Need Advice on Job

Good day my December family I need some advice and who better to ask then my WL family. If you all remember I went for my testing at the hospital a while back in hopes to get a new job. I got the results back by email last night which where not good They had two parts to the test and the first part I felt real confident in that I would pass it with flying colors. WRONG!! I did not get a high enough score. It was on a Teamwork Assessment test. Can you believe I did not get high enough on such an easy test. Maybe I felt to comfortable and that's why I failed? Anyway, I'm lucky in the fact that I can go back and test again which I plan on doing. I'm not going to give up so easily. Have anyone of you noticed your attitude and out look on life has changed since having WLS? Mine sure has and in a BIG way. My job is #1. I HATE MY JOB WITH A PASSION . I put in for a week off in July and they turned me down due to inventory so I put in for my two weeks of vacation in June and they turned me down because of inventory. They can't make up their minds when they want to do inventory. One gal who is my lead over all of us on the floor got snotty with me and told me. YOUR NOT GOING ANYWHERE so why do you need two weeks off? It's not her place to decide if I'm going anywhere or not. Then she lied to me as she told me they don't allow two weeks off in a role. That's a lie as many people go on vacation, get married and have honeymoons and are gone for two weeks. If I got to my boss and complain about this lady they'll just say that's her and her way, been there and done it before. I'm so angry I want to give them my two week notice and tell them to kiss where the sun don't shine but then on the other hand I'm wondering if I'm not jumping to the gun and will regret quitting so quickly. That's the down fall to working retail is there are certain times of the year that you just CAN'T have off. Now they are saying June is out but everyone else wants off in July so they'll tell some of us we can't take off in July. Can't have off in August as that's back to school shopping so where are you left to enjoy the summer. Another problem I have is that I stress eat when I get upset or worried about something. I'm finding myself nibbling through out the day, even at work and I know it's this job that's stressing me out. I feel if I let the job go I'll be in a much happier space in my life. It will give me more time to focus on getting this other job and moving on in life plus give me sometime to spend with family. I guess what I'm asking is do you think it's the change in my hormones talking? I just don't know Donna 338/219 -119

Hi Donna, Sorry to hear about your job giving you such trouble about taking a vacation. It sounds to me as though you may be ready for a new job somewhere else. Happiness in your job is very important. Go back to the hospital if you can re-take the test, and give it a try. Atleast then you can say to yourself...'I gave it my best shot'. Hospital are such great places to learn and get experience. And if you can find a hospital that needs Unit Secretaries, it is a great place to start. As far as my attitude changing since surgery, well, I can see myself becoming more assertive in some aspects, but not in my job area. I had to learn a long time ago to keep my mouth shut. There are some things about my job that I don't like, or agree with, but overall I love my job and had to weigh the good vs the bad, and decided that if I wanted to keep my job I better learn to keep my mouth shut about the things I didn't agree with. I don't think I ever had the hormonal changes that some folks have. Never had those issues before surgery either... Just Lucky I guess!!! Good Luck with you job hunt. Everything happens for a reason, we just don't always know what that reason is.... And the only other advice I can give is what my mother has said to me over and over when I start talking about a job change... It's always easier to get a new job when you have a job..... Try not to quit outright before you have found something else.. Susan Lap RNY 12-1-04 285-199-155 (-86)

I don't think it's hormones either but I have read where some say they get *****y. I'm not really *****y, more tired of the job. I can go back and take the test as many times as I want at the hospital. I never was good at taking tests, even when I was in school growing up I dreaded tests I'm smarter to stick with the job until I know for sure if I have another job lined up but it kind of messes up my summer plans, sigh. Donna

Sorry about your test results. Don't give up. Find a job that you can be satisfied with. In the meantime, pressure your boss to commit to your vacation request. Tell him/her that you need to firm up reservations and you absolutely MUST have a commitment from them. It is summer holidays, there is student help available to cover full-time vacation requests. I wouldn't accept anything less than an "OKAY" regarding your request. Make a stand for yourself. Karen G

Your dealing with retail and they call the shots. You don't like the rules go some where else. Donna

Donna, Keep trying, you'll get the job you want and need. Many years ago I decided I really sucked at working outside my home and hated working away from my kids. My kids (grown now) were always getting in trouble and arguments with each other when I was at work. My husband would call me at work and ask me to come home. It was really frustrating. The boss at work was verrrrry evil and between her and the wacko family.... it wasn't pretty!! The only thing I did really well was be a Mom. So that's what I did... Over the years, we've had over 250 foster kids. I loved every minute of it.... And we adopted 5 of our kids, which was wonderful and our blessings from God. If you want that job, go after it. You're in our prayers and hugs. Judy

I'm not giving up on the job at the hospital. If I have to I look into schooling closer to home and struggle through that if I must and pay for it myself. School never was easy for me from first grade on up but I made it through High school I'm really hard on myself at times and my mother used to tell me to STOP IT, you can do anything you want if you set your mind to it. Sadly my mother passed away so I don't have her here to kick me in the butt. The hospital told me I can test as many times as I want so I'll keep testing. It's a shame they don't give you any information on your tests. Like how many did I miss or a copy of my tests. You don't have the questions and answers on your test paper. It's those fill in the circle tests. I need a few days to think about what I want to do next, sigh. I had planned on my little niece coming up at the end of June to visit and I don't want to break her heart and that's what has me so angry with my job. If I ask my husband he'll tell me to hang in there with the job but he is not unhappy either. I don't make anything at this job. Only good thing about this job is the 401K. Donna 338/219 -119

Donna, I'm an RN in a large medical-surgical complex. I've hired dozens of people (from receptionists, CNA's and even physicians) and am familiar with some of the pre-employment testing. Perhaps I could help you prepare, somehow. These tests are about common sense thinking through solutions that are not simple nor perfect. There is usually no right answer, but instead, the "best" answer of the bunch. If you think I could help, please write me and I'll give you my phone number and we can speak or email questions back and forth. Anything I can do, I'm here to help. Good luck, keep the faith and you WILL succeed! Karen

Your so sweet Karen. I would appreciate any help I can get right now. Here is my email [email protected] I was not ready for this test and I don't think anyone was as we all walked in thinking it was going to be medical related and it had NOTHING to do with medical at all. Then I was the last one of three that got there last so we got stuck way in the back and the lady next to me had problems seeing the TV also. What I did was tell myself. I can ace this test and I did seem straight forward but I guess not as i failed. Then they don't give you anytime to think about the qeustion but I guess again they don't want you to think. They flash the four answers up on the screen, fla**** off and that's it. I'm not going to give up. If I can't get in with this hospital then I'll go to school closer to home or do something else. I have to STOP putting myself down, something I have done for years. If I passed a CNA class in another State then why can't I do it now. I had a wonderful teacher for my CNA class. She understood that some people learn much better with hands on then in a book and she took that into account. She also made all her tests true/false questions. Donna 338/219 -119

What's funny you bring up froster parenting. I suggested a while back to my husband on us becoming foster parents as I talk to a lot of foster parents being that I'm in retail. They said it's very rewarding My husband said NO He said you'll get attached and want to adopt every child that comes into our home. Donna