QOD for 6/7

HI there guys, I am trying to think of a good question.I will try my best. There is a few that makes me 1)Do you find since your WLS there are people who know you and just look at you not saying even HI, just looking kind of funny at you? 2)Do you find any of your co-workers especially men are nicer and friendlier, where before they hardly noticed you? 3)Are you noticing that men are now looking your way? 4)Are you annoyed that the opposite sex is like this as far as outer beauty is concerned? 5)If you are single are you dating more now than before? First question , I do find that people that I work with and I work with alot since I work in a hospital do look kind of look funny at me, I would prefer that they say HI and ask me how I am and I would gladly say I am OK. I might even ask them the same. I am noticing men looking my way. I am very flattered but at the same time wondering did it take losing weight for them to look now? Yes I am very upset that society is like this .We are judged by our outer looks than our inner. I am dating now, I am single but not anymore than before. I am looking for a long term relationship and hope to find it ... Hope Hope Guys have a good day..... Lorraine

I am married so I don't really pay attention to other men......Haven't noticed too much in that area.....I don't work either so I can't answer that question!!! Now about the friends......some notice and go crazy asking a million questions.....some pretend not to notice and then I get kinda pissy.....HOW can you not notice 104 pound loss in 6 months....JERKS.....lol!!! My biggest thing is when friends how I am not really close with ask so many questions.....I liek to tell the truth, but then it almost gets to personal....like how much have you lost...104 pounds...then they think that is crazy....I wasn't even that heavy....how am I doing it.....sometimes I say surgery, sometimes I say working hard(which I am) But I hate it when they ask the personal stuff like how much more I need to lose or what I weigh now or what I started at....I don't really want miss 115pound lady knowing I weighed 300 almost and still need to lose 40, SO I am finding it to get diffucult.......any suggestions Jesi (sorry for the rambling)

Hello Lorraine, Well, I do not work (stay at home mom) and I am married, but that sure as hell does not keep me from noticing other men! I AM ALIVE! I am getting a lot of different looks from men and women, most are pretty hard to decypher. Not exactly sure what they mean. If I dress really cute or sexy (in my own mind anyway), I get tons of looks. Some even look at my feet and give me a dirty look! What is that about? I think men are definately more friendly now. My husband usually walks next to me or behind me and he says he notices all the looks from men that I am getting, then again, he always said I was getting looks from men. I am pretty much oblivious to it when I am out with people, I notice more when I am alone. I really don't care who knows about my surgery now. I let everyone know who asks that it is a lifetime of dieting and is not as easy as some seem to think it is. I have had positive reactions but I prepare myself for any negative ones. I'd tell them that the doctor only performed the surgery, I have had to suffer through all of the hard work of dieting, exercise and losing the weight. We all know it isn't that easy! Don't we?! Tracy

Hi there Jesi, I find that those questions on how much do you want to lose, what weight did you start out, and why do you want to get that thin and etc and etc are questions I answer for only my good friends. That is the only answer I have for you..... Lorraine

Yes, I notice more looks from guys now....of course I am married so I am just flattered and nothing more! Workers sometimes make comments and say "skinny" etc....others say-- you have lost a lot of weight haven't you? that don't know about the surgery and I figured by now EVERYONE knew about the surgery but I guess not. Guess I am not as important as I think I am!!! Don't see many friends since they live out of town...only 1 of my hubby's friends has commented and NOBODY else this weekend at the reunion except for her (she saw me at Easter and said something so I told her about the surgery and we discussed it more this weekend) His other friends who have only seen me weigh more than 230 didn't make any comments about the loss. I don't know if people are afraid to ask or what??? I would think 64 lbs is OBVIOUS but maybe they don't want to be rude??? because saying you lost weight is ALWAYS the worst thing you want to hear!!!! hahahahaha

Hi, I am married but I have noticed men looking at and treating me differently. Touching me - like a pat on the shoulder, etc, where they never did that before. Or looking at me in a normal way and not disgustedly. Everyone at work knows I had surgery and all are so supportive with positive comments all the time. Some people in my neighborhood or at my son's school I have seen who don't know about the surgery don't seem to notice or maybe they are being polite so they don't say anything. I pick the politeness Yes it bugs me the way society is about looks. I don't think we will ever change that though. So I will be me no matter what I look like. At least today I will anyway

Question 1: No, although I do have those who haven't seen me in a while who don't recognize me. 2:No, I'm treated the same. My co-workers are all nice, male and female alike. 3:Not really, but my DH has all my attention, so I don't pay any elsewhere. 4: Yes, too many people judge you on your size, color, gender, etc., and not on you. 5:I'm not single., but my hubby pays more attention to me, not because he thinks I look better, but because he's afraid someone else will. Such insecure creatures, men. Nona

I think you responses have been pretty typical for me, too. I've been looking for a job and I know that prospective employers sure look at me differently......and, I think I approach them with more confidence as well. If the men look -- I don't know. I still have eyes only for my husband of 32 years!

Along this same line- I never know if someone can really tell that I am losing weight. I started at 416 and I am down to 299- but I feel like I was so big that it really isnt noticible yet. I think people are just being nice when they say they can see a loss. Most of the pics I have seen on this board started about where I am now.YOu guys look great!