Surgery A Week Away And Terrified!

My surgery is a week away and I'm TERRIFIED! I'm seriously having second thoughts about going through with this. I guess I'm just scared of the unknown. Any advice?

I am right there with you, also being a week away and yes it's scary but a friend of mine told me if your NOT scared there's something wrong, I mean this is a life changing procedure, you are a week away from starting a new life! With me I talked to a lot of people that pray and are religious, and now there a is a little prayer circle, that is going to be lifting my name up on my big day. It helps to talk about your fears and not bottle them up, it also helps to find those people that can reassure you that everything is going to be ok. I will have you in MY thoughts and prayers as we BOTH make that journey on the 27th, things will be ok and OUR lives will be better for doing this. sending out much love!

Hi Deanna, Thanks for your encouraging words and you're right about having people who can pray for me. I have been praying to GOD for help and to take away the fear that I'm feeling about the surgery. My mother is a praying woman and she has been great about my decision. My brother had the surgery in March of this year and he had some complications and when I told my mother that I was going to do the same thing, she said that if this was what I wanted then she would support me. May GOD continue to bless and keep His tender loving arms around you now and always. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers as we start our new lives on the 27th. What hospital will you be going to? I will be at St. Luke's Roosevelt in Manhattan. Take care and GOD BLESS. Yvette

I'm going to be at SUNY Downstate Medical center, about a half hour from my house. Keep your chin up and keep your eyes on the prize, remember HE will give us no more than we can bear, HE made this surgery possible and gave the surgeons the knowledge and HE will guide their hands. If you need to vent or talk about what's on your mind just drop me an email. OK?

I will try my best to keep my eyes on the prize and keep my chin up. You're right because without this surgery where would we be. Thank you for the offer of the email to vent, I just might need to take you up on that offer. Take care.

I had my surgery on the 14th I to seriously thought of changing my mind but then I remember all the research I did and how much I respect my doctor and in I went I am very glad I did Hang in there nerves might get worse just remember God is in control and you did your homework so all will be well.

Hi Laure, I hope that you are doing well and thanks for responding. Yes, I did my homework and I have every confidence in my doctor. I have to keep remembering that GOD is in control and only he can get me through this. You're right my nerves will get worse before they get better. I keep telling myself that I'm going to be fine, but there is a small part of me that still thinks that something might go wrong. I have people praying for me and I'm praying for myself too, but I still have a little doubt. Please keep me in your prayers and I'll be in touch after everything is over. Take care and GOD BLESS!

Hi Yvette, What a relief to see that you're also having second thoughts about going through with the surgery. Mine is scheduled for the 30th, and I feel the exact same way! I've had to fight so hard to get to this point, along with convincing everyone around me that it's the right choice. If I started talking to them about having second thoughts I'd sabotage myself. I think it's only natural though. My biggest fear is going in to the hospital and not coming home. Your message is EXACTLY how I'm feeling and the responses you received helped me so much. They made me get back to why I've wanted this so bad and to stop the negative thoughts. Thank heavens for all of you wonderful people on this message board!

Hi Martha, I'm glad that you are finding some comfort in all the responses I've gotten. I can't really talk to my friends about this because they don't really understand where I'm coming from. I too am afraid that I won't come home from the hospital. Just the thought of that makes me not want to go forward with this. I have every confidence in my doctor and I know with GOD's help we all will be fine. Feel free to email me whenever you want to talk. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Take care and GOD BLESS Yvette

HI MARTHA AND YVETTE, I UNDERSTAND YOUR FEARS, I WENT THOUGH THE SAME THING. I HAD MY SURGERY ON THE 6TH AND I CRIED LIKE A BABY IN THE TRIAGE ROOM. MY DOCTER ASK ME WAS I SURE THAT I WANTED TO GO THOUGH WITH THIS. I SAID YES THAT I WAS JUST SCARED OF GOING UNDER AND NOT WAKING UP. I HAVE FOUR BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN THAT DEPENDS ON ME. MY SISTER AND COUSIN WAS THERE FOR ME AND HELPED TO MAKE IT A LITTLE EASIER. MAY GOD BE WITH YOU! I WILL PRAY FOR THE BOTH OF YOU.