The things nobody wants to talk about...
Hey Tanya,
As always I am RIGHT THERE with you on your post. Gosh all the things you mentioned are my ball and chain right now, those darn 5 lbs and my skin being the WORST. I must say I really don't worry too much about goal, since my Dr said I am so darn healthy and did so well it is up to me if I keep losing. I honestly think if I could get my PS, I'd be below goal. Not that I don't want to see 150, but I've been holding steady at 155 (give or take the 5) since fall.
I want to add a few things that nobody wants to talk about...
*The cost of plastic surgery...OMG it's horrific
*The fight to get insurance to cover any of it...they MIGHT approve my TT, but I need the butt done worse, and that is NEVER approved which IMHO, just isn't right. I compare getting into my jeans to putting jello through a funnel! If I don't laugh, I'd cry!
*The stinking (pun intended) gas that I still have...it started after surgery and never went away. YUCK!
*The emotional changes that come about STILL at over a year out. I still go through the stages of being needy and wanting attention and compliments or through the stage where I still see obese me and nothing anyone does is right because I'm unhappy being "so fat". Yes, I know, I need a whole team of shrinks. ;)
*How SO's journey with you is difficult too. I think it's been just as hard for my DH to adjust as it has been for me, if not harder because he could see me all along and he'd get so frustrated that I couldn't.
I'm sure I could come up with a hundred others, but that will do for now.
Christine
Tanya 
Tanya, I am with you, sister.
Being over 14 months out things are not nearly as easy as they once were. I find myself fighting the demons that got me fat in the first place every day. I am a stress eater... and am currently under a lot of stress... all I want to do is eat. I'm not hungry, just want something in my mouth.
I don't have trouble with sugars, so I have a small candy bar or a few pieces of choclate every night. But one, becomes two... and I know where that is going to get me.
I have the 5 pound fluctuation, and haven't lost below my lowest since October. I go back and forth between being happy with my results and being pissed at myself for not being at goal and still struggling with food issues.
I really understand now that the surgery was just a part of the process. I still must face and defeat the forces of evil weight gain every day. And some days I win, some days I don't.
I am glad to see that I am not the only one facing this... it's better to know we aren't alone. I have a few pre-op picures that I have on the front of my 'fridge to remind me of where I was and how I felt and looked. I AM NOT going back there again.
I do have a good friend who is 2 years post-op this month. She did great for the first 15 months, then she started gaining.. she lost over 135 pounds and has added 50 back. She feels like shi*, her energy level is low, her legs and back are hurting again. I have talked to her again and again about putting the weight back on... and she just can't get remotivated to lose it again. That WILL NOT be me.... I refuse to let it be me. Hugs to you all and I plan on doing a weekly roll call to check in, keep in touch, support each other and let us know how it's going.
Jacki K
Surgery 11/04/2005
283/180/170??
I realize I am answering an old thread, but I'm just now reading it!
Ok, here's my issue.
Maintaining is scarey! Not just a little, terrifying. I am actually below goal, and trying to convince myself that it is ok to eat more, in fact necessary, after a lifetime of deprivation and dieting. I am freaking out that I will regain and end up back where I started.
I'm also struggling with the sugar demons. I am eating sweets every single day. I know that is why I feel tired all the time. So, what do I do about it? I live on caffeine. NOT the best choice in the world.
I don't exercise. I am more active in general, but don't exercise.
And guess what? Losing the weight did not solve all of my life problems! Hmm, who would have thunk? lol. My feet still hurt ( bone spurs), my back still hurts.
Diana
You're not alone...we all seem to have our struggles and I know that JennSA struggles with maintaining her goal weight too. She travels a lot and tends to lose too much when she's away from home...and it scares her too. I will say this...I have found my healthy balance...and I love myself...everyone should. I'm not perfect...nobody is...BUT I know that I live a healthy balances lifestyle and I'm ok with that. I still struggle at times with not being the weight or size I "want" to be...but I also try to remember that I'm not where I was...I'm not 329 pounds...I'm not tired all the time...I'm not in pain all the time...I eat healthy and feel more in control of what I do to my body...I exercise...I drink a lot of water...I take my vitamins. My point is focus on the good and move forward. If you're really scared about being under weight and having food issues...you should consider seeing a therapist. I know I always keep that as an option for myself...if I need it I will do it. I've said from day one...this surgery is 10% physical and 90% mental.
Please feel free to email me anytime if you want to chat further...you're not in this alone
Tanya
Tanya I think I am doing ok, but these are things that are just not talked about in general! Over all, I think I have a good outlook. I am healthy, and doing ok maintaining. I am keeping the option open for a therapist, but I am doing alright. I agree with it being 90% mental for sure! I will probably email you after the weekend (actually spending the weekend alone with hubby, with no kids!), heading out of town in a few hours, and need to do some laundry so I have something to wear! ( course with no kids around maybe I won't need clothes
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