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I ordered the book and workbook combo from Amazon. I was just reading more from it tonight. I think it's really going to help me. I have always felt powerless over food--if I had an urge for food I felt like I had to give in. And if I were actually hungry it felt like an emergency! It's time to take our power back and learn how to self-talk out of those situations. And you are right about developing new habits. It will pull us through and each time we practice our new healthy habits it will get easier. Just like every time we give in, it's easier to give in the next time. Just say "NO" to those doughnut-eating co-workers!

Wanda, Thanks for the info about the book, I'll look for it. What you said about changing our thinking to be more like a thin person makes sense. I still see myself as fat. I can't seem to stop it. I need to get out of that mentality. Re the fissure, it's a result of the constipation and passing hard stools (TMI---sorry). I thought I knew pain,,,but until I had this fissure ....I guess I didn't really know. It's been about 1 month now that I've been struggling with this problem. I was a little constipated early post op but didn't have a problem until just recent. I tried to think of what I've done differently and then I read on the main board (I think) that someone posted that if they took those Citracal Creamy bites for their calcium...they'd get horribly constipated. Bingo...I just started using them a little over a month ago. So, I'm laying off of them for now and trying to get this fissure healed. Loretta

Sounds painful and a little dangerous. I hope it heals up quickly for you. Your story is going to make me much more cautious.

Loretta, I too have struggled with constipation and also have fissures. Something I have been doing for the past 3 weeks that seems to have helped me is eating Activia Light Yogurt. Now it is not the best tasting yogurt out there but I definately have seen a difference in my bathroom habits. Maybe you could give it a try. Let me know if it helps, Valorie

Valorie, Thanks for the info about the yogurt...I'm willing to give anything a try. Loretta

I so totally understand and hear ya. It seems like a daily battle and some I win and some I loose! I told my doctor at my last appointment about having a cracker sometimes or some other indescretion and he said "Would you offer an alcoholic a drink?" I'd never think of doing that but I do it to myself all the time. I'll just have one - well one it too many and 15 isn't enough. I was active in overeater anonymous for a long time and sometime we had what was called white knuckle abstinence. Meaning we were holding on to the chair to keep from eating. When I have had good days recenlty that is what it has been like. The weird thing is that in my head even though I can see a good positive healthy food day I still feel like it was bad if I obsessed over food the entire day. Frustrating as heck! I am so totally with you am I depressed because I am eating or am I eating because I am depressed. I guess it really doesn't matter - I am eating and I am depressed! I am in therapy and working on the depressed part and I am working on the eating part so that is all I can do. Keep the faith - we can do this.

Hi Trudy, It helps to know that others are struggling thru this also. I think I thought when I had this surgery, I'd never be hungry again. And that's why I think I'm depressed is because I'm am hungry so often and give in so often. I feel weak and like a failure and I hate that feeling. I've decided to talk to my GP and see if he'd consider putting me on a anti-depressant, just temporarily. I have been stressed lately, a little more than I realized, so that might just be adding to things as well. thanks for your reply Loretta

I am going through the same exact thing & its so hard when all you think about is food-its like suddenly 4 weeks ago the thoughts popped right back in my head. My Group therapy leader suggested a book called: The Taming of the Chew. I just got it & started it. So I havent tamed the urge to chew yet-but the book is making sense so far. Good luck to everyone-I am glad to hear I am not alone in this battle!!