as the day gets close

as 11/7 gets here i keep getting nervous and start reading sad thinks on here...in the beginning all i read was positive now there r so post on the main message board that r really sad and now i'm scared what should i do?

I'm sorry I didn't read your post before I posted about this same topic. believe me, you are NOT alone. My nerves are frazzled and I'm trying my best to stay busy as not to think about it TOO much, its NOT working...and my DH keeps going "are you SURE you want to do this"?? The answer is YESSSSSSSSSSSSSS! I am sick and tired of wearing fat clothes and have never lost more than 30 lbs. at a given time, so I am looking forward to opening my closet and being able to peel something out and it FITS and may even be TOO BIG eventually! Thats gonna be soooooooooooo cool! ((((HUGS)))) Anyone ever had a "nervous buddy"? LOL

I'm schedueled for 11/3 and I had a rough weekend, but I am back on track. Here's why.... Saturday a freind who had surgery monday calld me to say she was scared to death. Then she told me some sad story about a patient who died recently that fit our description. After that I was a mess. I went to the memorial pages and read most of the memorials. I was trying to find out WHY...WHY are people dying and what can I do to prevent it?! I know all the stats are in my favor, I just agree with you, it seems like all the negative things are popping up NOW! I talked to my Mom and she says "you don't HAVE to do this" (she is nervous for me of course, but also very supportive) and I told her "No way, I still want to do it, I am just nervous, which is normal." Then last night, I downloaded some pictures from my camera and WHOA! There I am!! Looking as big as ever! So I am back on track, very excited, with a touch of nerves. But mostly READY! It is so unreal! My insurance issues were NONE, so I am really lucky this is happening so fast. But for those of you who have had to FIGHT, this must be even more unreal!! A "FINALLY" moment. You have jumped all these hurdles and FINALLY there are NO MORE hurdles to jump....it is TIME!! WOO HOO! GOOD LUCK TO US ALL!!!!

I think when we get closer to surgery, we are much more aware of the negatives that "may" happen. Kind of like when you buy a new car. At first you are convinced you are the only one with the new car, then all of a sudden everyone has the same new car too. So since we are scared about the surgery, negative posts are popping out all over. Prior to this, we read them BUT they didn't have the personal meaning they have now. Any time we have surgery, there are risks. Most surgeons have us going thru MANY tests ahead of time to prevent complications, suggest we lose weight and exercise ahead of time to prevent complications. Many times complications happen because a patient didn't follow the doctors orders following surgeon, some times they just happen. BUT remember if you follow your doctor's advice, the odds are definitely in your favor (and mine too) that we will have a complication free surgery and recovery. I highly suggest NOT reading any negative posts, focusing on the positives. I know it is not always easy, but it will help eliminate much of the stress we are going thru. Hugs, Mary

I understand completely. Just keep thinking positive. Everyday I say I'm doing fine then something crosses my mind and I get all wired up again. I keep praying, thinking about the future when I can do all the things I couldn't do, and take one half of a Xanax if I really start freaking out. I know this is what I want to do, what I need to do, so, I will do this. One day at a time...one day at a time. Good Luck!! Prayers. Debbie

Lisa, I am sure I am one of the people who posted "sad" or scary things. I am sorry for that. I meet more and more people who have had the surgery and no problems at all. I just have to have faith that it will all be ok. I just don't like the idea of leaving my husband behind. It's the thing that scares me more than anything. I am starting to think of the positive things. I keep thinking that it may not be impossible to be 100 lbs thinner by Memorial Day weekend. That I will be moving to "burned down" San Diego and can enjoy the weather and out door activites. I think about feeling good. Having better self esteem and of course SHOPPING! Anyway, hang in there. Your fears are normal, as are mine. Come here for support this site has been incredible!