what should me weight be??

I was talking to my girlfriend who is around 200lbs and I said I want to be around 140lbs and she told me that's to thin. I'm 5'4" so what should I weight by the time I get to goal? I think she is jealous of me as I had WLS and am dropping the pounds and her Doctor told her to drop 50lbs Donna 338/241 -97

Hi Donna, I am 5' 3.25" tall and my beginning weight was 336 and I dieted down to 275 before surgery. I weighed 220.5 as of this morning. I have every intention of making my goal 136 pounds. I have a sister who did not want me to have this surgery and she too is jealous of my weight loss. Others have told me it does not matter what others say you should weigh. It matters how you FEEL at that weight. I think when we both get closer to our goal we will KNOW if WE need to adjust our original goals. Plus ask your family doc or surgeon they can give you a professional medical advise. Let me know what you decide Donna. I value your opinion. Mary Salmon

I feel the same way when it comes to others and their comments. This same girlfriend who was 150lbs herself at time is now telling me 140lbs will be to small and her husband is in the back ground telling me he likes his women chubby. Hmmm, then why did you marry a women that was 150lbs was my thought I will get to the wieght my body wants me to be and then stop and this is what I think of people. Donna 338/241 -97

I was 280 day of surgery am now 213 - My "ideal" weight is 135 but I think I will try to stop between 140 - 150 It depends on how "I" feel - not on a number or on what others say. My mom is already "your too skinny" - I'm like Mom, I'm a size 16-18 I am NOT too skinny.... Only you will know what is right for your body - if you go too low you will not feel well...you will find the happy place for your body.

RIGHT ON!! Donna 338/241 -97

Donna - congrats on your progress. You are doing great. As far as a "goal" weight.... I have never set one. It is not required that you set a goal weight. I know my body will decide when to stop losing and to settle at its optimum weight. I only hope to be of a "normal" or "average" size when the dust settles. When people ask me what my goal weight is, I just say that I want to look normal size. I don't respond in numbers. Don't feel pressured to put your success in numbers. You are doing great and should be congratulated. Karen G Lap RNY 294 / 231 / ????

Donna, I agree with Karen. I do not have an ideal weight in my mind or as my goal. I too want to feel and look normal. I weighed 135 pounds when I got married 35 years ago. I can't begin to imagine my weight coming close to that at age 57 now. I would be happy with a weight of 180-200 pounds I think. Feeling better, breathing better, and acting better is already happening to me and I am loving it. I am melting through my clothes and can't believe that I actually look so much better. My mind and soul is seeing the new me and I can honestly say I am smaller. I delight in finding that I can fit in chairs, the car, spaces and clothes that I never thought I would fit in. Outside of the hair loss I am living with, I am a very happy women. Life is just better. So don't get stuck with a set goal, you will be setting yourself up for heartache or feelings of failure if you don't reach the goal you set. Go with the flow and glory in your achievements every day. Monica 12/06/04 330/268/???

Donna, Has your friend taken a good look at you already? I think she envys you ..lol..lol You get to what makes you happy and comfortable. As long as you are healthy and you are happy, thats all that matters.. You are already soooo beautiful. keep on getting thinner baby..you are on your way.

This girlfriend has been at my side since I started the journey of getting WLS and so she has seen me shrink from 338 to 240. Yes I'm 240lbs now. I weight myself last night and 240 and again today. Donna 338/240 98

Hi Donna, I do not think 140 is to small.. I am 5'5" and my doctors goal weight for me is 120. He says that when making a goal you have to look at body size, bone size, etc.. I am very small boned (always thought I was big boned.. hmmm) and the normal range for me would be 114-130. Guess we will see where I get down to. I am shooting for 120. Kathy Lap RNY 12/16/04 242/187/120