Someone actually said...

"Wow you look great. You have lost a ton of weight and you should stop now!" She actually said that I have lost enough and that I shouldn't lose anymore. How dumb! She was probably a little jealous because she is bigger than me now. I am still obese. I haven't even hit "normal" yet. I would at least like to hit normal. I feel that I still have 50 more to lose. I smiled and played stupid as this person is basically a stranger that I work with about once a month. Just thought that I would share. Tara

I get the "when are you going to stop?" question a lot too, and I am stil obese, not even close to normal with about 75lbs left to go. I guess they just don't understand. I think they mean it as a compliment? Feeel sorry for them, and feel great about yourself! Keep on loosing!!!

Oh I can so relate to that....Just last week my mom said to me that I better stop losing weight. I said mom...I am still 250 pounds and need to lose 50-75 pounds if not more!!! She said well you look thin enough!!! Yeah right mom...LOL You just keep doing well and then when you hit the goal then worry what others say to you...LOL You look great!!!! Bet you feel so much better too!!!! Hugs Judy

Oh, I so agree with you guys. happens all the time at my work too. They call me Skinny Minni.. or Bones it is almost embarrassing.. What are you going to say to that?? I always say not quite yet.. and laugh. I think they mean it as a complement. But good for Tara!!! It is nice to have someone that you dont really know notice.. Cuz they dont have to say anything.. But they do.. and it feels good!! Great Job!! Luvs and Hugs! Tiff

I hate it when people say you should stop. I actually had a coworker tell me this week that he saw a picture of me on my profile and he thought that I looked sickly in it. Like I had lost too much weight. NOT!!! I'm still "overweight" and have 20 lbs to get to my goal. I have several people who have asked me if I am afraid of losing too much and not being able to stop losing. I'm not in the least bit. I wouldn't get too upset about people telling you that. Maybe you should take it as a compliment. I am now 184 and our office cleaning lady told someone that I told her I was 185 and she would swear I weigh more like 150. That made me feel good. Keep up the great work. Hugs, Tabby

Look around you. Most people are obese these days. I don't think the average person would recognize a healthy weight. I am also receiving the same comments. I really dislike being called skinny or skinny minnie. I do as the others... smile, guffaw, and keep on going. I tell people that my weight will level off when it is ready.

I know the feeling Tara....I have a lady at work that has told me the same thing a few times. I think the last time she said that I shouldn't lose anymore weight I pretty much shut her up for a while because she hasn't said anything else for a while now. I finally told her that my body will decide when it has reached the amount of where I should be. She acted like she didn't like my comment but I have really no control over how far I will go down. It has been my understanding that our body knows when to stop although I have heard of some cases on this site that people start getting scared because they know they are losing too much. I really don't think this will ever be the case with me. I probably am eating more than I should but that is because I do not want to lose too much to fast. Yesterday I was at 189!!! That is 75 lbs gone. I have not weighed today....I could be back to 191...who knows....but I did enjoy seeing the underside of 190 for a change Best of luck and don't let people discourage you from going as low as you feel comfortable with!!! Lisa S

Thanks Guys! Lot's of good advice. There are so many people out there who think they know what is best for our health. You are all so great. Tara

Hey Tara!! I know what you are talking about! Every time I go visit the hospital where I worked, I get comments like that from people I hardly knew when I worked there. My real friends don't say those things, they support me and tell me how wonderful I look. As someone else pointed out, it's jealousy prompting people to say these hurtful things to us. It did hurt my feelings terribly at first, and then I decided that it was their problem, not mine. So, I usually respond with a joke and a laugh and move on to another topic of conversation....IF I have to keep talking with them. Most of the time, I will find a reason to walk away soon after....and let me tell you, I turn on the walk too so they can enjoy the view from the backside!!! I figure, I worked hard and I'm going to show it off - especially to someone who would DARE say something nasty to me - just because I decided to take charge of my health and do something good for me! Hope you feel better about it all today. You've worked hard to get where you are. It's up to you and your doctor to decide when you have lost enough weight. No one else's opinion counts! Take care sweetie!! Susan