Kim, Yers ago I lost weight and weighed 138 pounds - 5' 3 1/2." Like you I thought "far from thin." After all, I remembered kidding in high school that if I got up to 130 I'd kill myself. My then partner said similar things as your husband, and I was furious. I said, "I've heard about men like you who sabotage weight loss" and rattled and railed at him. Then one day I came around a corner after a shower and caught myself in a door mirror unexpectedly - sh*t. *I* saw ribs. And raisons. Our 30s and 40s are not the same as our teens and weight charts don't reflect that. Sometimes our goals need to be altered from a long thought of number to our current reality. Counselors will tell us we often aren't the best judge of our body image - we can see ourselves as fat looooong after the reality has changed. I'm sure you've seen truly emaciated girls who still think they are fat - I think we can be a milder version of the same phenomenon. Just my 2 cents as I stumbled upon this board. Barb, aiming for the 150's this time around.

Kim, I am so sorry that you are going through this! I have a very supportive husband, hopefully he will continue to be throughout, we shall see. I would suggest that you both speak with your bariatric counselor if you still are able. I do tend to agree with your mom however, that this does sounds like one of his issues, and it is a big issue. Just remember where you have come from and why you had this surgery to begin with. I know strains on our marriages our tough, but our vows were through thick and thin sickness and health, and right now your thin and health are for you to enjoy. I would try having a heart to heart with hubby and see if there is anyhing else going on to bring up all of this sudden change of heart for him. Could be he is jealous that you are smaller than him, or maybe he feels threatened that he doesn't look good enough for you anymore, or afraid that you will stray, who knows.I know we do talk about this from time to time at group and it is hard. I am sorry that I can not be of more help to you, just know that I am thinking of you and hoping for the best outcome for you! Hugz Dawn

Just tell me where to sign up!! I'm starting to really ENJOY exercising!! DianeC.

Yep, I have to up the exercise too. It will be interesting to see what others are doing. It might give us something new to add to our routine.

Thanks for joining the challenge. I'm getting so excited!!!