Severe pre-op nausea.

I'm going to have surgery on the 30th, and it doesn't matter if I'm eating, or not eating, every time I think about how close it is, and whats going to happen not only physically, but mentally, I start feeling very ill. I haven't thrown up yet, but I'm afraid as time gets closer I'll be violently throwing up, and I think from anxiety. Has anyone ever done that? I almost feel like it's not going to happen if I go down that road. I really need this done, and I want it done, and it's got nothing to do with the way I look, but everything to do with not dying before the age of 45. Are my feelings normal? Does this happen to other people too? Miranda

Hi Mandy, I think its normal, scary thoughts can produce a physical reaction. Your adrenaline increases and it's a fight or flight thing. It you don't do either the adrenaline isn't used as it should be and has no where to go. Your heart rate increases and your tummy gets upset. Your brain sends a signal. You can't have this reaction without the thought first. I know its not easy to stop the thoughts, because the anxiety is there. If you are still concerned about this , do tell your surgeon. He can give you medication, both an anti anxiety med and something to stop the physical reaction. And yes, all of us get scared, nervous and upset to varying degrees. You have alot of support here, and do get to some support group meetings in your area. You are not alone. God is in control, try praying and taking just one day at a time. Focus on the prize, and just remember how healthy you will become very soon. Its a roller coaster ride. I know. Keep in touch with ladies who have just gone thru it. There are many just coming home here on the November board. We all need support. Keep the faith! Cissy

Thank you for the advice. I'm already starting to get really weepy too. I have maybe two tears, but I'm trying to fight that off, so it's just weepy and not actual crying. I think though that that has alot to do with my hormones. I've been spotting for over 30 days now, one of the reasons why I need this done. It sucks, big time.

Hi there, I am a Nov. 20th surgery date. And I can tell you that everything you are experiencing is normall! I have been emotional and very inwardly focused as the days get closer to my surgery date. Instead of crying I find myself very short on patience. LIke wanting to break-up wth my boyfriend because I don't think he's supportive enough! I have to remind myself that this is not a time to be making major decisions in my life! Too many hormones and not enough brain cells are at the steering wheel of my life. So . . . be gentle with yourself. Talk to your doc and do things that bring you pleasure whether it is soothing music, a bubble bath or a good book. Pamper yourself and when you feel your self heading down anxiety road - start some deep breathing and divert your thought process to the postive. It may help to write down all the reasons you want this surgery and put those thoughts in your head when you start being anxious! Hope this helps! We're all here for you whenever you need to "talk"! Denise

Completely normal. I just had my surgery on Tuesday. Monday prior to my surgery was the worst day ever... I'm 4 days post op and finally feeling a little better. It's going to be hard, there's no point in sugar coating it. But, I firmly believe it'll be worth it. For the past 3 days...I've wondered if I made the right decision. I've wanted to give it up to be able to eat cheese, pepperoni and crackers - how crazy! But...then I look at the good stuff. You'll have your life! And nothing beats that. You'll do just fine! Stay positive!

This absolutely happens. I can tell you that first hand because my surgert for an Open RNY is on the 30th as well! When I start to doubt myself and I start to feel sick, I make myself start thinking about something else. Or I'll start a task or something fun. I ama also bothered mentally as well. I have been on depression and anxiety medication for quite sometime now. So I realize how important it is for me to try and "snap: out of the "funk" as soon as I start to feel anything negative. Not easy sometime, but I know this is the right procedure for me and I just keep thinking how good I will feel and look. I am 55 yrs.old, with heart disease, high blood pressure, Cholesrtrol,and pre-diabetic. Don't want it.......saw my Mom suffer with those thing for too many years. Time to take control. I will be thinking of you on the 30th and will keep you in my prayers. ((((peg G.)))))

Thank you all so much. I started feeling better when I got it down "on paper" so to speak. Writing is a big outlet for me. I think I might be over it, but I'll keep a look out for negative things. I don't want to sabotage myself. I appreciate all your advice and you all wil be in my thoughts.