not seeing me as others do?

Hi everyone!! I am have a problome and wondering if its just me or am i going crazy??? My hubby thinks i am needing to see a shrink! I look in the merror and see a not as fat woman but i see where i am not skinny and he thinks its all in my head. Why dont I see what others do???? I have so many people tell me how great i look and yes i know i look a lot better but I still see a too fat person. I know a lot of its skin but i just dont see what others do??? I look at a lot of others who have had this surg and they look so great. My neice is still a size 16 and I am 8-10 but she looks smaller to me than me??? I guess its cuz I see me without clothes and we are our best critics. I dont want to sound like a nut or ungratful for the weight have lost I am just confused. I have always been large framed and know that has some to do wth it. I guess if I could only get my insurance to cover a tummy tuck i would feel better about me. I have been told that your brain hasent cought up with your body yet???? Tell me does any one eles feel this way? love and peace Deb

I too feel as you do! I see the skin hanging off my arms, thighs, and stomach in the mirror- not everyone else sees the "worst" of me so I believe I am my own worse critic. AND a big part of it is psycological. If I say "I'm fat" then I won't be as inclined to eat like a "thin person" and hence keep the weight off that way. It's just another way to fight the battle of regaining. My husband thinks I am nuts too because I say I'm fat and eat only salads, drink water, etc. BUT I will do and say whatever I can to help fight the pounds. A tummy tuck would be heaven scent- but then I'm sure I'd find something else to complain about! Thanks for posting! Celeste 303/155

I think we all see ourselves still FAT. It takes a while. I have had to take so many clothes back to the store because i tend to buy them too big. I cannot believe i am in 4-6-8 depending on how they are made. I went to the resale store yesterday and they are having a half price sale for summer and i went wild. For $30.00 i bought two bags full of nice size 4-6. I tried everything on and made sure it fit. Have fun buying clothes and enjoy this small stage we are in. I am happy to be this size. People tell me i am too small. Oh well, better than too FAT. Have a good day. Deb

I also am going thur exactly what you described. I am now down to a size 0 and sometimes even a girl size 12 but I feel so fat! I see the hanging skin on my arms, tummy and thighs and I just hate it. I am on the waiting list for a tummy tuck next year. My husband says I don't need to lose anymore. My mom and dad said I am too small. I am in between a small and medium frame. I eat what I am supposed to but try not to eat an extras. Sometimes I have just as much trouble trying to find clothes that fit me as I did when I wore a size 22. But I feel better and I think I look much better without the extra weight. I also wear alot of cute clothes now and I enjoy it. I feel better about myself and I am a college student and my grades have been straight A's and I have so much energy now too.

I am really bad about it. LOL. My son graduated from high school this past June and I did not recognize myself in the pictures. Honest. I recognized the outfit, but not me. Kept thinking "who was that women and why was she wearing the same outfit as me?". I did get my insurance company to cover a tummy tuck (what a difference, or so I am told). Everytime I do laundry I look at my clothes and feel fat. I think "I am never going to get my butt into this", but sure enought I do. I thought my eyes would have caught up with me by now. Chris 396/170

I also have that same problem. When I mention I need to lose some weight people always say I must want to ******exia. I went from a size 20 to size 8-10. I guess I lost the weight so fast that when I look in the mirror I still see a fat person. They always say that your mind will catch up with you later. I am 2yrs. post-op as of 11-18 and still see myself as fat. I am now doing so exercises on the ball to tone my stomach area then maybe later I can save up and get a tuck. Also the other day I had gained about 15lbs. because I had been eating alot of sugars and carbs. as of today I have started to watch the sugars and carbs so that by Christmas I will be back down to about 150. Anita 221/165