Sabotaged!!??

Ok, so I was on vacation last week and had no problems sticking to my eating plan. This week I am back at home and back to work. Monday I came into the office with doughnuts on my desk. Tuesday the girls just had to have Japanese for lunch. Wednesday the sales manager brought in Panera bread bagels and today the girls wanted Pita Delite, steak and cheese. I feel utterly disgusted with myself for giving in to tempation and distusted with everyone who is out to sabotage me! Am I crazy? Are they really out to stop my weight loss? No, I know they are not but it sure seems that way. We have to be the worst eating office in America! It never stops. All of the 1st shift office personnel could stand to lose a few pounds. None of us is skinny or even remotely thin. We use to try to "group diet" together so that we had support. Now I feel left out. No one wants to eat healthy. Their idea of healthy is a veggie tray with cream cheese spread/dip to graze on all day. I know that I could just say No thanks, but it is so darn hard. Anyone else have the same feelings or am I overreacting? Thanks for letting me vent. I am just so darn frustrated. It is so hard to be good when everyone else is BAD. Temptation is everywhere. I need some advice to help me the daily temptations. Valorie

I know what you mean but I don't think they are trying to sabotage you. They just don't care what you are going through. I honestly mean that in the nicest way. Not that they don't care about you but your issues are not their issues so it doesn't apply to them. You have come a long way since the day you had major surgery to help you deal with a major problem. Now is the time to smell the cake but walk away. I know it is hard but you can do it. As so many have said before "Nothing tastes as good as being thin feels". It is so true. Just keep plugging along and know that we are here to listen and help you through your hard times. Remember why you had this surgery. Your son wants you to play with him! By the way, he's adorable!!! Hugs, Susan

I find it so hard not to give into temptation. I find that if it's in front of me I cannot pu**** away and then I try to eat too much and I'm miserable. Now that I can eat more this does worry me is it going to start to be a habit that I can't control. I don't mind going out to eat because I can control how much I eat and I'm always excited about leftovers. Life is going to get in our way no matter how much we don't want it too. I try to eat good almost all of the time so an occasional indulgence should be alright. I hope that's not what I used to say to my former fat self. LOL Deb

I am sooooo with you this week Valorie... I had my "Tastefully Simple" open house on Monday... I cooked and baked for 3 days to get ready for this thing.... Anyway.. only 8 people showed up and I have tons of leftovers calling my name all week... I am going nuts here.. I have gained about 4 pounds this week I think... They are not sabotaging you, they just are doing what they know as routine or normal... Try your hardest to resist.. and I will too.... It is good that you posted here and are trying to keep focused..it is so hard when there are so many temptations out there to get us off track... just remember if you get off track, to get back on track the next day... don't let one day discourage you.... HUGS, Shawn M.

Valorie, Some days are just hard!!! While others are SO easy!!!! Why is that????? I think perhaps your office friends - do not like that you are doing soooooo well and losing weight and they aren't !!! So if they ask and you give on "oh well" (for you) !!!! Stay strong! Be Determined! Don't let 1 day - let you get off track - ITS - TIME - RIGHT - NOW - TO REFOCUS!!! YOU CAN DO IT!!!! sending ((supportive hugs)), Britt

It is possible that they ARE trying to sabotage you. Maybe they realize, maybe they don't. If they are true friends then they are happy for you but human nature being what it is--they probably are jealous and don't want you to do better than they are. I think if you realize they are sabotaging you then it's easier to rise above it. Do what is right for you and don't let them pull you into the dark side!

Oh, Valorie!!! I remember working in that type environment! There was ALWAYS something and we had these huge birthday cakes every few weeks and I always loved that butter cream frosting! I liked the frosting without the cake!!!!! I'm so spoiled now that I only work a few hours a week and that's teaching at a gym!!! I can't imagine dealing with that sort of temptation daily but YOU CAN DO IT!!! I used to go to my favorite coffee shop and get a Cafe Au Lait skim and a bagel several times a week. These days I go in there and get my coffee but walk right past the bagels. It's so easy now, I don't even think about the bagels! Of course it helps knowing I can't eat and drink together and that bagels tend to get stuck but walking past them time after time has taught me to ignore them and reduced their POWER over me! They are now just part of the landscape because I know they are on my "no no" list. Candy is the same way. I know I can enjoy PLENTY of other foods! Foods that are not a trigger for me. Carbs/sugar have always been my trigger foods. I know every single day that I have to avoid certain carbs. If I don't, my journey is much harder and one day of overindulging leads to another. I'm more frightened of that happening than anything else in this orld so that is often enough motivation to look away from those foods. Sometimes it isn't and my weight loss suffers. My blood sugar gets out of balance. And, I could KICK myself because I know what I've done! For your sake, you have to learn to "ignore" those treats in the office and if you go with your coworkers out for Japanese or whatever, decide ahead of time what you will eat and stick to it. With practice it will get easier and you won't feel deprived. Plus, you won't be kicking yourself later and having your blood sugar in balance will make those choices easier!! I did want to share that ALL my past dieting downfalls started following a vacation or people visiting me for more than a few days. Like Wanda said, I would feel like I was still on vacation! Sometimes I would do so well DURING vacation (like you did in California) that I felt like I'd deprived myself and deserved some good meals out or extra treats when I got home!!! I would spiral downward. So, Wanda, Valorie and Shawn dealing with working herself to death to prepare for an open house and a husband's STUPID comment, climb back on the wagon! WE NO LONGER REACT THE WAY WE DID IN THE PAST! WE DON'T DWELL ON WHAT WE DID OR DIDN'T DO. WE CARRY ON AND WE BECOME STRONGER! WE DON'T BEAT OURSELVES UP ANYMORE! WE JUST GET ON WITH IT AND RECOGNIZE WE ARE HUMAN! STARTING RIGHT NOW, WE ARE MAKING HEALTHY CHOICES! Valorie, walk away and THINK about the treats available. Ask yourself if you are REALLY hungry and if you will be happy making that choice later. Tell yourself you are at least going to drink some water first and wait before eating it. Give yourself a CHANCE to make another decision. Wanda, PLAN some meals even though your husband is gone! My husband goes out of town on business and I find myself doing exactly what you are doing - just having a bite of this or grabbing something. Get some fantastic takeout, set a beautiful plate and have a dining experience. OR, call a friend and go someplace nice. Take home the leftovers! Pamper yourself by eating only food WORTHY of you - expensive stuff not junk!!!! Shawn, journal, talk to hubby, take care of wounded Shawn!!! Did I get carried away or what?! CeCe

Thanks guys, I really needed the pep talk. Again today the office went out for lunch. Me, I had broiled scallops and a salad. the leftovers will be great for dinner too. I think my biggest problem is myself. I have to remember WHY I am forgoing the "treats" That "treat" is not worth going backward even one small step! I am worthy of a thin, healthy life! You guys always remind me when I forget. I will succeed, I will be the person I want to be. I will not be the person others expect me to be. They expect me to be weak and give in to temptation. That stops today! Thanks for being there. You guys always tell it like it is! Hugs, Valorie