i need YOUR help...please....

Ok so its confession time....In November I was one year post op. Ive lost 115lbs. Since i was about 7-8 months post op, sugar and carbs didnt bother me. here lately. thats all ive been eating. i quit protein shakes. i quit everything. i started eating to much. i havent gained thank GOD. but i havent lost anything in well over 5 months. I have started back on track with watching my portion control. drinking plenty of sugar free koolaid, and eating protein protein protein---or drinking it.. The people that are around my length post op- Please help me. I want to know how you eat...waht you eat, and when you eat. I need amounts, i seem to have forgetton everything.... I have 15-20 more lbs to get to my goal of 145 and I WILL GET THERE..... i got the BEST news today. My aunt and uncle called me for a meeting today and told me they would pay FULLY for me to have my tummy and my arms done if i would get to my goal. So please help me. I have no support here at home. I mean i do, but everyone at work is overweight. all the wanna do EVER is eat. My mom *where i eat dinner at most nights* frys almost everything she cooks, or cooks nothing but carb loaded foods. I NEEEEEEEEEEEED support. Ive NEVER been to a support group meeting, bcause im scared to go meet new people. Im scared to go by myself. I feel like i have completely completely failed this, even tho i havent gained. I feel like i havent used my tool to its full potential and i am disqusted with myself. Please help me!!!!!! Thanks Hilary

They always say the first step is to admit you've got a problem. You've done that.... Now you know what to do next..... Pull yourself up by your boot straps, dust yourself off, and get back on that horse and ride! Protein first, GOOD veggies second.... and sip sip sip...... Good luck! Hugs, Karen

Hi Hilary, Get to a support group meeting, there are many others there that are afraid to meet new people. Make this your goal for right now, take baby steps. There is so much information you can gain from support groups. And that is what it is is SUPPORT to get you through these rough spots. I am doing the same thing you are right now, I am in carb city right now, I know what I have to do, but doing it is hard, these are the little monsters that will haunt us the rest of our lives and we must gain control over them. I know what I have to do, is get back to the basics, and concentrate on protein, calcium, vegies, etc.. I try but night time hits me and the munch monster begins. Anyway I think we both have made the first baby step in admitting that we have a problem with this. Just remember there is help out there, you just have to go and get it. Shannon

I think we all go through little periods where we dont follow the rules, you have a great incentive now. you are so lucky, wish i could have a tt and arms done. you can do it. its only a few pounds and you have the motivation or you wouldnt have made it this far. I am with the last poster though you need to go to support groups, i never miss them, they really help keep me on track. I found some medical records while cleaning up some old papers yesterday and they were from just before my surgery, i weighed 278lb and now i weigh 150. it really made me feel good that i have lost so much, I keep a before picture in my purse so i can look at it when i am feeling down or thinking of cheating. We are all here to help each other so if you need some support or what ever just jump on here and spend time with all of us. This board is kinda slow right now and we need to get it revived especially now that we are all far enough out that our loss is slowing down. Good luck to you, Carla

I have found that if I eat my protein first then I do a much better job of staying on track. The challenge for me is to not eat some crunchy carb when I get home but before dinner. I try to have some easy protein in reach. I eat a lot of seafood--quick and easy to fix as well as low fat and calorie. I have to keep crackers/nuts/sweets/etc. out of the house completely or I will eat them. I know it is uncomfortable to meet new people, but you really should get to the support group. They will be very understanding and supportive. Best of luck, Sally

Hilary; First off, you've done great with losing 115 lbs. That's awesome! Are there things you can be doing better? Sure. But should you be disgusted with yourself? I think that's a little harsh. Definitely find a support group in your area. If you can't find one that clicks with you, find an active forum on OH where you can get the support you need. Check your state forum. I know not all state forums are great, I'm lucky with the Texas board. It's the best support I could have ever asked for. Go back to basics with your eating. 70-90g of protein a day, then if you've got room left, healthy carbs, lots of sugar free liquids and regular exercise. I find the more protein I eat, the less cravings I have for anything else. You can do this!!! You've lost 115 lbs. This last 20 is definitely a manageable goal and with free plastics as an incentive...WOW! I know you can do it. Please keep us posted on your progress. I'll be cheering for you. Blessings, Jennifer

Hilary I right there with you hun. I noticed I have been having the same habits and I am bouncing back and forth between the 208 and 215lbs which my goal weight is 160-180lbs. I am 6ft tall.So lets compare notes. I need to get back on track as well. ok my doctro told me 80 to 100 grams of protein a day. 64ounces of water minimum a day. 2 m ultivitamins, 30 grams or less in carbs a day. i would love to go to a support group that actually supported ans talked abotu the issues I am facing but the one that is where I live doesnt. I had a great group in Ca but her ein MA I havent found the IT group for me yet. So goign backl to the basics what did your doc tell you about the foods you where to eat. AMy

I feel your pain!!!wish I could help you. I can only be moral support as I am in exactly the same place. nov.1,2005.