My mom is coming!

Okay. Here is what I have been praying for. Long story short, my Mother is coming to live with me tomorrow. I'm so nervous I don't know what to do. I am happy, relieved, excited, anxious, and scared to death - all at the same time. She decided today that she wanted to come live with me so we are jumping on the opportunity before she changes her mind. The ambulance is bringing her here in the morning from Hospice. They (Hospice) are getting me set up with Hospice here but I have to get Home Health Care and I'm waiting on the insurance information. I'm so worried I am going to fail at this and she is going to be miserable, I'll lose my job, etc. I know I am doing the right thing. Please pray for us!!!! Susan

Susan, You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Remember, that you are just one person and you can only do so much. Please make sure that you have plenty of outside help and be sure not to wear yourself down..... You are important too!!!! Hugs, Christy

Yay! That is great news - YOU said... YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING. It will take a bit od tome to get things adjusted. You can do this! Keep us posted I hope it is a smooth transition for all of you sending hugs, Britt

Susan, This is what you have been wanting. You know that the care you can offer your Mother is better than what she had. The home is in better shape, etc... Your heart tells you it is right so don't let the brain override the good thoughts with doubts. Like Christy said, make sure you have plenty of outside help. Other than that, just cherish every moment you have with her. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs, Valorie

You won't fail at this and she won't be miserable I'm sure that she wants to spend her final days as close to you as possible. God bless you on making her last days meaningful. Just remember FMLA will protect your job so don't worry about losing it. Wanda

Thank you all for your encouragement. It really means a lot to me. She has been here since Thursday afternoon and so far she is doing well. She is very homesick and gets emotional quite a bit. But I can't blame her. I would be homesick too. I just keep telling her I love her and that I am so happy to be able to help her. We brought her puppy with her (Jack Russell) and she is definitely helping with the transition. Except the puppy is lonely too because her mother and brother are at my mom's house. She is just now coming out of her shell a little bit and getting off the bed. My Mom has a doctor's appt. today. My company is being very supportive so far and that makes me feel good. I have Home Health Care set up to come tomorrow from 11-5, which they will do 5 days a week and anytime on the weekends also (for up to 6 hours each day). My friend, Debbie, is coming in the mornings until the aide gets here each day so I should be able to eventually work a full day at the office soon. Until then I am working at home. I want to take things slowly with my mom so she won't get uncomfortable and feel like she is imposing on me, which she isn't. Her pain has improved since she has been here. She is only taking liquid Morphine twice a day instead of every 2-3 hours when she was in Hospice. She's not eating very good but she is starting to get her appetite back a little bit. She's so sad but I know she (and my family) is doing the right thing. I just wish she would be happier! Mark built her a ramp going out of my back door to the pool deck on Saturday. He's been over several times since she has been here and he doesn't have a problem with her here at all. My daughter (18) came over Saturday night for a few hours so Mark and I could go to dinner with some friends. It seems to all be working out! Take care and I'll post when I can. Susan