Need Motivation-NOT LECTURE!!PLEASE!!!

Hello I am truly trying once again to reach out. I am making ZERO excuses and it is all my fault I know this. I posted to the main board around six months ago and got flamed for my post. I can't seem to get back on track. Let me give you a little background. Dec 17, 2003 Surgery Spend month in hospital three surgeries almost died Lost 101 lbs. Down from 270 to 169. Gained back to 200 Took Manager's position Feb 2005 Eating due to stress Menopausal Foot Surgery 5 mths ago. Ordered NOT to exercise Possibly have to have another foot surgery in six weeks NOT doing any vitamins, little protein, and no water (or very little) Ok can I get some help and NOT Flamed here with you all. I know I am doing wrong you don't have to tell me that. I just need motivation. I can't seem to get it. I have a closet full of TIGHT clothes again. I don't want to gain this back. I was suppose to go to my surgeon last May did not want him to see my gain so I didn't go. No one says you look so nice any more. I know what they are thinking. Of Course I feel sorry for myself. But, because I have gained back. I know it is MY FAULT. It all began for me again When I started drinking sodas that I am ADDICTED to again. I can eat as much as I ever did. Believe me. I do not DUMP.

Debbie, Hi there . I know you are feeling very sad. I go for therapy and find this is what I need to keep me going. You say you know its your fault so................... Don't be afraid to reach out and get help. It is just human to admit we all are not perfect. I always say 'PERFECTION IS NON-EXISTENT' I think talking to someone who can look at this from the outside will be perfect for you. Good Luck Lorraine

Being an addict, whether it is drug, booze or food, is still a disease. You need to seek some help. I know. Speak with your doctor. Tell him/her how you feel. Tell them what you need. Try to find a group. Try OverEaters Anonymous. They used to have an online group. I don't know if they still do or not. In the mean time, try this: For just one day, and only one day. Tell youself it is only for one day. Pretend you are going for a coloscopy and need to prep. Liquids and only liquids. No sugar. Drink protein shakes, broth, sugar free jello, tea, decaff coffee, ice pops, sugar free of course. But just one day. Then, it will be easier to get on track when you see you can do it. Just one day. That's all. Just one day. Nona

Sounds like a lot of stress going on right now and obviously, stress can lead to eating.....a situation we all find ourselves in from time to time. You need to try to keep from getting depressed....for me that was my downfall. I would eat to boost my brain chemistry and when I had a "drop" I would eat again to boost that "high". The more protein you put into your body and the less carbs this "craving" will lessen....You know the whole thing about eating protein firs****er, etc., I agree that a support group would help...if not a WLS group, weigh****chers or TOPS....a group that can hold you accountable. Plus, the outing to the group meetings might help relieve your stress from work and your health. You can do this Debbie....I know you can. luvitsunnyv

Well date buddy.....First, I am glad you have realized that you have not worked your tool as it should be.......second you have to get to a support group in your area...no excuses! You and only you are responsible for you and your use or lack there of your tool. It is a TOOL and you have to work it right or it will not work for you period! This is not a flame...just tough love! 1) Find and attend a support group as often as they meet. 2) Find exercises that you can do without involving your foot, feet. 3) Take your vitamins!!!!! 4) Protein first 5) Water, water, water......throw the soda away! You can get back on track if you want to bad enough...you did it once, you can do it again! Darrol 450/265 and holding

Debbie You see the problem so your half way there. You CAN do this. Get back to the basics. Become vigilant again. Measure your food before you begin to eat. Use smaller plates. Chew, chew, chew. No drinking with meals this just flushes the food through the pouch and you never feel full. PROTEIN 1st! Vitamins, exercise and DRINK the WATER! You've had a little setback! YOU CAN MAKE THIS A COMEBACK!!!!!!! I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!