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Hi there guys and gals How is everyone? I hope you guys are fine and enjoying your new lives as Thinner Healthier People. I am or at least trying. I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man. He is a bit younger than me. There are some wonderful things about him. He has class,respect,and is kind. He lacks though in the relationship department, which makes me the teacher.I never thought that at my age, I had to take the role on as a teacher. I have been a parent and raised my daughter and thought my job was over. I really don't want to teach a man things that I know, therapy would help. I think he needs an outsider to look in and help him. He had a very strict upbringing, which I think has affected him greatly. He refuses therapy, which makes me think, he is really not ready to commit to me. I thought I could change him but I should know you can't change anyone. They must change themselves.I have ended this relationship and kind of feel sorry for him. I dated and enjoyed being single. I know he will have a hard time with this. Well life goes on and it will for me. I have a date tomorrow night. I don't know if I will get serious at this again, but I will continue my life as a single lady. What I am looking for is not an "EMOTIONAL RELATIONSHIP" At this point that will hurt. Thanks for letting me vent. I love you guys. Lorraine ((((HUGS))))))) to all of you guys.

Dear Lorraine, I know how hard this must be for you because it sounds like you really like him in spite of his faults. It is hard not to keep giving someone chances even when you know they aren't the right fit for you. I have spent most of my life lonely because my husband just lives this separate kind of life. He isn't affectionate or cuddly and boy! I have dreampt of just having someone hold me. I will pray for you and be thinking of you. Trust me, you can't change someone. Allison

Allson, Thanks for being there for me. I was in a relationship,infact 2 marriages. Now I feel its about me for a change.I have given enough and at my age I am teaching nothing. If he does not get help..... He has lost me. Sad to say but true. Thanks again (((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) to you. Lorraine

Hi Sweetie, Sorry to hear you're having troubles. It never seems to end, does it? It's either our health, or family, or work. Something causing stress. Just be careful in whatever you decide to do. Nona

Nona, Hi stranger How are you? Thanks for responding to my post. Yes it is always something. I used to think getting rich was the answer. As I got older and wiser I realized that my health and sanity was the most important thing to me now. I love my daughter, but right now she needs to be left alone. So.... here I am at 54 with love problems. I am having a birthday party friday night and I am going to enjoy. I don't have to drive so I will and have a great time. I used to be very active with the BBWS "BIG BEAUTIFUL WOMEN" so they are making the party for me. The funny thing will be that out of maybe 25 people at least 20 have had the WLS. I ordered a small cake and will enjoy. Take care Nona Lorraine

hey! Happy Birthday Lorraine. I do wish I had more money, would solve some of my problems... I do love being healthy. My best friend blacked out and was in a horrible car wreck. She was unscathed, but she had to get a pacemaker for her heart. She has 7 children, the youngest is a year younger then my youngest. She is a visiting nurse and works around 12 hours a day. I think the work is too much and she knows it too. I have been talking to her the last couple days and she is just so depressed (her marriage isn't good either) I only said all that because you are so right about health... even mental health. I rarely drink. I did a little bit on the cruise. When I do, I don't feel very well. =( I never was a big drinker, but I do miss being able to enjoy a strawberry daquiri. Reguardless, here's to you and to the most wonderful birthday you have ever had (at least that is my wish for you) Allison

Allison, Thanks for the Happy Birthday wishes. I just picked out a nice birthday cake. No Ice Cream. I just can't have it. and that is what happens to me.I am going to enjoy my party. Please give your friend a big(((((((((HUG)))))))))))) and tell her that you are there for her. I also have a very sick friend too. If you can't drink I will have one for you OK? I can't drink like before but I can have 1 or 2. Thanks again Lorraine