Excited and scared.. approved and I have a date!!
Hi!
Thanks so much for your encouraging words. I am dealing with the same thing at work... people think I should just stick to my pre-op diet and I'll lose it all.... and maybe I would. But how long will it take to gain it back?? Not long, I bet. So my new answer to people is that this surgery isn't about losing weight.... it's about being able to keep it off for the rest of my life. But It's like some people think we don't deserve to be a normal weight! I even had a doctor I work with (vet) tell me that I couldn't weight 150 lbs because she weighed 140!!! What a dumb ass comment!! Like I can't be the same weight as her?? She said I had bigger bones... lol... I said how do you know.. you can't see my bones. That shut her up! I think she realized how dumb she was being. I do have support from my family... they are all for it. I wish my boyfriend had been more understanding... but I think he was afraid and insecure. I hope all goes well with you and your hubby.... its great that he supports you.. that is half the battle, I think. Hopefully we can keep in touch.... its great to know of others sharing the same surgery date... I know I'm not alone!!
I can't say it enough!!! Nov 5th is going to be a great day!!!!!!
Thanks so much for your encouraging words. I am dealing with the same thing at work... people think I should just stick to my pre-op diet and I'll lose it all.... and maybe I would. But how long will it take to gain it back?? Not long, I bet. So my new answer to people is that this surgery isn't about losing weight.... it's about being able to keep it off for the rest of my life. But It's like some people think we don't deserve to be a normal weight! I even had a doctor I work with (vet) tell me that I couldn't weight 150 lbs because she weighed 140!!! What a dumb ass comment!! Like I can't be the same weight as her?? She said I had bigger bones... lol... I said how do you know.. you can't see my bones. That shut her up! I think she realized how dumb she was being. I do have support from my family... they are all for it. I wish my boyfriend had been more understanding... but I think he was afraid and insecure. I hope all goes well with you and your hubby.... its great that he supports you.. that is half the battle, I think. Hopefully we can keep in touch.... its great to know of others sharing the same surgery date... I know I'm not alone!!
I can't say it enough!!! Nov 5th is going to be a great day!!!!!!
Well I want to say congratulations on a date because for many just getting an approval is such a huge thing. I was denied twice myself.
I am not sure how I would feel if I was in your situation. But I can say that I was down 100 lbs from what I am right now not all that long ago. I still had weight to lose but was very happy at that weight. Problem was I didn't maintain it for more than a few months. At this point for me there is nothing in the world that could stop me. If I don't get this surgery I will keep gaining weight slowly but surely.
I wish you luck in your final decision over time. I hope you are able to figure out what is best for you.
I am not sure how I would feel if I was in your situation. But I can say that I was down 100 lbs from what I am right now not all that long ago. I still had weight to lose but was very happy at that weight. Problem was I didn't maintain it for more than a few months. At this point for me there is nothing in the world that could stop me. If I don't get this surgery I will keep gaining weight slowly but surely.
I wish you luck in your final decision over time. I hope you are able to figure out what is best for you.
Thanks!
I was very worried that I wouldn't be approved either. My BMI was 44 when I started and is now at 39. I don't have any major co-morbidities. I'm pretty healthy except for joint and back pain and swelling in my legs. I had asked my Dr. what my chances were of getting approved and she said they won't deny it... because they send the paperwork in at my referral weight and my BMI alone qualified me. I was still skeptical, wouldn't believe it until I got that call. They said it would take 3 weeks... it took 6 days!!
I too was at 200 lbs once... about 13 years ago. I had lost almost 100 lbs to get there... but it took extreme dieting and exercising to maintain it, and when that stopped.... bam... within a year, most of the weight was back. I have slowly gained over the years.. finally reaching about 280. I don't ever want to be that weight again... ever!! And I know this is the only way that is going to happen. I wish you luck on your Journey... and Nov. 4th is going to be a great day too!!!!
I was very worried that I wouldn't be approved either. My BMI was 44 when I started and is now at 39. I don't have any major co-morbidities. I'm pretty healthy except for joint and back pain and swelling in my legs. I had asked my Dr. what my chances were of getting approved and she said they won't deny it... because they send the paperwork in at my referral weight and my BMI alone qualified me. I was still skeptical, wouldn't believe it until I got that call. They said it would take 3 weeks... it took 6 days!!
I too was at 200 lbs once... about 13 years ago. I had lost almost 100 lbs to get there... but it took extreme dieting and exercising to maintain it, and when that stopped.... bam... within a year, most of the weight was back. I have slowly gained over the years.. finally reaching about 280. I don't ever want to be that weight again... ever!! And I know this is the only way that is going to happen. I wish you luck on your Journey... and Nov. 4th is going to be a great day too!!!!
Hi Debbi (and all),
I've been experiencing the same feelings, doubts and excitement since getting my surgery date (11/21). For me the key is that over the years I've been great at losing weight, but never able to maintain the loss. Though a bit anxious, I'm mostly excited about WLS as I believe it's the tool I need to help me achieve and maintain a healthy weight!
Losing a boyfriend over your decision is painful, but you have to think about yourself first, and do what you feel is best for your health. When I first told my husband that I wanted to have WLS he simply said "no". Within a day or so, he said he would support me in this decision. Since then, he's been to my consult appointment with me and we've had good discussions about how both of our lives will change as a result of WLS. Though we're solid now, our marriage nearly ended a couple of years ago over my weight gain. Obesity can be so stressful on relationships.
Regarding those people who tell us WLS is "too extreme", I don't believe they really understand what it is like living in an obese body. They just don't get it because they've never experienced the struggles we encounter. Sometimes it makes me defensive or angry. But most of the time I try to be patient and educate people to help them understand. Ultimately, this is a very personal decision and "nay-sayers" should butt out!
I hope you're feeling better with all of the great responses to your post! I know, it really helps me to know I'm not alone in this!
SG
I've been experiencing the same feelings, doubts and excitement since getting my surgery date (11/21). For me the key is that over the years I've been great at losing weight, but never able to maintain the loss. Though a bit anxious, I'm mostly excited about WLS as I believe it's the tool I need to help me achieve and maintain a healthy weight!
Losing a boyfriend over your decision is painful, but you have to think about yourself first, and do what you feel is best for your health. When I first told my husband that I wanted to have WLS he simply said "no". Within a day or so, he said he would support me in this decision. Since then, he's been to my consult appointment with me and we've had good discussions about how both of our lives will change as a result of WLS. Though we're solid now, our marriage nearly ended a couple of years ago over my weight gain. Obesity can be so stressful on relationships.
Regarding those people who tell us WLS is "too extreme", I don't believe they really understand what it is like living in an obese body. They just don't get it because they've never experienced the struggles we encounter. Sometimes it makes me defensive or angry. But most of the time I try to be patient and educate people to help them understand. Ultimately, this is a very personal decision and "nay-sayers" should butt out!
I hope you're feeling better with all of the great responses to your post! I know, it really helps me to know I'm not alone in this!
SG
I have a Nov 6th RNY date. I am excited to get there. I believe whole heatedly that I will be successful. I have successfully lost 100 pounds in the past but it always comes back. And it always comes back because I have never lost that hungry, famished feeling. It is so hard to just keep dieting when you still feel hungry. I am exited because for the first time in my life I believe that the hard work will pay off as I will keep it off this time. We are all headed for great things! Good luck to all of you Nov surgery dates. Be good, do what your doctor tells you and we will come through this successfully.
Teri
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