getting noticed from opposite sex

i was just wondering if anyone else has noticed or been getting more attention from the opposite sex since surgery? and how r u taking it? does it make u uncomfortable or mad or happy? ive lost 45 lbs and already can tell a huge difference in the way ppl react with me. well everyone is liking the new me except the guy i been talking to lately ( my x husband--dont ask) he never gives me compliments on my wl or anything. never notices when i dress up or that ive lost about 2 pant sizes. but other men r really noticing!!!! personally i like the attention cause i never got it before. but i know im more approachable now than i was 2 months ago. so i dont get mad cause they prolly wouldnt have talked to me b4. truthfully b4 i didnt want them too. so just wondering, have yall noticed getting more attention and how r u dealing with it? lisa

Lisa, This is a great post. I have major issues believing guys when they say something nice to me. Since I'm aware of my issues, I try to just accept the compliment, move on and not over think it. I like the attention, but when it comes from a man who has been in my life before surgery, I take a step back. Because it's like, before I wasn't good enough and now that I've dropped some of weight, they want to be in my face. I'm not feeling that and I give their compliments no weight. I can go on and on, so I better stop here.

diva, see it totally get that.!!! my x never gives me compliments now even though we r/were trying to get back together. but i get all kinds of attention from everyone else. im not used to the compliments so i just say thanks and blush. i try to give new guys the benefit of the doubt cause heck they didnt know me b4 and they r prolly glad if they knew the truth. i was not the friendliest to guys. but now i welcome the attention. it makes me feel good. lisa

MEN! I've had LOTS of people making comments lately about my weight loss, both at work and church. Because I work with the public, but mostly see the same 200 or so people over and over (in the bank) I get to know them/some of them pretty well. I've had to deal with this before, as I have had significant weight loss before, just could never KEEP it off. The most important piece of advice I can give is DON'T TAKE IT SERIOUSLY!! Just say "Thank you" and move on. These guys don't know you... they are just attracted to your physical beauty. Nothing wrong with that, just don't take it too seriously. I also wouldn't worry about your ex-husband not saying anything. It could be he just doesn't know what to say without it sounding uncomfortable/unflattering. I'm sure at some point he'll come up with the right thing to say. On that note, my husband, who is loving and kind, made a comment a couple of weeks ago about my thighs getting wrinkly and having sagging skin (which IS true.) At the time I didn't appreciate the comment... But later he appoligized and said he was just making a comment based on observation and that he was proud of me and my efforts! Good luck Lisa, you are doing GREAT!! Hugs, Tammy

Tammy I so get your comment about the legs... mine too are sagging and my wonderful hubby kinda said the same thing about mine ..add a couple of bird leg comments.. I wasn't sure if he was insulting me or what but he said later that night... you know I wasn't being mean i was just "amazed" I don't know.. I think amazed might be a good thing! Have a good day friend.. if it warms up I am taking my sagging skinny legs outside to do some walking! Kim

Amazed is DEFINITELY a good thing!! Isn't it funny how the weight comes off certain places over others? I'm focusing all my weight loss energy on my tummy and hips! Nothing like having "skinny" arms and legs and a big middle! Tammy

Tammy.... You crack me up you are so funny! I so get where your comming from.. skinney legs look strange next to my stomach.... I thought the plans awlays was you lose it first from the last place you gained? I think my tummy was a weight magnet! And jeans... jeezz.. nothing like being way 2 big in the legs so they can fit you in the hips/stomach! Yikes! Have a good day friend! Kim :wave"

i havent had many ppl make comments but what i am getting im enjoying. i try not to let my x husbands lack of support bother me but ya know,we r possed to be trying to get back together and he just acts like my worst enemy through all this. he constantly eats things in front of me he knows i cant have, he makes fun of me bout how little i can eat (2 ozs), and then the lack of support when i am doing good. now i remember all the reasons we divorced and i just dont think this is gonna work. thanks for saying im doing good-- sometimes i worry bout my wl but since ive upped my protein im doing better. cant wait til i can say im down 50 lbs. anyday now i will b able to!!! lisa

Lisa Thanks for posting this comment. I've been having some issues with this very subject. It's always nice to recieve compliments I tell you what...it's REALLY difficult being single right about now. I mean I don't want an Ex coming back into my life (and boy are they trying) and yet it feels weird when I meet someone who is interesting in me right now. I'm torn...it would be nice to have a man beside me though this journey and yet I sometimes think it would be better if I just wait until I am done losing weight (so he doesn't have to deal with this). I don't want to have to explain my WLS to a new man. It's my journey....is that selfish (probably) BUT for once in my life this is all about me and I don't want any distractions. However, I am still a young single woman (with needs...ya know). What do you think??? I would love to hear from everyone married, single or dating. Tanya Lap RNY 11/17/05 327/275/???

yeah i understand bout being single and going through all this. i think it would b nice to have someone to talk to and share my excitement. but we have to be careful who we pick to accompany us on this journey. not everyone understands or even cares(see my x for that) bout our journey to getting heathy. and u know, i thought i wanted to try to get with my x again but the more i lose the more i respect myself and want more in a relationship. i now know i deserve to be cared about and cared for. i havent always known that. so for now im trying to figure out a way to get rid of my x and enjoying my new health and wl. and im enjoying the attention. i even have a new friend so we'll see lisa