World evolves around food!

Has anyone else noticed how much the family gatherings evolve around food? My parents are driving me mad by having 4 tables of food for 5 people! Since i have had the surgery I notice how much my family eats and it drives me crazy. They also eat very unhealthy and get mad if i say anything. So ive just sat back and watch the pig-outs. It is starting to disgust me. Am i alone on this??

When we go to lunch with my parents they are already talking about where they are going for dinner, before they get the bill. I find that I constantly am still obsessing about food, but part of it is because I want to eat it so desperately but then I can't eat enough to really enjoy it, so I am trying to learn a whole new relationship with food. My parents are just average sized, but I don't know how!! My husband is obese but not MO and our two children are average and I hope to keep it that way. I have learned how much people talk about food. It is no wonder I ended up how I did! Roni 240/197/140

I totally know what you mean. This has been an insane month I never really realized how much food there is in December. I work in an office and everyday someone was bringing in chocolate cookies, chocolate candies, cookie trays. Somone had a birthday and they had chocolate cheescake!!! Talk about will power I used to be addicted to chocolate. I told my self this would me sick and went to get fresh air or take a small break and kept drinking water. I must have saved 1000's of calories just by saying no this month. I am from an Italian family and also used to cook for a living. So I know too well about your life revolving around food. Today I fianlly watched the food network. But I actually got some good ideas to put flavor in food instead of ecxess fat and calories. So I am going to try to come up with something different to eat besides chicken. I am down 32# and had my surgery November 15th...Thank God I got threw Christmas...Happy Healthy New Year!!!

Angela, My parents are average weight normally they eat very healthy. People indulge at Christmas!! It doesn't bother me. My thinner sister can eat goodies and not gain weight...but she doesn't do it everyday. Everyone has a different metabolism. My older brother watches what he eats but during Christmas he eats my truffles, fudge, sandballs, thumbprints, banana bread and cheesecakes. I started baking for the family while I was in college. My nephew asked if I'll still bake the desserts he has enjoyed all his life at X-mas and I said YES. My joy came from watching them enjoy my goodies. I didn't need to eat them. Thin will feel too good. As I passed out plates of sweets to my neighbors they were happy and I was very happy as they told me that I looked great! I know it would be hard to watch people constantly eat unhealthy if they are overweight. I don't bother the grown ups they know what they are doing. I try educate my neice about eating a protein based breakfast b4 school to get her through to lunch. Try to take it easy on family especailly if they took it easy on you before WLS. They may slowly come around as they watch you lose weight. You'll look great and be healthy and they'll want some of that!!! My husband stopped drinking soda since my WLS I was in total shock he was a total Diet Coke-A-holic, but I didn't make it a big deal. Good luck with weight loss...WOW that family of your!! Summer 240/203/140

Summer, I know exactly what you mean. I had a cousin come and stay with me over the holidays and I was constantly cooking and although I love to cook, I have done so little of that since my surgery. I was at a holiday party a few weeks ago and everyone was eating and I noticed how much people shovel into their mouths! I'm sure I used to be like that, but it's so wild to see it from this point of view. Anyway, good for your for staying strong! Diana

Hi Angela I completely identify with you. I notice now more than ever how much others are eating. Especially around the holidays. It bothered me at first but then I remind myself that eating that way is what got me to my highest weight. I made this decision for me and to improve my health. I can point things out to the people I love but I need to be careful not to "preach" to them all the time. I remember what it was like pre-op when others would scrutinize my food choices and the amount I was eating, and it made me so mad. Now I "can't" eat that way anymore. Susan