are you still losing

I am 14 months out and havent reached my goal yet. I am scared that I am done. All I read about is people who lost all their weight the first year. Did it take any one else longer? Oh and I can eat with no problems which also scares me. it seems like I have no will power. Help!!!

Hi, I just made a year,and I am still losing. I lost 10 pounds this last week. I do think after a year I tend to eat the right things. I do not crave fried foods, they look like crap to me. I guess will power plays a part in this. Have you thought about finding a support group in your area? Over Eaters Anonymous has meetings for WLS people. I believe dealing with the disease I have of over eating has helped me so much. If one has not dealt with the head hunger,the reasons that drive us to eat, there could be a problem. Having WLS and not dealing with your emotions can place you in a bad place. Please seek help. Blessed be.

We can still lose, it's just harder some some of us than others. I can eat with very little feeling of restriction too. I haven't had the typical smptoms of wls from day 1. I agree with you, it is scary. But, I think success has a lot to do with developing good habits. Each time we give in to impulse eating, we strengthen our bad habits. Each time we follow the proper eating plan and exercise, we strengthen our good habits. It's fairly easy to follow the habits that we have established. You don't have to argue with yourself to brush your teeth or take a shower. You just do it without thinking because it's your habit to do so. I agree with Linda if you have deep-rooted food issues (like most of us here) support groups like Overeaters Annonymous can be very helpful. If you are lucky enough to find a competent therapist, that's great too. I've not had good luck with either. But, I do find this online support group very helpful. Don't give up Ann! There is something about us reaching our one year anniversary that stirs up a lot of emotions. It seems like some of us feel "done" and stop following the rules, others get freaked out because we should be "done" and we aren't, and every other emotion out there. You know what to do. Just tell yourself that age-old word that we don't want to hear--which is "NO". It goes like this..."I'm hungry and I have to eat now even though it's not time--"NO"; I want to enjoy donuts and bagels with my coworkers---"NO!" You get the idea. It's hard to do, but it can become habit. Check out Judith Beck's book The Diet Solution. I found it very helpful. Keep posting. Studies have shown that being active in a support group like this one increases your rate of success. Post even when you would rather not!

I don't get to reply alot here but I thought I would jump in on this one. I stalled for about 2 months this summer. I would assume it was my bodies time to catch up to the weight loss I had already gone, but in the last two months I've dropped almost another 25 lbs and I'm still losing. I have to wholeheartedly agree that the food choices that we make now are what is going to establish the weight loss and keep it off in the long term. We are all here because we have food issues, what to eat, how to eat, when to stop, how much to eat oh the list goes on and on. Good luck in the future and the regulars here always have the best advise!!

Dearest Ann, the main thing is not to give up, do not isolate yourself. I have to update my profile, but I think as of today I have lost 223 pounds, and I have limited motion. I do not know your age,but there is another forum on here called the Over Fifty Forum, and actually, we do not care how old you are. I went to them a while ago because I gained weight do to a medication (10 pounds), and I freaked out. I asked if I could post what I was eating on there (after they made me feel welcomed), that month I lost 27 pounds and I have been there every since. Like Wanda said to me there is nothing wrong with being bi-forum...LOL. Please visit there, it is active. We are not perfect, but if you have to eat that donut one day,it does not mean you have to eat them all week. The only one who can defeat you, is you. Hang in there girl! Here is something cute..it helps. write in a journal pray exercise - bike, kayak, walk, play frisbee, play tennis, swing sleep take a bath get a massage have sex color draw do a puzzle read go to the bookstore, get a cup of tea and read travel books or magazines watch a funny movie go shopping and try on clothes (my new favorite) do some volunteer work play with kids blow bubbles Hope this helps!! Hugs!