getting noticed from opposite sex

Lisa I am soooo proud of you for making so many positive changes...mentally and physically. Keep up the good work...you are worth it!!! Tanya

tanya, thanks so much for saying ur proud of me. ive been working really hard at these changes and they arent always easy but i know its worth it. it means alot to me to hear someone is proud of me. lisa

Lisa You're welcome! Anytime Tanya

Hey Tanya I have been all three (married, single, dating...) and I do understand what you are saying. I have personally found that when I am NOT "looking" but only focusing on TAMMY, I end up being more attractive to others! I've heard other people say that when they "aren't looking" men come out of the woodwork...well I think there is something to that. Soooo, keep focusing on TANYA... you're doing a great job!! Hugs, Tammy

Tammy AMEN to that! I have always said I am NOT looking...just ready when it happens. Thanks for the support Tanya

I went to a BBW dance on Saturday night, and got SO many stares, invitations to dance, compliments, etc. Maybe my confidence is making me glow, or maybe it's just 'cuz I simply look better. But either way, I'm DEFINITELY getting more attention than ever, especially from men. I agree you find what you're looking for when you're NOT looking for it!!! I think it's 'cuz when you're actively searching for a guy, you can tend to look/act desparate, which is a big turn-off for guys. Either that, or when you are looking for one specific kind of person, you may overlook someone great for you who was right there in front of you the whole time. (Kinda like when you search and tear apart the whole house looking for your keys, & they were sitting on the kitchen table all along!)