Update on my family life

I guess I never came back and posted what happened before the judge last week. He was released on his own recognizance with one court and held in jail until they could contact the 2nd court to see if they would allow him to be released as well. Well, the 2nd court was closed (they only have court a couple times a week). But they ended up matrixing him out that evening about 8:00. So he didn't have to stay overnight. He has a sentencing in the first court on Sept. 17. He found out his probation officer had written in his file he recommends 45 days of jail time and revocation of probation, so he'd be free-and-clear. But our attorney is going to try to get that time whittled down. The sentencing by the 2nd court is in October. Usually the 2nd court follows what the first court does, so we are hopeful that he won't get MORE time at the 2nd one. So, we are operating as normal until Sept. 17 when we will find out if he has to serve more time. At least the warrants are cleared and he won't have to worry about being picked up. UGH! Then, he had a custody modification hearing last Friday. His ex wanted temporary supervised parenting time but filed the wrong papers. She basically got told she cannot keep her son away from his dad, and she had to abide by the court order. She couldn't, at her whim, decide to only let him have visitation at her house. So we are resuming regular visitation ASAP. We haven't had his son with us since June. She looked absolutely ridiculous in court. She basically told the judge that she didn't know how to unfile her motion because they had worked things out. The judge told her it is not the court's job to micromanage relationships. She also wants mediation, which he agreed to a long time ago, to set up a parenting plan with me. He told her she could not force me to go to mediation. She just wants to do everything through the courts. I told her afterward this was silly and she should just talk to us. We are all on the same side for their son, and there is no reason we can't set up parameters we can all live with without involving the court. She wants to talk about issues. But she won't even tell us what issues she has. So when we go to mediation, we are going to bring up our issues we have with her, whi*****lude her driving her son around after she has been drinking. She had a friend that told her she wouldn't let her son come over because of her drinking, so she knows she has a problem. Anyway, the whole can of worms will get worked out. She is just a pain to deal with.

Kim, I am glad to hear that they didn't keep Henry over the weekend. I am sure that both of you will be happier when things are finalized and you can resume a "normal" life. (If you find out what that is, PLEASE let me know!) Everyone has something from the past or even in the present that they have to deal with. We just do what we can to correct the situation and not repeat our offenses. It doesn't mean that we are bad people, merely human. You will be in my thoughts. Hugs, Valorie

Kim, You have been in my thoughts and prayers. I am sorry that you are going through this. I know this situation is the last thing you need right now. You and your family are in my prayers. Christy