Question of the day. April 29 2004
Hi there guys, I thought I would post this question to you.
Why can't I understand why men now look at me and did not before?
Why is it that I personally still think I am an overweight person?
Why is it so hard for me to accept this new person and let go of the old person?
Why am I still afraid to look in the store front windows at myself?
Why is it so hard for me to give away those big clothes?
When will I accept who I am now?
Why is it when I enter the store I am still gazing at the PLUS SIZES?
Are any of you guys going through this? Am I alone feeling this way?
Lst questioin.... Do you find you even have jealous family saying mean things to you? 
to you all LORRAINE :hug: :hug:
to you all LORRAINE :hug: :hug: 
Good Morning Lorraine,
We have been the same way for SO LONG it is hard to see ourselves any other way. Every time before if we went on a diet, we ultimately failed. So, getting rid of those clothes is hard, we still think we might need them. Keep in mind it has ONLY been 4 months! You will adjust! We all have not reached our goal weight yet. I think once we do, and stay there for a while, our self image will start to catch up with the REAL new us. As for men, I am SO enjoying getting looks again. My husband always told me that men always looked at me. But in my mind I was thinking...Looking a me thinking "what a COW!" Now, I think, Yeah, I know I look good! 
That's on a good day, on a bad day those thoguhts try to creep back. We have come SO FAR!
As for nasty comments. I have not had any yet. Prolly won't from anyone who knows me as they know it would hurt my feelings and I'd prolly HIT them! lol Don't let comments get you down. You know how hard you have worked and how far you have come. Who cares if someone else does not see it OR is just too stupid to think ignorant comments won't bother you. Maybe they are thinking since you are SKINNY now, comments wont bother you. They just know you look good! Some people think that bringing someone else down makes them bigger or stand out more. It really does too! It makes them a look like a BIGGER idiot and stand out like a SORE thumb! Kisses and hugs! Tracy
That's on a good day, on a bad day those thoguhts try to creep back. We have come SO FAR!
As for nasty comments. I have not had any yet. Prolly won't from anyone who knows me as they know it would hurt my feelings and I'd prolly HIT them! lol Don't let comments get you down. You know how hard you have worked and how far you have come. Who cares if someone else does not see it OR is just too stupid to think ignorant comments won't bother you. Maybe they are thinking since you are SKINNY now, comments wont bother you. They just know you look good! Some people think that bringing someone else down makes them bigger or stand out more. It really does too! It makes them a look like a BIGGER idiot and stand out like a SORE thumb! Kisses and hugs! Tracy 
Good Questions Lorraine ..
Why can't I understand why men now look at me and did not before?
we all would rather let a gaze linger on something attractive than something not, no ? .. I always felt if a glance lasted too long it was because they were checking out this fat human oddity...
Why is it that I personally still think I am an overweight person? I agree with Tracy, most of us have been stuck in the overweight body for so long it's hard to alter our self image.. it'll happen in time I hope..
Why is it so hard for me to accept this new person and let go of the old person? see previous answer 
Why am I still afraid to look in the store front windows at myself? again, I'm programmed to see a huge girl reflection and would rather avoid the humiliation..
Why is it so hard for me to give away those big clothes? I'm not having a hard time with this.. I cant wait to dump off the next batch of outslimmed clothing at the consignment shoppe, where I've made upwards of $60.00 so far..
When will I accept who I am now? I'd have to become well acquainted with her before I decide if I can accept her the way she is or if I'm in need of tweaking 
Why is it when I enter the store I am still gazing at the PLUS SIZES? programming
Are any of you guys going through this? Absolutley
Am I alone feeling this way? NO way! That why I love this board, we're all pretty much on the same page here..
Jealous comments from family? No. Total support, I'm quite lucky.. Although, like I posted the other day, my husband is kinda funny lately..he's kind but sorta wary of the new me emerging..
Have a great day Decemberites
Elaine 
Why am I still afraid to look in the store front windows at myself? again, I'm programmed to see a huge girl reflection and would rather avoid the humiliation..
