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Okay my arch nemesis at the office - has to date only made one comment about my weight loss - "I am starting to see it in your face"... Okay from any one else this would be a compliment I suppose - but 58 pounds in my face - oh come on you can definately see it on my A**- To me it just sounds like a snotty comment - She's going through the process to have the surgery herself... I guess you'd think she'd have nicer things to say... Well - i admit I'm a little b****y about it - and will try to find the grace to support her journey - as my mom always said "kill them with kindness" - oh but once in awhile it'd be nice to be able to throw a verbal jab... I guess she must feel pretty bad about herself to be so thoughtless. Sorry to be so petty about this.

I am thinking that you are right about her feeling pretty bad about herself to be the way she is toward you, although I dont necessary think she is thoughtless - I think she is probably doing it on purpose (although what do I know?? lol) My best guess would be that she is probably extremely jealous of how far you have come already and she wishes she was where you are. Some people, I guess, are not able to understand where their feelings like that are coming from and they just lash out at the one they are jealous of. I know how frustrating it can be although I havent gone through your exact cir****tances - but I think your mother is right. If you are the one who is always kind you wont ever have anything to feel bad about. I know for me, if I throw in that verbal jab, I might feel pretty good about it for a while, but then I end up feeling more guilty than anything because I resorted to being just like them - and I DONT want to be like them! LOL You aren't being petty - this is how you feel - and you came to the right place to share it - we all know how you feel to a certain degree. I just want to encourage you to take stock in how far you have come - YOU know you are doing great!! YOU know how much better you are looking!! AND YOU know that it is just this woman's jealously that is refusing to let her admit it to you. I admire your efforts to find the grace to support her in her efforts (I know you will find it!) And who knows maybe in time she will be able to admit to you her jealousy and maybe even ask for your forgiveness for her being so snotty. Maybe you will end up with a new friend! But even if that doesnt happen, you can rest in the fact that none of that was your fault and you took the high road and did the right thing! God bless you and keep you, ~Andrea

I understand how you feel! Some people just don't feel good enough about themselves to give others compliments!! It's too bad!!! But you know the truth so that's all that matters!!!!

58 lbs from your face?? That's at least your whole darn head! Some people just can't stand to compliment others - it's almost as though if they do it will take something away from them. If I were you, I wouldn't give her another thought....and be glad that she's NOT looking at your a** By the way - I think you're doing great!! Deb