal with it. Thank you for the compliment on the picture, it means alot to me. Take care, Loni

Oh Loni, you in no way what so ever hurt my feelings. I feel for you and your daughter... Was just giving an insight from the other side.... And I understand your need to vent... so please don't feel like you can't. Thats what we are all here for. I know I do my share of it from time to time as well. Susan

Loni, I am so glad to hear from you on this. It is not often that someone actually says something about the other side. I think that you being able to send him to school is a good thing. I do think that kids with behavioral problems need to be in an environment where they have to conjugate with other children in a controlled atmosphere. We can't protect our kids from the world forever! Thank you so much for sharing! Your sister in WLS, Chandi 305/212/?