Psychi and Stress

Ok I havent been on in awhile and I decided that no better place to emotionaly vomit than here with people that understand my relationship with food adn my struggles. Ok the Stress factor is 2.5 months ago I had emergency gall bladder surgery adn in the diagnosis ended up with a formal complaint to the Hospital which I could have sued for( misdiagnosis) I live like 42 miles form the hospital and was passing out litterally and was told to go home and eat somethign I just have low blood sugar. Well next day i saw the clinic on base and they said my gall bladder was so bad I was scheduled the next morning for surgery and they were worried I might burst over night. But as you can see I am ok. The second stress factor is my father died July 27th and when I arrived back home to do the funeral arrangements it was Jerry SPringer had to call police get Lawyers and litteraly prepare everything and I am the youngest in the family adn live 1800 miles from Home. So now things are calming down more but in a way they are not. I am now having to move to Boston MA in two months . Gotta love the military. Ok my weight has not been moving in a couple of months and now am getting frustrated. I am 210 lbs adn my doctor said I am to be between 160 to 180 for being 6 ft tall. I am really frustrated I am almost thinking of going back to square one again but dont want to go extreme if I dont have to. Amy

Amy, So sorry to hear of all your stresses. Remember why you had the surgery to begin with, it's for you. I am frustrated with my lack of weight loss lately, and can sympathize with you. When you get to Boston, look me up, the support group meetings I attend are in Winchester, and are great. Keep your chin up, Diane

Amy; Sorry to read about the stress you've been under. You've made a great first step by coming back here and getting support from those who have been there. It's good that you've had time to recover from your gall bladder surgery and that is working out. Scary how some hospitals completely don't have a clue. I used to live by one of those when I was growing up. No one ever wanted to be in a situation where you were taken there via ambulance because it wasn't likely you'd make it out. I'm sorry about the loss of your father and the ensuing melee. I hope you've had time to grieve and are healing from his loss now that you're back home and away from that craziness. Unfortunately, the military will never change. It always seems they're moving people cross country at the worst times. But, at least you're far post-op now...you're not having to deal with changes in surgery schedules because of the move or early follow-up care issues. So, while it's not ideal, it's not the worst thing that could happen. With regard to your weight loss. Anytime I stop losing, I go back to basics - not as extreme as going back to liquids or soft foods. I refocus on protein, water, vitamins and exercise. Yesterday, I even started using fitday.com again to help me see where I've become lax in my routine. And I found out that I'm not eating anywhere near what I should be for a 9 month post-op. No wonder I'm not losing weight very quickly...I got in less than 700 cals for the day. Also, exercise will give you time to think and enjoy some time away from others while giving you a positive endorphin boost. You'll be in my prayers. Blessings, Jennifer

You have had a tough time of it lately. I am sorry for the loss of your dad. I am sure that you are missing him terribly. Although you have not lost any weight during this time of stress, you have not gained any either from what you write. That is a miracle and likely would not have happened in the bad old pre-wls days, am I right? Celebrate this small victory and be proud that you did not regain any weight (or significant weight). Now get back in the saddle and get back to the business of losing that weight. Good luck and happy days in the future.