Pregnant

I found out yesterday that I am 6 weeks pregnant. I did not have a chance to post yesterday because I was stuck on jury duty all day. My husband was not speaking to me (I don't really know why but I could tell he was in a foul mood so I left him alone) so I have not discussed it with him yet but he pretty much already knows. That may be the reason he was in such a bad mood. Needless to say I am a mess of emotions right now and the constant dry heaving is not helping. I knew I wanted another child but I had resigned myself to the fact that I was not going to have one. I know my husband will love another child but I also know he does not want another one. I have a very deep fear that he may leave or cheat again if I force this on him. I am also concerned about the baby's health and mine as well. Can I nutritionally support a pregnancy? I had a giant scare with my last child when some genetic tests came back abnormal (he was perfect in the long run) and I don't know if I could handle the thought of a choice I made affecting my baby. I am also having what I know are very vain and selfish thoughts about how this may effect my weight loss. I am just getting to a place where I feel good about myself and now I am worried that I could gain all the weight back. Almost like God was only teasing me by showing me what a size 10/12 is like. I know that sounds stupid but I can't help but think it. I am starting to ramble but again I want to thank everyone. I feel like this board and sight in general are one of the few places I can turn that really understands. Melissa

Hi Melissa! I am not the preaching kind but I truley belive that everything happens for a reason. Ask your doctor if he/she thinks now is a good time for a child. That may help you with your decision to have/not to have at this time. I hear it is really risky, however may women have had only at 8 mo's out. I wish the best for you and if you need someone to talk with you are welcome to email me at any time. Best of luck to you, Nealy

Meliss - I know a gal who had the surgery and some time thereafter became pregnant. She did wonderful! and she continued to lose after the baby. You just need to remember to keep those vitamins going in and do what the docs tell you. You two will be marvelous! and God bless you honey

I work in Labor and Delivbery and have had a patiernt who had had surgery. She had a hard time and I believe that she delivered early ( way early) But everyone is different. Deffinately seek the advice of your surgeon along with your OBGYN Don't worry about the husband, do what you have to do for yourself and your baby!!!!!

You CAN nourish both yourself and the baby at this point post-op but you will have to "eat around" your surgery and it will quite likely mean that you lose less weight in the long run than you would have otherwise. Your 18-month window will be almost closed by the end of the pregnancy. This is a decision that only you can make. Their is also a pregnancy board her--be sure and check it out. Carolyn DS 11/03/03 317/198

I am going to venture out and say what has not been said. CONGRATS!!! I ended up being a bypass patient from all the excess weight gain of fertility. YOu can def have a baby after this surgery and you will have more energy to enjoy this baby. I have a friend who lost more weight after the baby then she had before (bypass patient too). God did not play a joke on you with a baby - he blessed you with one. I have triplets and a total of five children and work full time. I often feel like i am going to pull my hair out - but i have so much more energy since the bypass. Dont deprive yourself of a good thing. As far as your husband is concerned - cheaters will cheat if they want to and dont have to have a REASON! Just keep that in mind. Do what is right for you. But dont do something that you might regret later in life either. See out your answer within yourself and not within your skin - and no matter what you choose will be the right thing for you.