Don't lose anymore..

Is anyone else getting upset by people telling them not to lose anymore? I am 5'6", am down to 141 which for me is pretty comfortable. I wear size 8/10 depending on fit. I am not really trying to lose more, but if I do, that is OK also. My surgeon never set a goal for me, I chose 140 as a goal just because it was a nice round number... Anyway, I lost my temper with my father when he told me I was too skinny and needed to stop losing... I have a terrible self image from fighting my weight all these years, and now I have him and others telling me I look bad with the weight gone. Yesterday it was my Pastor's wife ****pt my cool a bit better, but did get my point accross that I ws letting my doc worry about when enough was enough) I was just wondering how others were coping with this.. Some of the people making the comments know about the surgery, some don't... Sandy

I'm only 5'4" and weigh 152 and some people tell me that I've lost enough! They mean well. I'm sure none of them realize how it bothers you. It doesn't bother me a bit. I enjoy hearing. But of course, I'm the one with the goal of being called a skinny b_ _ _ _! I guess in this day and age when anorexia is so prevalent the people that care about us worry that we might take it to the extreme. Size 8/10 is awesome. And a size 6 or a 4 isn't too extreme so just follow your own heart. I know someone who is a size 2 and she doesn't look too skinny because she is muscular. You will know when enough is enough. It's your body and it will tell you where it wants to be.

I have mixed emotions when people tell me not to lose anymore. I am 5'5" and weigh about 150-153 pounds, depending on time of day Hello I'm neurotic. But it also depends on who is saying it to me. I'm realizing now that I had some friends that kept me around because I was the "fat friend", someone who made them look better or feel better about themselves. These are the people that seem to be all of a sudden threatened by my weight loss and the attention I'm getting. When they say not to lose more weight, I don't think it's out of genuine concern for me, but because they think I'm looking better than them for the first time. One friend actually had the nerve to say to me, "You can't be thinner than me." Then I have friends that I know really care about me, support me, and are genuinely concern that I look healthy and not gaunt. They also make statements about how all they want for me is to feel healthy, no matter how big or how small I am. I think as long as you are comfortable with your weight loss, weight, and emotional status... that is all that is important! We did this surgery for ourselves and we have to follow our own programs. You will always have support on here! Leah

Sandy, I have been having the very same issue! I don't mind when people tell me I've lost enough it is when they start telling me not to get anorexic or start looking for negative implications on my health. I have developed low iron and now use additional iron suppliments and a few family members have grabbed ahold of that and said they new this would effect my long term health..... Well of course it did! FOR THE BETTER!!! I am no longer on blood pressure med, my blood sugar is normal, my sleep apnea gone, my cholesterol is great, foot pain gone, shoulder and neck pain gone etc.... I am 5 ft 6 1/2 and weigh 152 my goal is 135-142 which are both in the middle of the healthy range on weight charts. I have listened to my mom and others lecture me about my weight my entire life and the saga continues! Thanks for bringing this up because I don't think I realized how much it was bothering me and I needed to get this out! Desiree

I'm 5'4 & weigh 160 right now, wearing a 14/16. I have a personal goal of 140. I know I need to loose more, no one has told me to stop yet, I actually look forward to hearing someone tell me that once in my life..LOL

Oh can I feel your pain! I AM losing too much, and I know I need to stop. I'm in constant contact with my drs. and working on it, but I am getting tired of hearing "you need to stop losing weight." I was in my performance evaluation yesterday and my immediate supervisor actually said in the meeting, "If you lose any more weight you REALLY need to do something about it." SHE KNOWS I AM DOING SOMETHING! I actually collapsed at work last Thursday and they had to take me by ambulance to the hospital. She came with me. She KNOWS I'm on top of this. AGH! Ok, I guess I got a bit riled up there. But I also want to say, how many people are saying this to you that knew you when you used to be thin? Most of these people didn't know me then, so only remember me heavy. And while I'm losing more than I want, I don't appear skeletal or anything, and my health and energy are good (when I'm not passing out from exhaustion-I was running 5 days in Vegas for a seminar and working OT and planning my wedding). I weighed 115 up until my early 20's, so this weight is not unheard of for me. I'm 5'4" and 112 today. I would be happy at 125, and will probably get back there when I'm out of the losing phase of the procedure. Sometimes, being on top of it doesn't always equate to the result we want. I think the thing that bugs me most is people who think I'm not doing anything to keep my health and to try to stop losing more weight. Dang it, just leave me alone and be happy that I'm not fat and unhealthy anymore. Ok, off my soapbox. LOL!

People tell me every day that I look fine and shouldn't lose anymore. Here is my answer..."I'm still overweight". After they get over the shock, I explain that my BMI is not in the normal range. I am 5' 2 1/2" and weigh 138. I set 135 as a personal goal which makes my BMI 24.7, the high end of normal. If I can lose more, great, if not, also fine....I am wearing some 8's, 10's and 12's. I feel all of my bones. I have a little flab in my abs, on my thighs and under my arms. I know I look better but whatever happens, happens. My body will tell me when it's time to stop losing.

Sandy, My family tells me every time I see them that I should not lose anymore and that I look fine... I just remind them that I am still 189 and my goal is 160 (it is actually 150, but I want to keep them happy so I fib a little... lol) They seem to think I will be too thin, but I don't think I will. I just remind them that I work with doctors on a regular basis and they are making sure that I am losing in a healthy way and that I have all my vitamins and such.... They have their opinions and are entitled to them, and I am still gonna do, what I know I need to do. I just try and bru**** off. I know that I still need to lose weight and when I am done, I know that I need a TT, which they are all against, but I will still do what I know I need to do. In the end I know that they are behind me and are just concerned for my health. Good Luck Sandy.... you are doing a great job, keep up the good work!!!! Shawn M.