Need Advice... Possible new relationship.

Hi everyone... Just found this message board. I think it is great! Hoping someone might be able to give me advice... I just met someone about less than a week ago... kind of a fluke really. But how and when should you tell someone about having gastric bypass surgery? I don't know what to do. I'm afraid how this person might react to my surgery. Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks. Liz

Liz, You be proud of what you have gone throgh and tell the world how good you are feeling and doing. This new someone will probably think WOW!..of you and your new lease on life.. God bless you...and don't worry,everything will be fine................Ron in AZ>

Why be scared of how he might react? It's not like you have two heads now. You did something to improve your health. I NEVER hold back the truth from anyone. People ask me all the time. Your losing weight, you doing weigh****chers and I said nope, I had WLS and if they don't understand then I explain it to them. Donna 338/224 -114

Hello Liz. Congrats on taking charge of your health (and welcome to this board) . While some might shout from the rooftops about their WLS, others like myself don't feel the need to share my WLS experience. I think its a personal choice and see nothing wrong with either one. It's really a personal preference. Do you tell other people? Or are you thinking of telling this guy only because you guys will be dating? I have met many guys, even in the airport coming back home. I KNOW I will not be telling them, but like I said, It's a personal preference. Maybe you should wait and see where this "New Friendship" leads to. Then later you can figure out if you want to tell him. Just my two cents Here's to you and ME meeting new cuties Gracie 270/184

hi Liz, I am in the dating game as well and I decide whether they are worthy of knowing over the first or second time we go out. If you go to dinner and you only eat 3 ounces.. he is going to wonder... haha... I have told my friend (we became friends after meeting on a blind date and that didnt work out)... I told him the first time he met me... and you know what? He was more curious about it than anything else and you will find that a lot. He even gave me pointers on foods and low sugar foods. I told another guy I went on a date with recently when we had dinner because he asked me if I didnt like my food and should he get the waitress... haha.. I told him "yes, call her over" and when he did, you should have seen his face when all I asked for was a container to put the rest in. all I am saying is use your judgement... you can tell what kind of people will say something awful or who will support you.... Hope all goes well and good luck with this new man!!!! Hugs, Beckie

Hi Liz: I don't think that if you decide not to tell him right away, that you are being ashamed of what you did. And I don't think it's dishonest, either. I would wait a while to see where the relationship is going before I shared such personal health issues. If you had cancer or took birth control pills, would you tell him on the first or second date? I look at WLS in the same manner. It's my personal decision and my business. However, ultimately, you have to decide whether this person is worthy of sharing this with. Good luck, Ms. Sassy

I am a very open person and I have told everyone about my decision to take back my life by having this surgery. I want to tell people I see, who are obese like me, about this wonderful chance to live life again. I am very happy and I am having a great journey losing weight, learning to control my eating, and becoming a healtier 57 year old. Monica 12/06/04 330/250/1??

I am in the dating pool also. Not much though. I told a guy recently, then he started dating someone else. This is his loss, even though sometimes it is frustrating. I have been honest with everyone else in my life, but men are different. This is a difficult one. I am now 30 lbs from goal and have lost 70lbs but still feel too heavy. My perception of myself is getting better, but not there yet. Good Luck Linda