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HEY TIFF, I'M GLAD WE WERE ABLE TO GIVE YOU SOME ASSISTANCE. WE'VE ALL BEEN THERE AND DONE THAT, SO YOU'RE NOT ALONE. YOU'RE A BETTER WOMAN THAN I AM. I GAVE INTO TEMPTATION AND ATE AND ATE AND ATE CANDY. IN FACT, TODAY I'VE HAD A HANDFUL OF DARK CHOCOLATE M&M's. SO, HHHHHHHHEEEEEEEELLLLLLLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPPP. DONNA, SFY

I haven't been on board in awhile and today I was just feeling so down. I did the same thing and gained 5 lbs in Dec. The women here at my office are doing their own version of "Biggest Loser" so I'm doing that trying to motivate myself and get back on track but it just disgust me that I had gastric by-pass and gained weight. I can eat so much more now and I feel hungry all the time. I feel like you - I eat as much as a normal person. I stopped losing weight in August so I know this is going to be a battle. I work out 3 times a week but even that didn't keep me from gaining weight. I love chocolate and I was surrounded by goodies all month in our office. Anyway, I just gotta say I'm so where you are and I wish you the best of luck. Thanks.

Hi Rebecca, nice to see you again.. Looks like we are going though the same thing. Thanks for posting and letting me know I am not alone.. Looks like we are about the same age too.. Alot in common.. I have done so much better since my post.. I have not had one piece of Chocolate.. I feel good that i can acutally say no. I couldnt do that before.. Please keep me posted on how you are doing.. You look good.. So no worries there!!! Luvs and Hugs! Tiff

I'm down a few pounds so hopefully I'll stay focused and get the 5 lbs off I gained and then start working back toward my ultimate goal of 140. I looked at your profile and see you've checked into PS - it's so expensive isn't it! I'm like you - not worried about the boob job but the other stuff scares me. I have a friend who had extended adominal plasti (i know that's not spelled correctly) - full tummy tuck and it was so painful for her and the scars are pretty bad. Anyway, you look awesome. You look like Daisy Funetes - hot! Good luck and hope to talk to you later!

Hi Rebecca! Yes, PS is so expensive.. Very Scary.. I know you can get to 140!!! I have Faith!! Daisy Funetes?? WOW Thanks!!!! Talk to you soon!! Luvs and Hugs! Tiff

Hi Tiff, I know I am not on here ever but I just could not help but give you a hug today when I read your post. I do not really apply to much of the diet anymore being so pregnant and without being on my meds being on the puter is pretty painful so I am way guilty of not keeping up with anyone on here. Anyhoo I came to read today to see how everyone was doing and you just made me shiver. I just want to jump through and give you gigantic hug. I am right with you though on the old *wants* coming really back into play. I have been given a green flag to eat whatever I can get down to keep the baby and myself fed but now that I am only 8 weeks away from this little guy being here I am starting to think about what I am going to have to face then! It has been painful to watch my hubby too during my pregnancy ....... point being that it is *really* easy to go back to eating how you did. There is nothing stopping us. He has gained I am going to guess 20 during this and he is going to have to loose it while I do. He had the same thing you did at work. Lots of treats and candy and so on. Plus when I have my cravings for cookies or ships or anything of course he is the best hubby and gets it for me but then of course he has some too. So now he is starting to see the ramifications of it all as well. I am so happy to read that you have been able to get yourself back on track. He has had the same thoughts as you that even with all that he has eaten he still should not have gained like he has. I can only think that it is because it is kindof a shock to our bodies or something since it has been so long without it. LOL he has no period to blame it on though. At least you have that! I am sorry if my thoughts are jumbled. Call if pregnancy brain if you want. I can not keep a thought strait in my head to save my life. You have kids at least you might now what I mean. I just wanted to let you know you are so not alone. I do read a little more on the pregnancy board here on OH and ALL the women on there have gone through the same thing. Pregnant or not. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. It is just a matter of people admitting it. Point being we may have had surgery but we are all still human and none of us are perfect. You realized you were not doing what was healthy for you and you changed it. I think that is a better way..for me at least..to look at it is that I have to do what is the most healthy for me to be there for a long life for my little guy. So maybe look at it that way. You want to be healthy for you and your kids. You are such a great woman and if there is anything that I can do to support you please let me know. Give yourself hugs from NJ and don;t make me come have to beat you up with Tabby. Even though it would be a ton of fun and we would all be able to just get together and have a great time. Just wait 8 weeks so I can have a drink out there with you all. I am not much of a drinker but you take away the ability to even have a sip of wine and that will make you want one more than ever!!!! OK so after all of that again know you are not the only one and you have lots of hugs coming from NJ. And fro me that is double hugs. Trust me he is big enough to qualify as another person. I can not wait till he gets to come OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!! Take care, Melissa *and Jacob*

My Beautiful Melissa, You are just a wonderful person, inside and out... Ever since I first met you, you have touch my heart.. I told you that in the begining!! You are almost there.. Almost to the most wonderful day of your life.. You will never be the same.. I am so happy for you.. I am so glad I am not alone and some of us are struggling.. At least we can support each other and carry on one step at a time.. Right.. I love hugs from NJ. They feel especially warm and fuzzy!! Pregnancy brain?? boy do I have a story for you.. When I was prego with my 2nd son. I pulled up to the gas pump, put the gas thing in my tank, got back in my car while it was filling up, forgot it was in there, and started the car and pulled away, with the gas pump and everything in tow......... It was horrible.. I cried for days after that.. So I totally understand!! Thank you for all the support! I really appreciate it.. You will be on track after Jacob is born. Trust me.. You wont have time to eat at first.. And hubby will follow!! Please keep in touch! Luvs and Hugs! Tiff

I hope you're feeling better than you were, Tiff. Your crisis really does seem to be the norm for a year or so post-op. Good for you for taking control again. One thing I do is never tell myself that I will never eat such&such again. For me, that is just setting myself up for trouble. I have not had non-SF candy since surgery, but even before surgery, I wouldn't tell myself I'd never have chocolate again...just wouldn't have it for a long while...but would when I chose to. It's all a mind-game, I know, but it works for me! Let us know how you're doing. Lisa