Where Has Everyone Gone?

It seems like weeks go by and no one is posting anymore. Have we moved on from this site? With our lives? I come here every day, sometimes twice a day, during the week, but no one is ever here. I miss the support and the messages from everyone, LuvItSunny, Lorraine, MD, Kim, all of you. I'm holding steady at the same weight. I eat so much more, now, that is scares me. It's like I never had any surgery at all. I just work, sleep and take care of my home and my daughter. I don't have time for me anymore. NO exercise, no hobbies, no time to wind down. I am tired. But that's just whining and I shouldn't do that. My girl needs her mom now more than ever. And I have to work. I don't have a choice. So what do I do? When can I find time for me and what I need? Any input from anyone would be a help. Thanks in advance. Nona

Life does have a way of streaming past us, doesn't it? I am more active on the California board, so my time on the computer is limited to fewer posts. I have been hiking and traveling to various functions in California. I will be hosting a camping trip in June and a swim party in August. No time to be tired...too much to do now that I can. I have lost a total of 185lbs and have been steady at 270 for 4 months now. I want to get to 220....if I don't I will be ok with the loss to date. Darrol

I'm glad you're doing so well. When will you be posting an updated pic? We'd love to see how you are now. I've changed again. My hair became so bad, I got a wig. It looks great. Very natural. Even my mom in law likes it and she doesn't like much that I do, like my nails and jewelry, makeup, etc. It's short, like my own, and the same color, even the style I wore before. So I was fortunate to find it. Very reasonable, too. Nona

I've been more of a lurker on OH than anything...to be honest...just very busy...I work full time, go to grad school and am training for a marathon and trying to maintain my weightloss. I eat more too...but try to make up for it with my running. You NEED to make time for you. How old is your daughter? Sherry

Diana is 29. She suffers from SLE and is in a wheel chair. They don't think she'll live till she's 40. Now my grandson, age 8, her son, has growths in his colon. They're going to test him for colon cancer. What next? It just doesn't stop. I have tons of errands for tomorrow. Saturday, I have cleaning and yard work. Sunday, church and then to my daughters to clean. Then back to work on Monday. MD, I love a glass of wine now and then. And I have a problem with carbs. Love Triscuits and pretzles. Have to keep them out of the house.

Hi Nona, I only get on line once or twice a week now. I'm working 40+ hours at a business that is 37 mi. 1 way from my house. That's not so bad.....but the Miami traffic is. Some eveings it takes me 2 hrs. to drive that 37 miles. I'm also taking 3 college courses at night and that keeps me out three nights a week. I know its a schedule of my own design.......but I'm tired. I know I don't eat right on a regular basis. I still can't eat bread or rice but I pretty much eat anything else. My tastes are still weird. Thankfully I haven't lost any weight since December. I weigh 118. They've discovered I have gall stones but I'm going to wait awhile on surgery. There's not much (if any at all) differentiation between motherly and grandmotherly love. I'm sure the days are long as you care for your daughter and I know you must be anxious over the news about your grandson. You are in my prayers and if there is anything at all I can do.......just let me know. I hope we all try to comit to posting on this board more. You are right.....we need each other's encouragement. Ruthanna LuvitsunnyVB~lo/goal

They're putting in a handicap bathroom this weekend, so we have some work to do. We're buying the tub/shower. It's something she really needs, poor kid. My weight is steady. I know I don't eat right, but at least it's not gaining. Maybe when things get more settled, I'll have time to get back to power walking and now spring is nearly here, I can cut the grass. That's always good exercise. I don't use a tractor. I push. 3/4 acre. That's a lot of pushin' for an old lady. Nona

Hi Nona, I am online everyday reading the Q&A or the main message board. Then i remember this one. I don't post too often, but then some days I get on a roll and post a lot. Sounds like you are feeling down and with good reason. You have a lot going on in your life. Sometimes the only me time I get is on this computer too. Now that it's getting warmer and the days are longer you will probably find you have more time for you, at least I hope so. I notice lately that I don't want to sit and watch TV at night so much anymore. I still don't want to clean my house though!! Last night I actually took a walk and the night before went to Barnes and Noble book store. Never would have done that on a work night before. So one step at a time I am hopefully improving my life. I struggle with food everyday. When I go grocery shopping I have to literally tell myself no, no, no, no, over and over because I don't need to buy the stuff there. I need milk and stuff for my son and a few things but not cookies and crackers and chips etc! I have been better with it the past few weeks but something always seems to slip into the cart. Well enough of that. Good luck and e-mail if you need to talk. Cathy

thanks Cathy. I know what you mean about things slipping in. I am terrible with chocolat. I love Dove Dark. I know I shouldn't eat them, but s/f stuff gives me such gas and cramps unless it's made with purely Splenda. I"m not much of a chip eater, although I did indule in about 6 of them for the first time since my surgery the other day. But I didn't enjoy them all that much. NOt as much as I thought I would. So I don't think I'll be eating them again. But I do like the whole wheat pretzles I found. So I don't buy them, other than a very small bag and put it on the top shelf so I have to climb a step stool to get them. I eat three meals a day with a small snack arount 3 or 4 pm, usually fruit. But I know it's a normal sized meal. I can eat about 4 oz of meat, half a cup of veggies, 1/4 cup of rice or baked potato, and, a little later, a s/f ice cream serving. That's a normal meal. But, at least I'm not gaining. Maybe, when it's a little warmer and I go walking, I can exercise off a few more pounds. That would be nice. Have a good day. Nona

I guess we all are having too much fun being skinny As for me I work two jobs so most of the time I only have time to lurk a little bit. Just like your daughter I suffer from SLE too...Thankful that I am still able to work thought....I have been having serious anemia trouble lately cant seem to shake it even after just finishing treatment.