OMG...What an odd thing to say.

Ok - I'm straying from the OMG line a little but... I went to have my hair trimmed (it looks better - almost like it has style while growing out). One of the other hairdressers there whom I've seen around for years and know by name but not much further than that. Calls me over when I'm dont "Trudy" I go to her space "You have lost a lot of weight." Thats it end of comment. What the heck is a response to that. It isn't a compliment. And Duh - it is almost 200 pounds - people notice. It isn't like I secretly dropped 5 pounds. I get this occasionally and I really don't know how to respond. A friend here told me I should say ... actually I'm up a couple. Really though... Thank you isn't appropriate. I usually just say "Yes I have and I feel great." I never know are they fishing to know exactly how much I've lost? I'll tell them I'm proud as I can be. Do they really not know what to say but feel like a comment must be made. Any thoughts?

Trudy, Sounds like you need an updated pic so we can see how the hair is growing out! I don't know what the hairdresser meant - it could be just about anything! Do they know you had surgery at the shop? Maybe she was just wanting to know how much weight you have lost. Maybe she's just jealous! I've always been a person who doesn't know how to take compliments because they were never dished out at home. My mother loved us but we were raised on criticism not praise and, even today, I tend to look for criticism in any comment!!! So, any and all comments on my weight loss, the plastic surgery results and even my new wardrobe make me somewhat uncomfortable. Yet, at the same time, people are getting used to the "new" look and don't comment that much any more. Sometimes I find myself wondering if they are thinking I no longer look as "good:" That's warped, huh?!!! I've learned to do as you did, Trudy, to just say "Yes, I have and I'm feeling great!" Or, simply, "Thank you!" Then, I quickly change the subject to get the focus on them or something else! Going back to my earlier comment about seeing criticism everywhere, I guess on some level I take comments about my weight loss or new look as a criticism to how I used to be. Now I try to be very careful in my own comments to people I see who have made changes! CeCe

I do need to update my picture - I've probably lost 30 or more pounds since this one. The hair now --- I just decided to try to grow it out so it might actually be shorter. I'm ok with compliments... Man you have lost a lot of weight and look great. Is a Thank You but just you have lost a lot of weight is ... odd to me. You are right though I'm sure she didn't mean anything by it. My hairdresser knows I've had both surgeries - however I doubt I'm the topic of their conversations very often - . I have another friend who finds criticism in the comments that you are looking good or how much has you lost. I guess if I over thougth it I could because you look good really means you look better! When I give a compliment I try to remember this and will often say... You look even more beautiful than usual today. Or a comment that compliments their color choice or something. I need to get me some of those stup... I mean index cards so I can do the Beck homework. I kinda stopped when I got to the list of what I needed until I get some index cards. Love talking to you CeCe.

I guess I never thought of it that way... I have had that said to me and I just go on to say how much I have lost and how great I feel.... Usually then I get the WTG speech and all of that.... Probably why I have never thought of it this way.... I am sure she meant it as a compliment and wasn't prying for more information... Some people just don't know how to pay a compliment I guess..... You have done a great job and should proud of every pound you have lost..... HUGs, Shawn M.