need a little encouragement

i had my open rny on 11/4/03 and so far am only down 66lbs anyone else slow like me? i know i shouldnt compare or complain, but well, sometimes i cant help it i started at 262 btw and am 5'6"

Heather, according to my calculations you have lost 61% of your excess weight at 7 months out. That is great! You can't really compare yourself to people with higher starting weights or BMI's--of course they are going to lose more pounds, but probably not a higher percentage of excess weight. For example, I had my DS on 11/03/03, and I have lost 110 pounds....BUT, I have only lost 66% of my excess weight (I am 5'4" and started at 317 pre-op). So if you are comparing pounds lost, 110 versus 66 doesn't sound good, but when you compare apples to apples, it is 61% for you and 66% for me and that difference isn't significant. Just keep eating right and exercising and you will lose what you are supposed to lose. A successfull RNY journey would mean you would lose 75% of your excess weight at 18 months out, which would leave you weighing around 180 pounds. Good luck! Carolyn DS 11/03/03 317/207

I'm right there with ya sister!!! I had mine on 11/4 and am only down 71lbs ( very slow the last 2 months) I know we aren't supposed to compare but... I keep reading all these amazing loss stories and its very discouraging!!! I started at 280 before surgery 272 at surgery and now I am at 209. I am 5ft 6in

yes, everyone is different. comparing ourselves to others can bring depression and discouragement. We have to look at ourselves. Are we more healthy now then we were 7 months ago? The weight loss is great; but I also consider the fact that I no longer have to take 14 pills every night to keep blood pressure, cholestrol and Type II diabetes under control. All of us had the surgery to lose weight; but some of us had co-morbidities and needed the surgery to get healthy again. I have more energy; and I feel better about myself. So look at the overall picture; keep to the plan; and never give up. hugs to all. mark g.

You are doing great. The weight will come off eventually. I bet you feel a lot better these days. Congratulations on your 66 lbs!! Laura 11/4/03 240/162/135?

I can sympathesize with you. I had my RNY on 11/17/03. To date, I have lost 98 lbs. I started at 367 lbs. and still want to lose 90 more lbs. I have friends who have had the same surgery, but had it 2-3 mths. ahead of me. They have lost a lot more than me and it seems like they lost it super-fast. I found myself comparing myself to them and it was making me feel VERY upset and discouraged. What I have been working on doing is accepting my weight loss as just what it is and not a reflection or a failure compared to others. Just try to think of the positives that have come so far, whether its more energy, smaller clothes fitting you, people's compliments, whatever it is that you see as your successes of this journey. I have been in counseling for awhile now and what my therapist always reminds me is that we, as individuals, need to recognize and accept ourselves at all times and not always be looking to be someone or some other size. Just live in the moment and for what you are NOW, not in 6 mths. from now or a year from now. I hope this helps and keep up the good work! Take care..Karen