Hey Martie, everything is going wonderfully as I hope is with you!! Ms Shell

Ms Shell, Hi! Glad to hear from you! How is it going for you? Martie

Hello Ms Shell about time you found your way over here WELCOME Barbara

I think I need to get back to work, but nah!! I'm new to this Forum...doing wonderfully and just wanted to say HELLO to everyone Ms Shell

I am shy but I can and do get fired up at times. I have change my appearance like my hairstyle is shorter, colored contact are blue instead of my brown eyes and with all the exercise I have been doing outside I have a nice tan on my face and arms. The best change is I feel good about my self, my kids and husband is happy with the changes. My brother-in-law decide to state in an unpleasant tone of voice everything he though I had changed like my hair is shorter, my contacts lens look fake, I have been tanning and I had my teeth whiten. I stood there quite in shock for a few minutes and felt uncomfortable in my different ways. I finally said I haven't tanned or whiten my teeth in a calm voice. He urged with me stating yes you did, you can tell you did. My sister-in-law who is my husband's sister finally said so what else did she change. He just shouted up. She again said she has been outside exercise and exposed to the sun, stupid. He finally went inside and she changed the subject. I was left to feel like it was wrong for me to make changes that make me feel good and look good. Those feelings quickly changed to how dare him question me. Who does he think he is: Like, he is my husband? Of course, my husband wasn't around. Yet, this man has the balls to state all this and he himself gets his hair colored because of his grays. I need advice on how to handle this in calm polite way but to make him or anyone else understand that I can and will make changes in order to make me happy and healthy. Thank you for any help, Liz