Haters!!

I am 6 months post op and have lost 102 pounds (Thanks to God) I am finding that close family and friends (not all) are so mad and don't really want to talk or hang out. Some have started to diet and always find they want to compete. Lot's of strange changes. I don't rub it in or talk about my weight loss I am very careful of that unless someone asks. So is this going on with any of you??

I know how you feel. I've lost most of my friends due to my weight loss and I think its silly. I never judged them by there weight, so why should I be. Its a jealousy thing and I just learn to ignore it. Im hot noe so get over it. my mom is a lil like it too. We are in the same size now and I still have 54lbs to go. Its killin her that im gonna pass her. You think, dont you want me to be healthy? Oh well, I didnt do it for anybody else so they're not going to bring me down. Keep your head up.

Hey Sarah!! I have had the same reaction from friends and family....I have 2 sisters that don't even talk to me hardly since the surgery...only when they want the clothes I don't fit into anymore.....I have also noticed changes with my sister in law's friends too....she has wls in June 07 and has lost 130lbs....friends of hers didn't ever want to do anything with her before the surgery and now they want her to go out all the time...I feel if I wasn't good enough to go when I was overweight, what changes things now? I can't believe how people change when something as wonderful as this surgery has done for us, why they can't be happy for us??? I say they can just get over it!!! Be happy with who you've become and enjoy life to the fullest!! You are beautiful and no one can ever change you!! Your wl friend, Amy Crump

Hey, WOW I thought I was the only one going through this... Not that I'm happy anyone else is, but I'm glad someone knows how I feel. I am at my 6 mo and I have lost 104lbs. to date. My best friend seems very angry all the time, we were supposed to go thru this together, but she changed her mind at the last minute. Now I'm getting thin and she is still over 300lbs. I am actually feeling guilty about losing my weight.

First of all, let me congratulate you on your weight loss. I looked at your profile and WOW! I'm sure your children are really proud of their Mom. (I am sure they were before too. Hope you get what I am intending to say I am seeing it now as well. It is unreal actually. I guess part of it is human nature, but WTH? Even one of my closest friends who weighs 135lbs/ size 5, is now "on a mission" to lose weight "b/c" I "can't be skinner than her"!!! I have a co-worker that keeps saying "now I'm the fat one". WHAT? Also yes, everything has become a competion now. It's nuts! I re-did my office at work, now this same person is going around making ridiculous comments about it, and stating her office is better!!! How old is she??? These people are insulting us and are so absorbed in their jealousy and insecurity, they don't even realize it. (BTW - my office looks fantastic!haha) It's is very strange in deed. Glad we can all relate b/c this is a weird situation that I think only we can understand. Good luck. Hope things work out better real soon.

hi sarah i had rny on oct 2nd 2007 i have lost a total of 264lbs all together people tell me al the time that i loo great but i still see the big guy how ever when i started losing weight i had people really not be the same around me and i have told everyone that just because i am losing weight i dont want that to hinder friendships or to make people be jealous or make them feel bad about their own wieght issues but i there were some that had issues but oh well i am doing this for me not for them and to be healthy and if they cant get over themselves then so be it its their loss totally!!! good luck and remember you are awesome!! kevin

I am so proud of you!! Congrats!!! I am speachless you have done a great job!!! Do you have myspace or hotmail??? my email is [email protected]