FEELINGS

i'm having surgery in 8 days.but i'm having so many mixed feeling and not sure if i'm suppose to be feeling this way can't really eat anymore.did anyone else have these feeling?

Hi Joyce: Oh, yes, VERY MUCH SO... I drove myself and all around me who knew I was having surgery, crazy... I'd go from happy and excited, to depressed and petrified and then to a very odd "CALM" feeling when I felt NOTHING... I went over it in my head countless times... "Should I, or shouldn't I?"... "Is this right?" ... I'm a single parent, is it fair to risk my life when my kids may suffer?... Have I truly tried to lose weight other ways first?... Oh, geeze, I must've ran every conceivable scenario through my head the 2 weeks before surgery... I second guessed myself, the surgeon, the procedure I picked (bypass vs. lapband)... Thinking to myself, well, lapband has a mortality rate of 0%, maybe I should do that instead... I even got in touch with my ex-husband, made him swear to me that he'd make sure the kids would be self-sufficient and independent in life and he'd always watch over them... When he laughed at me and told me there was no reason for me to panic, that I'd be fine, I calmed down... I had "all my chicks in a row" and somehow that made me feel better... I tied up all my loose ends and realized, what happens, happens... We have no more control over the results of surgery than we do with living with being morbidly obese... Joyce, yes, we ALL felt that way... You're normal... Best of luck, take care and my prayers to you for a speedy, uncomplicated recovery!!!...

Hi Joyce, I know EXACTLY how you are feeling, as a matter of fact, I am having surgery the same day as you !! This weekend was very emotional for me ... All kinds of feelings, happy, sad, excited, scared... I cry I laugh.... my poor hubby!!! LOL But in all honesty, what we are experiencing is completely normal... If you need to talk ~ just email me! [email protected] Take care anf best wishes.... Jess

I know what you mean. I too will have surgery on the 24th, and I am so apprehensive about things. My family got together and had "Thanksgiving" dinner for me on the 16th so that I could enjoy dinner with them and guess what, I couldn't eat. All that wonderful food and I picked at it like a little child. I can't sleep, but mostly I'm fighting a sinus infection that I pray will be cleared up and I can go through with my surgery. I pray everything goes well with you. See you on the losing side!!!!

Ty all for posting. I needed to know that someone else was having these feelings.Tommorrow is pre-op for us all.Wishing u all a speedy recover!!!!! We all will be on the losing side soon.GOD BLESS

I was a total basket case! I went through every emotion known to man and woman! Even now, two weeks after surgery, I am feeling wonderful, no complications at all, but I miss food. It's gotten a little easier over the past couple of days, but still hard. I still have feelings that I will fail. I know all of my feelings and yours are normal! You will do fantastic on your surgery. You will learn things quickly and there is a wonderful support system on this board! Make sure you use it! God Bless!