I Have a Scarey Feeling!

Hi there to all my friends, I have enjoyed this site so much I can't begin to put it in words. Thanks so much all of you. Here is my problem. Anyone who knows me, knows the hard time I had with digestion for the longest. I had hernia surgery in September. After 13 months post-op and down -113pds I am beginning to eat normal again. Normal meaning I can now eat meat. I make sure I chew well. I fill very fast with the right foods. You all know the crunchy carbs go down easily. I good food fills me up fast.I can now make a plate and eat like a normal person just less as far as portions. I fear I will gain weight. I am not eating much, but just eating normal. Did any of you guys have this fear? I guess now that I am feeling better and not all the time I am scared. I am maintaining my weight of 132 pds with a loss of -113 pds down from 245 pds Can someone please give me some advice here Lorraine

Lorraine, Do I ever know that feeling! Even though I am beyond the size I wanted to be, every week that the scale doesn't go down I start thinking, "Here we go again, I'm gonna gain it all back." Even though I know I'm doing everything my surgeon told me to, including lots of exercise and vitamins, I still worry about it. The only advice I can give you is the same that was given me. Relax. Pay more attention to what you are doing and less to the number on the scale. And, if you start having a problem with weight gain, get in touch with your doctor or dietician for help. Not that that advice has made much difference for my irrational (?) fear of gaining the weight back. Relax. Yeah, if only it were that easy! Keep up the good work. Lorraine. Deb

Deb, Thanks for responding to my post. I need you guys all the time. Keep up your great work too. Lorraine

Dear Lorraine, I am terrified about gaining the weight back. I am so careful about what I eat. I have a protein drink for breakfast and lunch and when I have dinner and actually eat, I have this little twinge of guilt, even though I make very healthy choices. I am lucky that I have all my kids around to say things to me that helps. I haven't lost weight this month at all and it makes me feel sad. I pray for people on this message board. We probably have a lot of the same feelings and fears. You are maintaining your weight so I would guess that you are making very good choices! My advice is just post here when you feel scared and enjoy your new life the way you are going. Sounds like you are doing great. Allison

"have a protein drink for breakfast and lunch" Allison, is that all you eat all day? I know that I eat too much, but if that's all you have then that is too little! That might be why you're not loosing. You need to eat about 800-900 calories a day, and 2 shakes and dinner isn't any where near that. I'm no pro, but I've been working with a dietician, and she says 4-5 meals a day is necessary to loose weight. Nona

Yes I have this fear. I still want to lose 45lbs more but in my head I know if I don't I have lost 155lbs and that is good, but my heart says what if I can't get to my goal of 165lbs? 10 more lbs and I will be in onederland and I am so afraid I won't make it. Keep making the right choices and you will do great. Cathy

I'm scared too, Lorraine. I know that in June our "18 month window" will be up and I am so afraid I will start gaining weight yet I know I can't afford to lose any more weight either. It's sort of a catch 22 because I'm 15 pounds below goal -- looking really thin. I don't want to gain any. Do you think I need a psychiatrist? This was the topic of one of my support groups last evening and a lot of people were struggling with being 2,3,4 years out and gaining 20-30 pounds. I guess we will just have to lean on each other for support. LuvitsunnyVbelo/goal

Ruthanna, Hi there I have been going to a psychologist since I went for my evaluation before my surgery. I go every 2 weeks. He specializes in obsessive behavior and alot of his patients are WLS. Yes it is true,we must lean on each other. Thanks for answering my post..... Lorraine

Lorraine, Oh Honey, we all know where you are coming from. Food is a ugly demon that made all of us miserable emtionally, physically, mentaly etc....just remember you are in control. We are all human and will make some bad choices here and there. Just keep yourself in check and look to us for love and support when you need it. This is why excercise is so important so when we do and are able to eat more it will burn off. hugs to you...karie

Scared? as hell! I mean seriously, I have to admit it. I have been been doing some pretty self destructive things lately, things I know are detrimental to my success. Coffee every day with tons of sugar and 1/2 & 1/2, not just one cup, more like 32 oz a day. Not to mention being on a cracker and cheese binge for about three weeks now. I am still losing, though ever sooo slowly, but I know I'm wrong with my eating and these are the exact patterns that I know lead to worse and worse choices. Not eating very well has lead to hair loss again and I know my protein intake is not as it should be. I was thinking of maybe starting a daily thread here so we could all support each other on our daily food intake by listing (honestly) our food intake for the day. What do you think? We are here to support each other right? Well let me know whatcha think. On a positive note, I am finding time to exercise, that may be offsetting the coffee and sugar ya' think? ~~denial~~ *wink* Anyway your fears are our fears too Lorraine, let's all support each other my Diane