Where do I begin??

The last 48 hours have been a complete nightmare!!! My son and Jen were married almost a month ago. I shared lots of wedding pics with you all. Anyway, my son works for McDonald's. McDonald's opened a new store in Irwin, PA....about 2 hours from Oil City where we live. They asked Dan to go and help train for the grand opening. So, he left last Wednesday night and came home at 8 am Sunday morning. He said he worked 48 hours in 3 days. While he was gone, my d-i-l, Jen, sent me a message on myspace and said that people were saying things about her and wanted to know what I thought she should do. I told her to ignore them. Well, on Saturday, I found out that people were saying that Jen cheated on Dan with some guy and that she was furnishing alchol to two 13 y/o girls!! I questioned Jen and she said, no everyone is lying and I don't know why. For some reason, I just didn't believe her, but I figured since she was my d-i-l, I would give her the benefit of the doubt. On Sunday, I went up to their house and Jen told me that Dan grabbed her ankle and bruised her. She failed to mention that it was because she tried to kick him in the private area. Most men do try to protect themselves. Anyway, she told me that Dan didn't believe her and thought that she really did cheat on him. I told her that he hadn't slept in over 24 hours and that he was probably just tired and to wait until he got some rest and then talk to him. Well, about 8 pm Sunday night, I tried to call Dan and no one answered so I called Jen's cell phone and she answered and I asked her if Dan was up and she said she didn't know because she left at 2 and she left Raven with him. She said that Raven was probably running all around her house! I asked her if she wanted me to go and check on her and she said, I don't care, if you want to. So, my husband and I went up to their trailer and the door was wide open, but thank goodness Dan and Raven were still asleep!! They woke up and Dan told us that Jen wouldn't talk to him about what was being said about her. And for some reason, all sorts of red flags starting going up -- why wouldn't she talk to him if she hadn't done anything??? She did tell me that the 13 y/o's helped themselves to the alochol and that she couldn't get them to stop! When I asked her why she didn't call their parents, she said they didn't want her to. So, I asked her why she didn't take them home and she said she didn't want to drink and drive, so I asked her why she didn't call me and hav eme come and get them and she said they didn't want her to. How much sense does that make???? Then I find out that she dipped Raven's pacifier into alcohol and gave it to her to shut her up! She is TWO YEARS OLD!! Then, I find out that she put Raven into her car seat and took the two 13 y/o's into her car and drove after drinking for 3 or 4 hours!!!!!!!!!! I also found out that one of the 13 y/o's walked in on Jen and some guy and caught them in bed together!!!! My son is so upset. He's filing for an anullment because they haven't been married long enough to get a divorce and he's filing for custody of Raven. Problem is, he can't get in to see an attorney until next week. Thank goodness he has Raven right now. Jen is throwing a fit and even called Dan's friend and threatened to kill them -- police were called. Strike one against Jen. Jen has called our house numerous times and last night her and her dad sat at the end of our street yelling (stuff I can't even mention on here!). Police were called. Strike two against Jen. One attorney my son talked to this morning said Dan has a good chance of getting custody if the girls will testify that she dipped the binky in alcohol and that the two complaints against her are filed with the police. What a mess?!?! Jen sent Dan an e-mail and said she doesn't love him like she used to. Why on earth did she marry him then?!?!?! My poor son. No mother wants to see her child go through anything like this -- it's just awful. Anyway, thanks for letting me vent. I don't even know if any of this makes sense. If you need me to clarify anything, just ask!!! I haven't been able to eat or sleep the last couple of days. I have one of the worst headaches I have ever had in my whole life!

OH NO...HOLLY!!!! How horrible. I'm so sorry that you and you family are going through this right now. How aweful. OMG, I hope that Dan can get custody of Raven. What a mess. Sounds like he has a great case against your DIL. It sucks that, if she didn't love him like she used to, she let you pay for a wedding. What a biatch!!!! No wonder you are having headaches and have lost your appetite. I'd be taking some Simply Sleep to get some rest. I can't even imagine what you are going through right now. Please keep us posted on what your son finds out. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. All my love, Tabby

Thanks Tabby. I thought that when Jen got pregnant we would never survive, and we did. I know we will survive through this -- it is without a doubt a living nightmare! Thanks for the advice on Simply Sleep -- I hate to take tylenol PM because it makes me feel like I am still drugged in the morning!! I promise to keep you posted and thanks for your thoughts and prayers!! Hugs, Holly

I am so sorry this is happening to your son and your family and to YOU. What a shocker. Take a deep breath and know that those of us on the board are supporting you and sending prayers your way.

Thank you so much! I knew I could come to my October buddies! I am still numb today. I did sleep better last night, but I had to take something to help me, but I knew I had to get some rest! I'm not eating right though and that kind of scares me. I had a 1/2 c of yogurt yesterday. My protein shake. My vitamins. 1/2 c of cereal and that was it. Thanks again for your prayers!

Holly honey, I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. I feel so bad for your son. The best thing for that baby is your son, you and your husband right now. The best advise I can give you after dealing w/ crazy people at the hospital everyday is to keep everything in a safe place. If she e-mails you or you son, make a copy and file it. If she calls you or your son, make a recording of it, but let her know that you're recording the converstation so there's no misunderstanding. The unfortunately, I wouldn't advise contacting social services, not that there's any reason to, they only make matters worse. Above all else, please take care of yourself. You won't be any good to the family if you get sick. Please keep up posted. Donna, sfy

Thanks Donna. I knew I could come here and vent my frustrations. The police were called again last night. So that makes 3 reports to the police. A neighbor of ours is a police officer and he said the mistake I made when I called last night was that all I said was that I wanted the phone calls to stop. He said the next time I need to tell the officer that I want her arrested. I'm sure there will be a nother call from her. My d-i-l followed my daughter to work this morning. My son and granddaughter are in a safe place. I know that, but I still worry about them. I am going to see them tonight. I've seen my son every day, but he doesn't bring RAven with him and I understand why. Thanks again and I promise to keep you all posted! Holly

What a nightmare!!! I think that it is a good thing it happened now and not years down the road. Hugs and smooches for you!

I'm glad it happened now, too, but I wish she would have made up her mind a month ago before actually going through with the marriage!! Thanks for the hugs and smooches!

Dear Holly: {{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}} I am praying for you and your family. This will be a hard thing to go through, but you must be there for your granddaughter and son. I agree that now is better than later. We are here for you. Dawn