Why is it so hard for me to give away those big clothes? I'm not having a hard time with this.. I cant wait to dump off the next batch of outslimmed clothing at the consignment shoppe, where I've made upwards of $60.00 so far..
When will I accept who I am now? I'd have to become well acquainted with her before I decide if I can accept her the way she is or if I'm in need of tweaking
Why is it when I enter the store I am still gazing at the PLUS SIZES? programming
Are any of you guys going through this? Absolutley
Am I alone feeling this way? NO way! That why I love this board, we're all pretty much on the same page here..
Jealous comments from family? No. Total support, I'm quite lucky.. Although, like I posted the other day, my husband is kinda funny lately..he's kind but sorta wary of the new me emerging..
Have a great day Decemberites
Elaine 
Hi there guys, I thought I would post this question to you.
Why can't I understand why men now look at me and did not before? I FEEL THE SAME WAY. I GET SO MUCH MORE ATTENTION FROM MEN EVEN THE GUYS I HAVE KNOWN FOREVER AND MY PERSONALITY HAS NOT CHANGED ONE BIT. BUT NOW IM GETTING THE CALLS AND THE COMPLIMENTS AND EVERYTHING ELSE.
Why is it that I personally still think I am an overweight person? WELL I STILL HAVE A LONG WAYS TO GO. I DONT SEE THE WEIGHT LOSS AS MUCH AS A LOT OF OTHER PEOPLE AROUND ME DO. I STILL HATE LOOKING IN THE MIRROR BECAUSE I AM STILL VERY BIG IN MY EYES.
Why is it so hard for me to accept this new person and let go of the old person? I AM LEARNING TO ACCEPT THE NEW ME, BUT LIKE I SIAD, I HAVE NOT CHANGED AT ALL. ONLY THE OUTSIDE OF ME. AND I STILL HAVE A LOOOONNNNGGGGG WAY TO GO. AT LEAST ANOTHER 150LBS
Why am I still afraid to look in the store front windows at myself? I WONT LIE, I ALWAYS LOOK AT MY REFLEXION BUT DONT ALWAYS LIKE WHAT I SEE
Why is it so hard for me to give away those big clothes? ME TOO, I HAVE NOT THROWN A THING A WAYS AND STILL WEAR SOME OF THE CLOTHES. I THINK THIS WEEKEND WE SHOULD ALL GO THROUGH OUR CLOTHES AND GET RID OVER THEM AND HAVE A CELEBRATION DOING IT.
When will I accept who I am now? I WONT ACCEPT ME TILL I REACH MY GOAL. I KNOW I WONT BE 100% HAPPY TILL THEN.
Why is it when I enter the store I am still gazing at the PLUS SIZES? I CAN ONLY FIT PLUS SIZES RIGHT NOW. BUT I AM STILL RUNNING TO THE SIZE 30/32 WHEN I AM NOW IN A 26/28. BAD HABIT
Lst questioin.... Do you find you even have jealous family saying mean things to you? I HAVE A COUSIN WHO I HATE TO SAY IT, BUT MY FAMILY MEMBERS THINK SHE IS JELOUSE. I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN BIGGER THEN HERE AND NOW I AM ONLY 30 POUNDS FROM HER. SHE DOES NOT LIKE THAT.
DO LET THIS GET YOU DOWN. ALL WILL BE FINE. JUST REMEMBER WE ARE ALL SURVIVORS!!!!!!
GOD BLESS
I went to my PCP yesterday and I love her....she said that I needed to work on body image. I apparently looked puzzled and she went on to explain that I could "put a 9 month pregnancy inside of the shirt I was wearing." We both got a good laugh at that....but she was right. She INSISTED that I go buy 3 outfits that fit me well and rotate them till I loose 20 lbs......then buy 3 more that FIT. Buy them cheap but buy them and wear ONLY what fits. I think it was good advice. I have gotten rid of a lot of my big clothes and am putting more of them on a garage sale this weekend. I want them OUT of my house. I do still squirm a little in front of mirrors and storefronts but am getting better. This is an adjustment, but frankly one that I am willing to work on!
Jenni
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