I just can't believe it!

Good Morning everyone! I have a huge gripe to get off me shoulder. OK ,well in all the 7 months since my surgery I have never heard one negitive thing about my choice to have WLS. Yesturday someone told me that I cheated and took the easy way out. Let me tell you I was instantly MAD. This WLS has been the hardest thing I have ever done for myself. I work hard everyday to loose the pounds I have lost. I mean what do they think we do sit around and eat bon-bons all day and watch the weight melt off So people are so dumb, she would not even listen to my response. All she did was turn and walk away, while I stood there with my mouth on the floor. Has this happen to anyone else? If so how did you handle it? I am sure this is only the beginning. The more people notice I have lost weight ,I am sure the comments will keep coming, good and bad. Have a great day all

Hi Candy, I am so sorry you had to experience the ignorance of some people! I have had the same comment made about me by my sister-in-law. They just don't understand that the decision to have WLS was one of the hardest decisions we will ever have to make in our lives! It's a MAJOR LIFE CHANGE!! People who have never been heavy, don't understand what we have gone through in our lives....They are just plain ignorant and jealous!! That is probably why she walked away and wouldn't listen to your response! I think this is one of the reasons I don't tell alot of people that I had WLS.... Holly

Thank you for your response. We can only hope people will get a clue some day. This life change is rough road at time, but in the end it will all be worth it. ***HUGS*** Candy

I'm also sorry that you had to listen to that. I have heard it said many times, as I work in a hospital that does RNY surgery. We know this is not an easy choice - this is hard work. All we have done is to receive a tool to assist us in a life-threatening and life- diminishing situation. The rest is up to us! I haven't told many people that I had surgery. I try to let those kind of comments just roll off my back. I smile, say, "Sorry you feel that way. It is a lot of work after the surgery to lose the weight and to keep it off" - then I turn and walk away.

Yes I know this is a comment often heard and it is such a sad thing. For me this choice was one that took me years to make. I only made it when my PCP was so concerned I would have a stroke or heart attack from being so over weight and my sugars were getting WAY out of control. ***HUGS*** Candy

Hey Candy, First of all, big hugs! Sorry you had to deal with that. I've been there, done that with some people and understand why you got upset. Does that to me everytime too. Here are some other ?s I've heard that also either make me mad or make me shake my head and wonder why people are so stupid... 1. When are you going to be able to eat normally again? 2. Don't you miss being normal? 3. Are you going to have the surgery reversed when you reach your goal weight? 4. So, what did they do anyway? Oh....and you knew this before they did it? There are others but these really got to me... Susan

Hey Susan, I have heard all those questions as well. Some people are such "crack heads"...LOL Thanks for your support. ***HUGS*** Candy

I had a friend tell me that her family would never approve of her having the surgery because they beleive the only way to loose weight is by eating right and hard work (I received it in an e-mail and I didn't even respond not worth my time). She also stated her mom use to be a nurse and would people talk about patients that had the surgery and put them down for having it. You know it is like my boss told my, I really beleive surgery is a harder choice because without the surgery you can eat the wrong thing one day and just start over the next day with very little consciquences. With surgery you can eat the wrong thing and be really sick. She said your friend doesn't realize you made a harder choice because it is a life choice not a short term choice. You have to understand my friend was a size 3 6 years ago and now a size 18. I love her to death. Unfortunately since the first of the year she doesn't respond to my e-mails very often or return phone calls. It is hard because I have known her for 16 years. I have just learned let things roll of my back and move on with my life because I am happy again. I was never very happy being fat.

First off....Welcome to our board!!!! Sorry I haven't been around much lately to respond to your post and introduce myself . By the way you are doing a great job with yourself!!! Yes Candy, I have had many strange comments from people that I work with. They said before surgery that I didn't need it...I wasn't that much over weight or they would try to tell me stories about this person or that person that they knew that had such a hard time after they had surgery and that I would regret having it done!!! I would tell them that they aren't the one living in this body and they don't have know idea how miserable I was!!! Then I would have to tell them how much I weighed and then they didn't believe me!? After I had the surgery everyone was like...you are really looking good!!! The same ones that would say I didn't need it in the beginning . Now I have people telling me that I should stop losing because I look great the way I am. People confuse me!!! That really ticks me off when they say that because now I have to tell them how much I weigh (again!!!) and let them know that I am still considered overweight!!! I really give up with people these days. They make it their business to know everything...sometimes I feel like saying "You jealous???" But I am not like that!!! Then I have the questions of "well, how much more do you want to lose?" I would like to lose at least another 20 lbs. I will be happy if I don't and happier if I do. I am satisfied with myself now. I just wish people would mind their own business and leave me alone. I am sure you feel the same way so I really don't have to keep going on like this....lol I can be pretty long winded sometimes Lisa S