Girls im going nuts.
I have told my me realize hubby that im leaving him , my trip to mexico has made me undertand that i should live alone with my kids. I also told my nt stand her mom i cant stand her attitud ... i guess being hurt so many times makes you open up and say what you have bottled up for years....Pleasa help...
The WLS is not only a way of finding our skinny selves but it is a journey into finding out who we really are. In order to work on what needs to be fixed we really have to reflect on what made us fat to begin with. We have a tool that will help us lose weight but over time that can be destroyed if we don't try to fix our issues.
I am sure that you have done lots of soul searching during this time and that may have led you in this direction. Be true to yourself and you will be happy.
Take care,
Tara
I am sorry, I didn't mean to imply that the reason that you are feeling this way, is the WLS but rather that we chose weight loss surgery because we are ready to take control of our lives. We are ready for the changes that are associated with losing the weight because we are mentally stronger now, more than ever.
It takes a brave person to be ready to face who we really are and to own those feelings.
Take care,
Tara
I completely understand where you are coming from Maria!!! I am feeling the same way!!! Next Saturday is my 6 year anniversary with my husband. We have been together for a total of 7 years. For the past 4 years I have been competely miserable in the marriage. Everyday I keep thinking of leaving. I know that I have it better now than I ever have had it in my life because I have a man that works and is a good provider but it stops there. He doesn't help much around the house, only makes messes for me to clean up. He doesn't stay on the yard work and keep things nice and clean on the outside of the house. He has remodeled my kids bathroom but after a year there is still little things that haven't been finished or did something wrong and hasn't fixed it. He also remodeled the living room and left a few things in there that wasn't finished as well. The kitchen needs to redone he hasn't done that yet. The outside of the house needs a new roof and painted or siding put on....that hasn't been done. I know that our money can be tight sometimes but it wouldn't be if he wouldn't spend money on computer stuff. He thinks that when he is off from work all he needs to do is sit in front of his computer and chat with friends. I clearly give up. I want this stuff done around here because even though I love my house I am sooo ready to put it on the market and split the rest with him and move on with my life. A person like him doesn't deserve owning a home if you aren't going to keep it up. That is why we bought this house....so we could fix it up and make it our own. We have sooo many issues about my kids. He has never had kids and doesn't know how to interact with them.
I really wish you the best of luck hun....I know what you are going through and if you ever need to talk please let me know. I think alot of us after having this surgery ends up feeling different about ourselves and in the end the marriage suffers. The surgery for me was a way for me to get my new life rolling. I knew that the insurance that my husband had would pay for it. That was my first step of deciding to end this marriage. I now am in step 2....I have been looking for a place to live that will allow me to take my dog with me. Not many places around here locally will allow pets. Places that you can take pets cost more....which leads me to step 3, job hunting. I need better wages and health insurance because I am not going to get either of those working for Wal-Mart. I am waiting to see if my son will graduate here in a few months and see if he gets a better paying job than what he has a Burger King. My brother has told him that as soon as he graduates he will get him a job where he works which will be great money. My kids are basically grown now. Chris is 20 and Joey is 18. It is time that I think we can pitch in together and start our own life as a family alone. Of course my oldest has alot of criminal charges pending against him which I hope will be thrown out of court.
Life is getting better for me since I am feeling sooo much better mentally and physically. I know you are battling the same feelings. We both need to feel better emotionally and if ending the marriage is what it will take then we have to go for it. Good luck...I am just going to have to wait my out a little longer.
Lisa S
Hi Lisa,
Well its seems the same way , mu hubby does the same thing hes just a couch potatoe and dosent wanna help with the kids , he showes love for the baby and dosent wanna take care of the older one at all .And the other thing is my mom shes money hungry and that has to end im not about to kill myself working for someone else.
Thanks maria
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