I'm so sorry that your date was cancelled! I wish you the best of luck in january! At least you didn't find out like my friend that your fdate had to be changed. My friend was hooked up to the IV and was ready to go and the doctor had a family ememrgncy and had to cancel and reschedule to say the less she had her surgery a month later.....good luck on your road to your re-birthday it will be here before you know it!! Good Luck Angie

Hi Shannon. I'm still pre-op and I guess I've had a few of the same thoughts...but I'm really excited! I know I can be disciplined in my eating because I've done it so many times before...but I always give up at some point and never actually reach goal. Have you had that experience? I think if you've lost weight and have been disciplined about your food in the past it helps you feel a little more secure going in to this surgery. Sounds like you ARE obsessing...I think you need to find a new obsession! What do you like to do? Refocus your attention to something else. If you continue to focus on what you can't have you're definitely not going to be a very fun person to be around! I know there have been posts on the main board about "what to do instead of eating" and things like that...maybe you should do a search and see what you come up with. Surely there is something on those lists that would help you refocus. For me, I'm a Christian, so focusing my attention on God by getting really into a great bible study or just reading the bible or singing along to worship music really helps me. I even have some favorite verses that I carry with me to help me refocus on something other than food when I need to. I'd love to give you some specifics of what I do if you're interested...just private message me. You can do this...but it's NOT going to be easy. If you're looking for ease you might as well resign yourself to staying obese. (IMO) I know you've read plenty of people on these boards who have had these surgeries and say it's NOT EASY... Do you have a psychologist or a support group that you can discuss this with? It almost sounds to me like you might not really be ready to take this big of a step...but I don't know you and I haven't read anything you've written other than this post...so I'm sure I'm jumping to conclusions...maybe it's just jitters?? I would say if you're not 100% about doing this you shouldn't do it...but again...just my opinion. Good luck! Heather

Just wanted to say hi! I am having the Ds on 11/16. I am really getting nervous-but excited.

Hi Diana. Glad that we can chat! My journey began way back in April of this year. My health insurance requires a lot before surgery. I had to go to my PCP once a month for 6 months to document my "weight loss" attempt. I also had to go to a nutritionist, a psych evaluation, pulmonary clearance and of course, the surgeon. I have been to the doctor so many times, I can't stand it!! So, this is why I say that I am so impatient and I have made it this far. It has really been a long process. Then after all visits are complete, all results have to be sent to the surgeon and then sent to insurance for approval. I was so excited that it got approved after all of the visits to doctors!! Just last week I went to my pre-op seminar and got all of the info about what to expect after surgery, etc. It was really informative. This Friday I go to get my blood work done and EKG and chest x-ray. After that, I am done with doctor's visits! So, I went to an informational seminar way back in May and that began my research into the Lap Band. The surgeon thought I was a great candidate for the Lap Band, I am not in an emergent situation and need to lose quickly like most people getting a RNY. I have had a lot of problems over the course of about 6-7 years with weight and never really lost anything for a long time. I haev an 8 year old son and a 3 year old daughter and let's just say that I never really lost what I gained with the 3 year old and gained additional too. So, it's been a struggle. I work full time and so does my husband so our eating habits are not the greatest, it's always a *****aotic in our lives trying to pick up the kids from wherever they are and then get home and try to make a healthy, quick meal. And, since we are not home and settled until after 6 most nights, we tend to eat late which is not good. And, of course, I don't make the best food choices, it is so much easier to eat junk food than to eat healthy! My husband is very supportive of my decision and thinks its going to help our entire family eat better. My mom tends to be very opinionated and has not really been all that supportive and at times has questioned my ability to handle to liquid diet afterwards. She tends to be a negative person so I can't let her get to me, I know I am making the right decision for myself and my family. I have been married for 12 years and I think at times she still thinks she can control what I do......but that's a whole other story! It does get to me at times b/c I wonder why it is so hard for her to be supportive. But, it is a constant thing with her so at this point, it's just one more thing for her to criticize. My dad is really supportive....not at all like her. (thank god!) Sorry to ramble on and on....I am glad that we are both on our way and we can hopefully help each other out. So many things will be changing, it is very exciting!! Do you know the time of your surgery or the details about your hospital stay yet? Talk to you soon!! Lisa :-)

Yes, it is worth while. I'm not too upset at this point. At least I know that I'll start my journey in good health. Thanks